tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post1451540027295370039..comments2024-03-18T08:02:51.154-07:00Comments on Had Enough Therapy?: HousehusbandryStuart Schneidermanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12784043736879991769noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-13444450936000860262014-11-12T17:01:06.976-08:002014-11-12T17:01:06.976-08:00re: Perhaps more astonishing is Miller’s failure t...re: Perhaps more astonishing is Miller’s failure to ask more salient questions. Given her feminist perspective, she cannot bring herself to ask what women really want or even what is best for the family as a whole. She wants merely to ensure that more women do more work outside the home. The rest is not her concern.<br /><br />Does Claire Cain Miller considers her journalism as containing a feminist perspective?<br /><br />I'm more interested in the whole wide question of paid maternity or paternity leave. I remember the first CEO at the company I work for used to joke something like that hiring a new woman meant she would be pregnant within the year.<br /><br />I work for is an engineering company, and more men are engineers and most support staff is women, so its much easier to take leave from a support position, and if she has no career ambitions, then promotion isn't an issue.<br /><br />I'd imagine in general, people who are paid hourly are there for the money, and professionals on salary have to show a different level of loyalty to gain the promotions they want, so are less likely to take full opportunities for parental leave, whether a man or a woman.<br /><br />The article talks about "stigma" but I don't think that's quite right. It more seems to me to be a question of choice - people who are willing to accept smaller bonuses, promotions will take parental leave, and those who want to maximize their income will say no, and gain the advantages.<br /><br />So for me the problem is how do we make a 'parental leave penality' more transparent? If "feminists" says there should be no status or income penality, then they are wrong at that level.<br /><br />But seeing the world from the edge of a professional career, even with no children, I see endless problems, its hard to say no to anything, and many salaried workers are at least at work 12 hours/day, and weekends, and if you get used to that before you have kids, even ignoring parental leave, trying to be disciplined with setting firm limits on work time is very challenging.<br /><br />So if "stigma" is real, then you could say FORCING high achievers off the job would do them good, and take some pressure off the rest of us to keep up with them?<br /><br />But maybe it's easier to just learn how to say "no" when your commitment to family requires it and live and let live with those who will never slack off no matter how many laws tell them to take a rest.Ares Olympushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09726811306826601686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-58850161392714356792014-11-12T13:37:46.661-08:002014-11-12T13:37:46.661-08:00Analyzing a situation from a particular POV tends ...Analyzing a situation from a particular POV tends to produce a solution/explanation along that POV.Sam L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/00996809377798862214noreply@blogger.com