tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post4225737572073322618..comments2024-03-26T06:17:49.527-07:00Comments on Had Enough Therapy?: Your Marriage on PornStuart Schneidermanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12784043736879991769noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-28766591268589116982016-10-17T06:07:54.940-07:002016-10-17T06:07:54.940-07:00Ares said: "I admit I can't tell if most ...Ares said: "I admit I can't tell if most women are really so much more pure than men, and don't have fantasies about sex and power and pleasure, and instead see it as a spiritual experience or a communion with God's plan, or whatever sacred story. And I can imagine such women would see no value in porn, or books about sexual positions or techniques."<br /><br />Well, THIS woman actually does see value in books about positions and techniques. As for being more pure? Not so much. I know that porn is a show; not really significantly different than watching the Simpsons. Since it isn't real, it isn't interesting. Just that simple.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-81955569905309282282016-10-16T16:11:31.960-07:002016-10-16T16:11:31.960-07:00When I was younger I never watched porn because I ...When I was younger I never watched porn because I didn't want to be reminded about what I was missing in life. Now that I'm old I don't watch porn because I don't really care.sestamibinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-25059795826208050202016-10-16T14:17:10.128-07:002016-10-16T14:17:10.128-07:00Men like porn more than women. Could be. How man...Men like porn more than women. Could be. How many copies of "50 Shades of Gray" were sold? I would guess that men of other nations with internet connectivity and no porn filters watch about as much as men here.<br /><br />"If one is not a woman one feels constrained to respect women’s attitudes toward porn and prostitution." To which I MUST ask, WHICH women? The only one I would ask would be my wife, anyone else being extremely highly inappropriate. Besides, I doubt one could get a concensus. <br /><br />Sam L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/00996809377798862214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-67671564637963790792016-10-16T06:47:50.846-07:002016-10-16T06:47:50.846-07:00I supposed its a little interesting that wives wat...I supposed its a little interesting that wives watching porn is a bigger problem than husbands, but they say men are more visually oriented as well.<br /><br />I agree it seems like you need more details exactly what sort of porn is involved. And that goes back to the SCOTUS on definitions and saying "I know it when I see it" but that's not clearly true.<br /><br />Some people are uncomfortable with nude art or statues and would call those pornographic. And others may say Elvis's hip swivels were pornographic for partly simulating the sexual act, even completely clothed. And modern "dance" has far exceeded those mild moves.<br /><br />And now we have claims that even no-drama Obama is showing off his erections to unsuspecting female reporters, so perhaps a male erection that is not properly curtained by loose clothing might be pornographic? And for women, having erect nipples under a thin or tight top has the same effect.<br /><br />But probably when researchers are asking about porn, they're talking more about watching naked men and women having sex, or short fantasy stories as one or two ordinary looking clothed people move from regular life into sexual encounters in a matter of minutes. And I'd imagine since men's visual sexuality starts by oogling beautiful women, and so the fantasy is to see a man meet and seduce such a woman, or be seduced, or whatever combination. <br /><br />I mean those are the same fantasies that a boy like Donald Trump has, and may act on, that he can act out his fantasies on real women, and at least in fantasy he's not slapped or rejected.<br /><br />But if porn is about actually watching couples have sex, it seems like it would get boring very fast, and watching a woman with fake groans or pleasure probably causes problems in real life when men expect the will always have such an effect on women, or if women arae watching, it'll teach them how to moan in fake pleasure too. <br /><br />And in general you imagine couples might watch porn for ideas how to spruce up their love-making techniques, and perhaps it will help lower inhibitions, and encourage the woman to try more things than her ordinary good sense would follow. And there's a whole world of S&M and other fetishes to explore, and if you see another couple doing it, adeventurous couples may want to try too, as long as its all voluntary, and all participants feel free to say no at any point.<br /><br />I admit I can't tell if most women are really so much more pure than men, and don't have fantasies about sex and power and pleasure, and instead see it as a spiritual experience or a communion with God's plan, or whatever sacred story. And I can imagine such women would see no value in porn, or books about sexual positions or techniques.<br /><br />Or maybe men and women both sometimes see porn as just about masterbation, getting rid of that itch, so they can get back to work, and be productive adults? Ares Olympushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09726811306826601686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-79542073313987777192016-10-16T05:59:55.563-07:002016-10-16T05:59:55.563-07:00Thanks to Klansman/Justice Hugo Black, we are in t...Thanks to Klansman/Justice Hugo Black, we are in the midst of a giant, perhaps the largest in human history, uncontrolled behavioral experiment in human relations. Naturally, the Internet has brought porn into the ambit of every man, woman, and child with access to smartphone, a personal computer, or library card.<br /><br />A social psychologist at, I believe, the University of British Columbia attempted a controlled study of porn watching on college men, but couldn't find enough non-porn watching men to assemble a control group. There's a TED talk about if you care to look for it.<br /><br />Back in the day when I was actively involved in the technical development of advanced multimedia, I often joked that the future of consumer-grade holography was the porn industry.<br /><br />Despite the claims of porn lovers and defenders, I find absolutely no redeeming value in porn.<br /><br />If the SCOTUS applied the same reasoning to the 2nd Amendment as Black did to the 1st, I'd have a perfectly legal chain gun emplacment overlooking my property from one of the dormers, and I'd be carrying a fully automatic Uzi.<br /><br />Porn is poison. In a culture that constantly promotes magic food (coconut oil, kale, etc) and proclaims "you are <i>what</i> you eat", I find it amusing that the same rule is forgotten when it involves the consumption of intellectual fodder: you are <i>who </i> you read, watch, and listen to.<br /><br />The fact the Brian Williams sat and watched his daughter receiving simulated analingus on television tells any sane person how deeply into the sewer the "intellectual class" has fallen. Is it any wonder that observant moderate Muslims call America The Great Satan?Trigger Warningnoreply@blogger.com