tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post3389824170744081221..comments2024-03-26T06:17:49.527-07:00Comments on Had Enough Therapy?: Shunned and ConfusedStuart Schneidermanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12784043736879991769noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-73523191838930186702017-07-21T04:58:32.047-07:002017-07-21T04:58:32.047-07:00It's obvious were this woman's behavior is...It's obvious were this woman's behavior is headed:<br />http://worldnewsdailyreport.com/woman-arrested-for-training-squirrels-to-attack-her-ex-boyfriend/<br />Jameshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13642228725661059539noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-70967345874694024422017-07-20T22:19:07.286-07:002017-07-20T22:19:07.286-07:00As an occasional visitor, I'll jump in gratuit...As an occasional visitor, I'll jump in gratuitously to say I agree with Ares, almost straight down the line. On the evidence presented here, the Boyfriend Theory seems a jumped-to conclusion. And besides, if she's happy with him, it ought to be irrelevant what these sometime-friends think (barring their knowledge of his secret criminal record). That part aside, if she's really hurt and curious, she ought to ask one of them instead of a columnist but the answer might be as simple as she's outgrown this group (or the other way around). That happens in life. There are situational friendships; people who once upon a time shared interests move on in different directions and no longer share them--which might be why they no longer comment on her posts. Seems like she needs to accept that Done is Done and find another group of friends.Waltnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-77770691947009495332017-07-20T21:17:58.547-07:002017-07-20T21:17:58.547-07:00I wouldn't guess that her boyfriend of 2-years...I wouldn't guess that her boyfriend of 2-years is the problem, but perhaps I'm more a scientist-type, not wanting to make any assumptions. Could that hypothesis be tested?<br /><br />And scientists also like direct questions. Asking an open ended question "Is there a problem here?" with perhaps her closest friend of the bunch might help. But if that friend plays dumb, then you're left with pointing out circumstantial evidence, which can easily be denied, and make you look paranoid.<br /><br />If we accept Stuart's hypothesis, she could also "go fishing", perhaps starting with a closest friend in the group, that is try to imagine what her friends might not like about him, and imagine herself what traits might be problematic, and just happen to mention one or two of those and see what response is offered. <br /><br />Or even better, she might try this with family members who would be outside of her friend's potential hidden gossip circle.<br /><br />A while back Stuart shared the topic of "external awareness", about knowing how we're seen by others objectively, while this is always a hard thing since people would prefer to not say uncomfortable things directly. So the advice was you have to find "loving critics" who will tell you what they see because they want the best for you.<br />Ares Olympushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09726811306826601686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-58904387349948407292017-07-20T12:29:25.508-07:002017-07-20T12:29:25.508-07:00Or her bicycle.Or her bicycle.trigger warninghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06310637474428322994noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-73172636512437978752017-07-20T11:10:58.046-07:002017-07-20T11:10:58.046-07:00Could be a woman she's marrying.Could be a woman she's marrying.Sam L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/00996809377798862214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-7562232423498127512017-07-20T09:00:09.615-07:002017-07-20T09:00:09.615-07:00One of her friends is getting married.One of her friends is getting married.Stuart Schneidermanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12784043736879991769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-24328417062757948252017-07-20T08:58:18.229-07:002017-07-20T08:58:18.229-07:00I note the absence of any mention of the other wom...I note the absence of any mention of the other women's boyfriends/husbands. Perhaps they all don't like men?Sam L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/00996809377798862214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-25776470577989085432017-07-20T06:15:12.108-07:002017-07-20T06:15:12.108-07:00This a powerful argument for more womyn in STEM. A...This a powerful argument for more womyn in STEM. A "scientist" who is distraught over submeticulous "likes" on Facebook and pours out her heart to Ask Polly.trigger warninghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06310637474428322994noreply@blogger.com