tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post8431737813148189490..comments2024-03-26T06:17:49.527-07:00Comments on Had Enough Therapy?: She Married a Useless SlugStuart Schneidermanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12784043736879991769noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-22204736086821146532018-12-11T15:20:49.124-08:002018-12-11T15:20:49.124-08:00There's an interesting book about this phenome...There's an interesting book about this phenomenon... called The Cult of the Virgin Mary, by Michael Carroll. It's a bit technical, but it describes the same family structures.Stuart Schneidermanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12784043736879991769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-81125614947854525732018-12-11T13:19:42.914-08:002018-12-11T13:19:42.914-08:00Actually, I have known families like this - most o...Actually, I have known families like this - most of them from the Mediterrean basin - which includes the Iberian Peninsula, Italy, Greece and the islands, and, of course the Arabic-influenced countries.<br /><br />In them, the man gets his status from his families' position. He feels himself unmanned if he works "like a peasant". He has no problem being supported by his parental family or his wife. This is backwards and crazy to Americans, but, I assure you, this is how those families work.<br /><br />His parents and siblings, even to the extended family, feel free to criticize his wife unrelentingly. He feels no obligation to defend her. He takes no responsibility for housework, child care, or cooking.<br /><br />In short, such 'men' are oversized babies, with none of the qualities that we think of as the essence of a Real Man.<br /><br />He will likely NEVER change. Leave him, and make a life for yourself without him dragging you down.Linda Foxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15024201252345608291noreply@blogger.com