tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post3994601462872429369..comments2024-03-26T06:17:49.527-07:00Comments on Had Enough Therapy?: More Than Fifty Shades of GreyStuart Schneidermanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12784043736879991769noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-28491743459551590902015-02-17T08:25:13.932-08:002015-02-17T08:25:13.932-08:00When sexual mores and taboos become defunct, peopl...When sexual mores and taboos become defunct, people need stronger stuff to be aroused. <br /><br />So now it's S&M. <br /><br />There was a time when just a nudie photo was arousing(like in Brighton Beach Memoirs). But that is so passe as even TV shows for young people(like Girls) would have been X-rated in the 70s. And there is porn all over the internet. <br /><br />In some ways, our society is outwardly cleaner than before. Seedy and porny parts of NY(seen in Taxi Driver)have been cleaned up. Many big cities have been spruced up and gentrified. They look more respectable than in the 70s.<br /><br />Yet our pop culture has been made cruder and dirtier. <br /><br />Maybe since we can have so much smut in our own homes--without going to shops and theaters--, obscenity has been moved from the streets to online/pop-cultural sphere. <br /><br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-4245669522668656172015-02-16T11:52:53.793-08:002015-02-16T11:52:53.793-08:00I had to look up BDSM. I had heard of S&M befo...I had to look up BDSM. I had heard of S&M before.<br />http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/BDSM<br /><br />Is that what 50 shades of grey is about?<br /><br />I never had a problem with envying the players, but the whole beer and anonymous sex world never interested me. I do remember a friend telling me his first sexual encounter as a High school senior was drunk at a party from another school and he couldn't even remember who the girl was.<br /> <br />Now my friend has a nearly adult daughter, turned 18, and she has been going to "Furry conventions" for a couple years and sports a fox tail when she wants to show off, although as best I know she's still a virgin and its just for fun!? Maybe all the sex is in the animalistic artwork?<br />http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Furry_convention<br /><br />I just have no basis to judge any of it. I'm glad I'm not a dad. Maybe I'd have to give a perfunctory speech about the sly men out there who will lie and abuse young innocent women, so she'll rebel and fall for such a man?<br /><br />The problem I see is to accept humans are both "animals" and "more than animals" and so whatever we are that is more than animals means we have to have some understanding and mastery of our animalistic "instincts", something deeper than "That's sinful" which only works until it doesn't.<br /><br />I guess my only "exposure" to 50-shades of grey goes to Jean Auel's fantasies of prehistoric sex, back in Eden before humans knew sex causes babies and women were just required to submit to men of the clan. Or that was the uncivilized neanderthals I guess. Better sex comes later, but I got bored and never read the rest.<br />http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Clan_of_the_Cave_Bear<br /><br />Anyway, all we really know is the sexual revolution only existed because of birth control, so birth control must be immoral, even if it might allow Cathlics to marry at age 20 without having 14 years like our ancestors.<br /><br />I did hear years after my grandmother's death that a 4th child was illegally aborted in the early 1930's, while my grand parents still had 4 more kids later on. It is nice to have lots of aunts and uncles and cousins.<br /><br />I do wonder how many kids they would have had if they had dependable birth control? <br /><br />It is sort of curious, sex for pleasure must be sinful, and sex is pleasurable because of our "selfish genes" that want to propagate, so if we listened to our better senses, perhaps most of us would not bother having kids? And so birth control does now allow voluntary childless couples to skip God's commandment to be fruitful and multiply, and never ever spill your seeds.<br /><br />But the point of this blog topic was supposed to show how terrible it is for women to have a choice to have sex without consequences, and become old maids for waiting too long before having children, so they have to write naughty romance novels to rationalize their bad choices when they were young? <br /><br />Anyway, I'm still stuck, and I just can't feel confident to offer advice to women.<br /><br />If only we were progessive like the Saudi's and disallowed women the right to drive because they might get raped?<br />http://www.moroccoworldnews.com/2015/02/151796/saudi-historian-says-driving-poses-rape-threat-to-female-drivers/<br /><br />No, I guess that's not great reasoning.<br /><br />Anyway, I suppose no matter what society is actually doing, someone is going to make money writing naughty books for women to have so they can be happily disappointed in their men.<br />Ares Olympushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09726811306826601686noreply@blogger.com