tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post1296165432310915504..comments2024-03-26T06:17:49.527-07:00Comments on Had Enough Therapy?: Diversity Run AmokStuart Schneidermanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12784043736879991769noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-13593418276551907002017-11-10T04:56:17.081-08:002017-11-10T04:56:17.081-08:00"Trying to understand what is behind others&#..."Trying to understand what is behind others' potential asshole behavior seems preferable to quickly reacting with overt aggression, and it makes it easier to accept and work with the same qualities in myself."<br /><br />Your Mom must be very proud.trigger warninghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06310637474428322994noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-89267231820910755282017-11-09T16:43:32.507-08:002017-11-09T16:43:32.507-08:00trigger warning said... Thanks for the psychoanaly...trigger warning said... Thanks for the psychoanalysis! <br /><br />Certainly the reality of psychological projection does make things tricky, so anything I can imagine I see in someone else is also in me. Trying to understand what is behind others' potential asshole behavior seems preferable to quickly reacting with overt aggression, and it makes it easier to accept and work with the same qualities in myself.<br /><br />I'd call this more a Jungian archetype/instinct approach than the Freudian drive/instinct approach, but in both cases moving from unconscious reaction to self-aware choice, which is the only place responsibility can really be expected. I think Starhawk and the wider Neopagan movement also look at things more from Jung.Ares Olympushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09726811306826601686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-89642255417405284542017-11-09T11:17:36.029-08:002017-11-09T11:17:36.029-08:00AO: "But that attitude is also often equivale...AO: "But that attitude is also often equivalent to "being an asshole", a defense mechanism to stay in denial of your own sometimes unnecessary harm and disrespect to the world around you. "<br /><br /><br />Thanks for the psychonalysis! :-D<br /><br />"Fascination with the psychic - or the psychological - can be a dangerous sidetrack on any spiritual path.”<br />--- Starhawktrigger warninghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06310637474428322994noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-57687857097143007922017-11-09T09:32:03.191-08:002017-11-09T09:32:03.191-08:00Microaggressions are, by definition, one-millionth...Microaggressions are, by definition, one-millionth of an "aggression". Life ain't fair. Into each life some rain must fall. Get past it. Sam L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/00996809377798862214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-7664630789595049172017-11-09T09:21:21.421-08:002017-11-09T09:21:21.421-08:00TW, Sure. But that attitude is also often equivale...TW, Sure. But that attitude is also often equivalent to "being an asshole", a defense mechanism to stay in denial of your own sometimes unnecessary harm and disrespect to the world around you. <br /><br />It's an empowering place of individual freedom if autonomy if your only goal, but you don't have anywhere to go from there. It's just a wall that says "Everything I don't care about at this moment is your problem".<br /><br />Jonathan Haidt's summary about microaggressions is certainly excellent, seeing from the perspectives of Honor Culture, Dignity Culture, and Victimhood Culture.<br />http://righteousmind.com/where-microaggressions-really-come-from<br />Ares Olympushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09726811306826601686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-82994664071681577072017-11-09T06:58:28.626-08:002017-11-09T06:58:28.626-08:00Frankly, my dear, no one need give a damn about yo...Frankly, my dear, no one need give a damn about your sensitivity. Buy a teddy bear.<br /><br />The tyranny of the thin-skinned is close enough to Hell to initiate a sulfur dioxide smog watch.trigger warninghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06310637474428322994noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-32930929715459177242017-11-09T05:22:47.525-08:002017-11-09T05:22:47.525-08:00Confederacy war memorials are not about "micr...Confederacy war memorials are not about "microaggressions". Microaggresions are actions by people that intentionally or unintentionally make other people feel back about themselves. <br /><br />These memorials are physical objects that attempt to bring glory to a past that was shameful. It's easy enough to say that taking down confederacy memorials won't change the past, and won't change people's feelings about themselves in the present. But its not our job to prejudge whether anyone benefits by denouncing slavery of the past by taking down memorials. Its our job to judge whether those memorials are accurate and helpful reminders of the past. <br /><br />If my grandfather murdered your grandfather, you may legitimately consider it insensitive of me to have a statue of my grandfather's exploits in my front yard. If your brother says "It doesn't bother me", that doesn't give me the right to denounce your sensitivity is wrong, and say only your brother's opinion matters, because it agrees with me.<br />Ares Olympushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09726811306826601686noreply@blogger.com