tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post8756119670489788488..comments2024-03-26T06:17:49.527-07:00Comments on Had Enough Therapy?: The Downside of AngerStuart Schneidermanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12784043736879991769noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-87737644850061671372014-03-04T13:54:09.997-08:002014-03-04T13:54:09.997-08:00p.s. I'd say the fundamental downside of expre...p.s. I'd say the fundamental downside of expressing anger is if it enables self-deception. If something needs our attention and we misidentify, then anger won't be resolved.<br /><br />I was also thinking of the idea that resentment, anger, and contempt are described as different expressions based on status, like this good article:<br />http://www.sowhatireallymeant.com/articles/conflict/resentment/<br /><br />Resentment seems the trickiest form of anger because it is hidden, like passive-aggressive behavior, you can pretend things are good with people who have power over you, and take out your anger on those who you consider beneath you. And this dynamic is hidden unless you remember events carefully and connect the dots.<br /><br />Since the mind is very good at self-justification under anger, maybe the only way to see through it is to identify your own hypocrisy, when you see your standards of behavior change based on your perceptions of power in different circumstances.<br />Ares Olympushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09726811306826601686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-34683932996164701592014-03-04T13:21:06.164-08:002014-03-04T13:21:06.164-08:00I remember the story of the Japanese samurai warri...I remember the story of the Japanese samurai warrior, shows the virtue of self-discipline.<br /><br />When I first heard the story I thought it weakened the warrior everyone would know he would back down if his opponents could get him angry, but now I see, next time he gets spit in the face, he's already faced down that demon, and it won't be a problem in the next encounter.<br /><br />http://unknowingmind.blogspot.com/2006/07/story-of-wise-samurai.html<br />"A samurai warrior once was charged with avenging a noble's death at the hands of a rival warlord. He trained for four years, studied the warlord's habits, and planned his attack. When the day came, he stealthily approached the warlord when he was alone, and cornered him. The samurai held his katana aloft, poised to strike the final blow, when the warlord, utterly defeated, spit in the face of the samurai. The samurai sheathed his sword and walked away, rather than kill the warlord out of anger."Ares Olympushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09726811306826601686noreply@blogger.com