tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post4623996217420655765..comments2024-03-26T06:17:49.527-07:00Comments on Had Enough Therapy?: Does a Woman's Success Damage Her Man's Pride?Stuart Schneidermanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12784043736879991769noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-55608249183570212292013-11-06T06:27:16.861-08:002013-11-06T06:27:16.861-08:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-71746158084269806002013-11-06T05:54:24.164-08:002013-11-06T05:54:24.164-08:00There was a time when I started believing a bit of...There was a time when I started believing a bit of the feminist drivel so I decided I would give my wife more help at home. We both worked and it seemed like the right thing to do. It was the worse two weeks of my life. I learned that women like respect for what they do, but the last thing they want is you to interfere in what they consider their bailiwick. If they ask for help give it, but otherwise stay out of it.<br />A man has a number of functions, skills, abilities et al to add to a marriage and it is not becoming a woman or acting a woman's part. One was born a man for a reason. I can see where the "kitchen bitches" comes from. It is not much different from what men label women who act out male responsibilities and start to lose that all important femininity.<br />I agree with Sam L that there should be no reason why one's wife's success should be a problem. My wife's success made it easier for me to set the conditions of my own success. There were a number of things I did not have to worry about. The problem comes when two people place more emphasis on their work life instead of their married life. What happens at work stays at work. Dennishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14962996070458991675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-58635256718014100282013-11-06T05:50:38.542-08:002013-11-06T05:50:38.542-08:00Thank you, David. I look forward to reading it.Thank you, David. I look forward to reading it.Stuart Schneidermanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12784043736879991769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-10122916113914578582013-11-06T05:24:45.084-08:002013-11-06T05:24:45.084-08:00Here's one Atlantic article by this awful woma...Here's one Atlantic article by this awful woman:<br /><br />http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2009/07/lets-call-the-whole-thing-off/307488/?single_page=true<br /><br />...in which she uses the "kitchen bitch" termDavid Fosterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15464681514800720063noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-88777465433654680042013-11-05T20:08:56.165-08:002013-11-05T20:08:56.165-08:00Can you imagine the outcry if a man ever publicly ...Can you imagine the outcry if a man ever publicly called his stay-at-home wife a "kitchen bitch" in a mainstream publication? That is a statement of pure contempt. Is this Atlantic writer's husband still married to this rotten woman? If yes, the monicker is true. How disgusting.<br /><br />If such talk among "successful" women is indeed normal, then women would seem at some level biologically wired to cruelly emasculate their husbands. If that's what they think of kitchen work, they would also look down on their own mothers and grandmothers, treating traditional female contributions to maintaining household as a pejorative. Modern society has become so materially decadent that we don't even recognize how to run an efficient household. It's easy to put down home economics when one doesn't even understand it. Good grief! If two people cannot mutually agree how they will arrange and support a family without all this nonsense, I fear women's stated fancy for equality and mutual respect is destined for doom in the lomg-term. Nobody, regardless of gender, wants to be demeaned.<br /><br />I also cannot help but attribute the "bitches" language to anything other than the mainstreaming of rap gangsta culture. The word used to have meaning as a forceful expletive. Now it is thrown around as a mainstream demeaning term. Hence, men can now be "bitches," and it's somehow funny. When I grew up, calling a woman a bitch was never funny... it was stated for effect and with intent. Now it is all too common.<br /><br />D-I-S-R-E-S-P-E-C-T<br /><br />Tip<br /><br />P.S.: I suppose a Democrat can say "kitchen bitch," because they "only made an insensitive attempt to be funny" or their remarks were "taken out of context." After all, it's the intention that matters, not the result.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-51599139722458536912013-11-05T18:58:24.120-08:002013-11-05T18:58:24.120-08:00There was an article in Atlantic recently in which...There was an article in Atlantic recently in which the author and some of her friends contemptuously referred to their stay-at-home husbands as their "kitchen bitches."(IIRC, they had *wanted* stay-at-home husbands)<br /><br />Perhaps some of the men who found their wives/girlfriends success to be threatening had encountered or heard of similar attitudes, and his influenced their reactions.David Fosterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15464681514800720063noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-42937780159031696512013-11-05T16:34:37.894-08:002013-11-05T16:34:37.894-08:00Answer: No. That is, if the man has achieved succ...Answer: No. That is, if the man has achieved success in his own way, and is confident of the value of his contribution. Most men aren't clear about what they value and what they're here for, so they compare themselves to their woman and the digits on her W-2. Sad, but true. <br /><br />TipAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-11777709024116722412013-11-05T11:27:50.002-08:002013-11-05T11:27:50.002-08:00I would think that a man, confident in himself, wo...I would think that a man, confident in himself, would have no problem with a wife doing well. Perhaps I'm a dreamer, or misinformed.Sam L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/00996809377798862214noreply@blogger.com