tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post6626450915514138682..comments2024-03-26T06:17:49.527-07:00Comments on Had Enough Therapy?: When You Reject Good AdviceStuart Schneidermanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12784043736879991769noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-59227333887801180702014-05-14T21:54:19.710-07:002014-05-14T21:54:19.710-07:00Definitely diligently read, also be a learning for...Definitely diligently read, also be a learning for us. whatever it is, there's nothing wrong if you try a good thing, that could increase knowledge for usObat Tradisional Untuk Anakhttp://www.obattradisionalanak.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-43895897617344299242013-04-02T07:53:25.125-07:002013-04-02T07:53:25.125-07:00Theodore Dalrymple speaks about this issue in thi...Theodore Dalrymple speaks about this issue in this article.<br /><br />http://www.newenglishreview.org/Theodore_Dalrymple/Heart_of_Darkness/Malcolmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05478747589100326721noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-57301987575397492222013-04-01T17:42:47.382-07:002013-04-01T17:42:47.382-07:00I'm nearly 40.
I never had a problem trusting...I'm nearly 40.<br /><br />I never had a problem trusting people. <br /><br />I just generally realized that they didn't really know what was going on and so they were somewhat unhelpful.<br /><br />Plus, they generally lived stable middle class lives, which I generally equated with "catastrophic life failure".<br /><br />Granted, I never did develop goals nor anything I wanted to achieve in life.JPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11126071014909954387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-8473928252934502382013-04-01T15:28:44.508-07:002013-04-01T15:28:44.508-07:00Oh my. From the comments here I would guess that n...Oh my. From the comments here I would guess that no one here is over the age of say 30?<br /><br />At age 50 I look back on (good) advice I was given that I did not follow, largely because I did not trust that the giver was looking out for my best interest. Anxiety naturally played a part in it. So did having formative experiences with people who really did not have a clue as JP has related.<br /><br />The best thing in hindsight I could have done would be to assess the advice giver's status in terms of my own goals and what I wished to achieve in life. Is this person someone whose life I see as desirable? Is this someone who has qualities I respect as a human being going forward, capable of growth? Capable of love?<br /><br />I all too quickly cast off advice because of false pride "self esteem" and fear of incompetence at having to rely on anyone other than my own enlightened self.<br /><br />"On the other hand if you see people as your friends, if you believe that they want what is best for you, you will be more likely to take advice."<br /><br />The above was never the framework of my early years due to many factors not the least of which was complete distrust of others. <br />KTnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-29830109337149146892013-04-01T13:24:15.071-07:002013-04-01T13:24:15.071-07:00Taking advice is also called
'not re-inventin...Taking advice is also called <br />'not re-inventing the wheel'. <br /><br />It actually leaves time to invent new things.<br />-shoeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-53819822555648734062013-04-01T11:57:34.935-07:002013-04-01T11:57:34.935-07:00"But some very, very, very intelligent people..."But some very, very, very intelligent people were taken in by the housing bubble. It's not clear that *intelligence* is the primary operative factor in this kind of comprehension. One has to be intelligent enough to read the reports and understand the basic math, of course, but after that it's probably largely about the courage to deviate from the herd."<br /><br />Then it was a failure to understand social dynamics and human, which is itself certainly a form of intelligence.<br /><br />For example, Issac Newton was clearly intelligent in his narrow domain, but was an absolute failure when it came to the social dynamics that drive speculative bubbles.<br /><br />At this point, I'm pretty much blind, financially speaking, because I haven't been able to find an analogy that applies to the current financial-debt dynamics.<br /><br />I haven't yet found anyone who seems to understand them, so it seems that we have entered a period of financial novelty.<br /><br />This doesn't mean that I'm going to randomly follow a herd; rather it means that I know that no one knows what they are talking about.<br /><br />I presume that it's easier to act against the herd when you grow up with the realization that it is likely that you are the only one who has the slightest idea what's really going on in various intellectual domains.<br /><br />Granted, you kind of don't get the entire socialization experience.<br /><br />However, if you want accuracy, sometimes anomie is the price of admission.JPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11126071014909954387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-6209540895557359792013-04-01T09:05:58.982-07:002013-04-01T09:05:58.982-07:00JP..."I generally ignored advice growing up b...JP..."I generally ignored advice growing up because it was clear that I was basically significantly more intelligent than everyone I knew, including my own family...For example, when I tried to explain to everyone that there was a major housing bubble about 2006, they thought that I was a moron and the feeling was mutual."<br /><br />But some very, very, very intelligent people were taken in by the housing bubble. It's not clear that *intelligence* is the primary operative factor in this kind of comprehension. One has to be intelligent enough to read the reports and understand the basic math, of course, but after that it's probably largely about the courage to deviate from the herd.<br />David Fosterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15464681514800720063noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-20554540923769001062013-04-01T08:37:41.007-07:002013-04-01T08:37:41.007-07:00Advice is easy to give and hard to follow.
Jesus ...Advice is easy to give and hard to follow.<br /><br />Jesus told his disciples: Cast not your pearls before swine, nor offer what is holy unto dogs. At best they will cast them down and trample upon your dignity. At worst they will tear you to pieces.<br /><br />And did Jesus take his own advice on this matter?<br /><br />A young man wrote an article many years ago, I forget the source. His father was always giving him advice. The son realized the meaning of the core message in his late twenties: If I were you I would be a better you than you are!<br /><br />A person who offers advice, and will shame you for being unable to follow that advice, is serving his or her own needs at your expense.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-90893879677793474232013-04-01T08:13:15.415-07:002013-04-01T08:13:15.415-07:00I generally ignored advice growing up because it w...I generally ignored advice growing up because it was clear that I was basically significantly more intelligent than everyone I knew, including my own family. For the most part, they were utterly useless to me.<br /><br />For example, when I tried to explain to everyone that there was a major housing bubble about 2006, they thought that I was a moron and the feeling was mutual.<br /><br />I don't trust people because chances are that they have no idea what is actually going on and I know that they aren't looking at any kind of historical patterns to make decisions and they have no idea how to see into the future at all because they don't understand the past.JPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11126071014909954387noreply@blogger.com