tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post1648455647498331669..comments2024-03-29T04:06:37.402-07:00Comments on Had Enough Therapy?: Don't ComplainStuart Schneidermanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12784043736879991769noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-46550415655683943652014-07-14T12:38:31.348-07:002014-07-14T12:38:31.348-07:00Rich, when I was in, we said, "you can't ...Rich, when I was in, we said, "you can't be really happy without something to gripe about".<br /><br />Still, constant griping and whining is something most of us do not want to be near.Sam L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/00996809377798862214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-88588689247896012612014-07-13T10:35:50.654-07:002014-07-13T10:35:50.654-07:00Tip,
This perfectly makes your points: http://www...Tip,<br /><br />This perfectly makes your points: http://www.aei-ideas.org/2014/05/another-example-of-a-misleading-incomplete-representation-of-facts-about-an-important-womens-issue/<br /><br />If one cannot blame their failures on someone or something then one may be forced to accept responsibility for their lack. To understand that almost everything that happens, both positive and negative is an opportunity to learn and improve oneself. Trying to avoid responsibility for one's life and the things that occur around them only means that they will keep facing that avoidance multiple times until it is actually addressed.<br />One can run away to the mountain, but that which one ran away will eventually find one's mountain with far more consequences. Nothing we face is passed our ability to heal with.Dennishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14962996070458991675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-4634413033753537392014-07-13T10:20:02.724-07:002014-07-13T10:20:02.724-07:00Being a victim confers unearned rights, status and...Being a victim confers unearned rights, status and privileges that are of tremendous value. Nothing stops traffic like "I'm offended." It's a source of great power, and requires no special training. Everyone's got a story.<br /><br />People generations removed from institutionalized discrimination go to Ivy League colleges and become agitators for social justice reforms. Ostensibly, this is to remedy injustice. Yet we all know it's never going to be enough -- the rage is directed to whoever or whatever the next cause or issue is. <br /><br />It's an industry. There's product development, manufacture, distribution, marketing and retailing. There's nothing unique about it whatsoever. Rage is a product, and lots of people are buying and selling. In fact, it's probably the most widely marketed product and service in America today. And the barriers to entry are surprisingly low. The only thing you need to sacrifice is your sense of responsibility, honesty and individual dignity, but those are outmoded things anyway. And you must promise you'll never look in the mirror again.<br /><br />We have product development and market research centers... they're called universities. Manufacturing is conducted by intellectuals, and dubious claims make the best product because no one checks the veracity of victimhood claims, anyway. Distribution is handled by activists and unions. Retailing is done by politicians, college students and non-working people (minimum wage laws don't apply). Consumers come in all shapes, sizes, colors and stripes; and there's always a next generation of consumers. The product is a simple, tidy and compelling: it's an excuse, a reason, a rationalization, an explanation for why bad things happen to you. The problem is other people. The solution is your rage. It's highly addictive. The marketing slogan is always the same: there are wealthy, shadowy elites out there who have rigged the game of life. They hate you, they hate your mom, they hate apple pie, they hate America.<br /><br />Being a victim commands enormous attention, absolves the person from any responsibility, justifies phony rage, makes the malcontent into a momentary celebrity, and allows the truly committed victim to a lifetime of paid advocacy on behalf of their aggrieved class... in perpetuity.<br /><br />People aren't dumb. They go where the privilege, money and status is for the least amount of work required. Being a victim fits the bill, and being a professional victim is a pretty good gig for an enterprising enabler. <br /><br />Follow the money. <br /><br />The only way out of this cultural insanity is to refuse to play the game. It's always astounding what happens to the bold, courageous, raging victim when he is challenged -- his position falls like a house of cards. Behind the eloquence, intelligence and posturing is someone very small. Talk back.<br /><br />TipAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-89830282910407066772014-07-13T06:33:04.479-07:002014-07-13T06:33:04.479-07:00As a Senior NCO, a long time ago, I would agree wi...As a Senior NCO, a long time ago, I would agree with Rich Lara. If the troops aren't complaining you know something is wrong. In most cases it is a matter of caring about what happens. Though I have to admit that I put a couple of the biggest whiners in charge of details mainly to give them a chance to learn to lead and also because they now became the person being complained about and to. Surprisingly, in every case where I did that I got a real hard worker who began to understand what it requires to be responsible.<br />Sadly, we seem to have created a society that looks, no needs, to take umbrage at anything said to them. The need to be a victim denote one of the biggest forms of insecurity along with the desire to attack others as in bulling.Dennishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14962996070458991675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-50331645649726892122014-07-12T21:00:34.918-07:002014-07-12T21:00:34.918-07:00%^)%^)Larry Sheldonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12653436584890594776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-58111044819579300412014-07-12T20:06:39.166-07:002014-07-12T20:06:39.166-07:00I am offended, Larry Sheldon. Stop your veiled att...I am offended, Larry Sheldon. Stop your veiled attacks on me, you vicious bully!<br /><br />TipAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-15454363464953513182014-07-12T17:08:07.599-07:002014-07-12T17:08:07.599-07:00There is an obverse to this--one that is at least ...There is an obverse to this--one that is at least as destructive, if not more so.<br /><br />Although I am a perennial victim of it, I have no idea what to call it.<br /><br />There are people who INTERPRET and react to every single thing said or written to them or about them AS IF it was a complaint (or worse).<br /><br />Nothing is safe.<br /><br />Larry Sheldonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12653436584890594776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-80563031672470012272014-07-12T13:17:26.372-07:002014-07-12T13:17:26.372-07:00Fully agree. Whiners are boring and deleterious.
...Fully agree. Whiners are boring and deleterious.<br /><br />One big exception. The enlisted military. Napoleon called his troops grounglers (sp!) - grumblers.<br /><br />In the 60s US Army, esp in VN, I was astonished by how much my fellow soldiers bitched and moaned. I thought, "What did you expect? Fun?"<br /><br />(The other surprise was how much they used "fuck" or its variants in practically every sentence. A guy noticed I didn't, and asked what's wrong w/me.)<br /><br />I later read it's a military maxim. Officers EXPECT soldiers to complain. It's letting off steam, a bonding ritual, a harmless cathartic (E.g., the LT in "Saving Private Ryan")<br /><br />It's when soldiers DON'T grumble officers worry. Quiet soldiers betoken loss of morale. In the worst case, Mutiny.<br /><br />Odd, but true. -- Rich Lara Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com