It’s an outright outrage.
A privileged white man of the patriarchal persuasion believes
that his position allows him to violate a woman’s personal space. And that he
can do it in public, in front of cameras, the better to show other men how it’s
done.
It’s an outrage that a privileged white man can do it when a
woman is defenseless, unable, for one reason or another to tell said man,
abusing hisr power and their privilege, to keep his hands to himself.
It is worse still when said privileged white man performs
his vulgar action in full view of said woman’s husband, asserting, for the
world, his ownership of said woman’s body.
In a time when the nation is up in arms about predatory
males taking sexual advantage of vulnerable women, one does well to ask where men learn such appalling
behaviors.
Where do men get the idea that it’s alright to put their
hands on a woman who clearly does not want to be touched by a stranger? Where
do they get the idea that it’s acceptable to whisper in the ear of someone else’s
wife when she is severely uncomfortable, but cannot say No?
Whatever happened to: Thou shalt not covet thy neighbor’s
wife….
Cue, the Vice President of the United States, Joseph Biden:
The Daily Beast described the scene:
For on
Tuesday, at the swearing in of Ashton Carter, the new defense secretary, the
vice president apparently couldn’t keep himself from pawing at Carter’s wife,
Stephanie. It was extremely odd, and creepy.
This
tactile cuckolding—Carter talks solemnly about being sworn is as the 25th
defense secretary as his wife has her shoulders rubbed by Biden right behind
him—was caught by the cameras.
It was
made all the more exquisitely awful by the look on Stephanie Carter’s face,
which was as much “Get your hands off me” as she could manage with the ranks of
media watching her.
The Washington Post noted
of her expression: “She certainly does not look happy. More like
annoyed.”
And
while the incident is being played as another “Oh Joe” moment, Stephanie
Carter’s expression is also piercing: Furious but frozen, it is the expression
of anyone being touched or groped who really, truly doesn’t want to be.
Biden
wasn’t done with just a shoulder rub. Then he whispered something in her ear,
or nuzzled it. What did he say? Was he simply asking if she was all right after
slipping on the ice earlier in the day?
Those who are up in arms about the way that men sexually
abuse and exploit women should denounce this grotesque public display of a
patriarchal man behaving very badly toward women.
Will they?
[Addendum: The Washington Examiner has unearthed some of Joe
Biden’s prior statements about sexual harassment.
It has found this:
“There
is no circumstance under which a man has a right to touch a woman without her
consent other than self-defense," Biden said in October 2000 in relation
to the Violence Against Women Act. "We are changing the attitudes of
America about what constitutes appropriate behavior on the part of a man with a
woman."
A few
years earlier, in May 1993, Biden said, "No man has a right to touch a
woman without her consent, and that's what we've got to get across."]
A Bill Clinton wannabe only sans the intelligence.
ReplyDeleteBet the feminists are going to be all up in arms about Biden's actions?
ReplyDeleteSomewhat inappropriate but i wouldn't make too much of this.
ReplyDeleteAnd it's nothing compared to Bush's shocker on Merkel.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eTQY1Aw9zcs
Don't people know not to let Joe get within six feet of them?
ReplyDeleteThanks Priss for the link to the Bush video-- as I see it, Bush was playing a joke--not a good one-- on Merkel. Biden's actions were more lewd... to my eyes.
ReplyDeletere: Where do men get the idea that it’s alright to put their hands on a woman who clearly does not want to be touched by a stranger? Where do they get the idea that it’s acceptable to whisper in the ear of someone else’s wife when she is severely uncomfortable, but cannot say No?
ReplyDeleteYes, apparently some American men are clueless and American women need to get assertive like German Women so American Men know when they're being an idiot.
But the "cannot say No" is troublesome. If you slap the VP in front of a camera, will that affect your husband's career?
Someone needs to be willing to test this.
Given the circumstances, and the power imbalance she was trapped. Note that her husband put his hand on her shoulder as soon as Biden removed his.
ReplyDeleteYes, looks tough for her if she was uncomfortable. I just watched the video (@1:25-1:50), and don't see any real opportunity for her to react, both her and Biden were focused on her husband's speaking, and Bidens hands were just resting on her shoulders for most of it.
ReplyDeleteAt the end he whispered something into her ear and then she smiled in response, but the whisper, putting his face in her hair makes it look more intimate than he probably intended. You can try to read her, but you can misread either way. She might have been fine, and looked otherwise, or was uncomfortable and completely covered it up.
If she did choose to react, it would be as easy to say she over-reacted.
So to me the only "good" reaction would be to privately (outside of cameras) discuss her discomfort later, and Biden could offer a apology.
Anyway, whatever her real reaction we can't see, the Media's reaction would seem to cause more problems than it solves. And the only "real" answer for dirty old men is to only act badly off camera.
Houston, we have a problem.
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