tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post217149280164267951..comments2024-03-26T06:17:49.527-07:00Comments on Had Enough Therapy?: A Theory of UnhappinessStuart Schneidermanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12784043736879991769noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-2940929356666773612011-09-18T01:54:59.959-07:002011-09-18T01:54:59.959-07:00This can't work in fact, that is exactly what ...This can't work in fact, that is exactly what I consider.tiendas eroticashttp://sexshoptienda.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-25001774026331463152011-05-28T04:42:09.892-07:002011-05-28T04:42:09.892-07:00I am not in complete agreement with your point her...I am not in complete agreement with your point here. Normally, I think it best for women not to undertake such repair and reclamation projects with men. Most men resent it when women try to change them. It makes them feel like they have been chosen because they need help... which is demeaning.<br /><br />Even in those cases where women do succeed in changing men for the better, very often the man will take his new-found good qualities to some other women.<br /><br />Women who change men for the better most often end up losing the men.<br /><br />Not because of ingratitude, but because the woman who has changed them also remembers how they were before, and, can always play that card to keep them in their place.<br /><br />Also, if a woman wants to change a man for the better, what happens to her feelings for him when she succeeds? Where does she place her emotional investment when the work has been done?<br /><br />Those are a few quick thoughts on the topic. Thank you for raising the question.Stuart Schneidermanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12784043736879991769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-23137594370833144212011-05-27T18:20:13.877-07:002011-05-27T18:20:13.877-07:00I may have oversimplified just a bit. You forget, ...I may have oversimplified just a bit. You forget, though, that men and women approach relationships from a very different perspective: women, generally, are often looking for a man that can be improved in some way. Men, on the other hand, are looking for someone who'll stay the same. Thus, a happy woman now will hopefully be a happy woman in twenty years. Whereas a man who displays a certain degree of unhappiness is a man who needs a change. Quite possibly of the female variety.<br /><br />There is more, of course; a man who looks intense is demonstrating focus and determination. He looks like a leader, and like someone who can get things done. Also very attractive qualities.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-29371939920629598332011-05-27T07:51:17.062-07:002011-05-27T07:51:17.062-07:00I wonder about this idea of happiness, too. I am i...I wonder about this idea of happiness, too. I am intrigued by the idea that when a woman sees a happy man she thinks that he is happily married. If this is true why would it be that a man would find a happy women attractive... wouldn't her happiness be a sign that she is happily married?<br /><br />As David says, it is strange to associate happiness with a big smile. Perhaps a woman's smile is more inviting to a man while a man's smile denotes goofiness to a woman. It seems that women are attracted to strength and pride in men... which are not at all signs of neediness... but which are not expressed with a goofy grin.Stuart Schneidermanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12784043736879991769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-47403223280742066252011-05-25T18:30:25.997-07:002011-05-25T18:30:25.997-07:00I think it's a big leap from smiling/not-smili...I think it's a big leap from smiling/not-smiling to happy/unhappy.David Fosterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15464681514800720063noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-1448190015418353272011-05-25T17:37:11.343-07:002011-05-25T17:37:11.343-07:00Worse yet, for this theory, is the new research su...<i>Worse yet, for this theory, is the new research suggesting that women find happy-looking men less attractive than men who have pride and power.<br /><br />But then, the inverse is not true. Men find happy-looking women to be more attractive than women who are proud and confident.</i><br /><br />It's quite simple, really: From a female perspective, a happy man is unlikely to be available. Men who are genuinely happy tend to both be in relationships and be unlikely to stray. If nothing else, they don't appear to need anything. <br /><br />An unhappy man, on the other hand, is a man who needs something. Or someone. Thus, he is available and attractive.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com