tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post178311947711792951..comments2024-03-26T06:17:49.527-07:00Comments on Had Enough Therapy?: He Will No Longer Recommend Talk TherapyStuart Schneidermanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12784043736879991769noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-76403211819026752412019-01-20T12:22:29.444-08:002019-01-20T12:22:29.444-08:00I appreciate Terry Brennan's willingness to re...I appreciate Terry Brennan's willingness to recognize there is a wide variation of quality of therapists out there, and that surely is a large part of the predicament here. Even if the APA did offer the best understandings and opinions of the masters of the field, there's nothing simple about masculinity and lower skilled therapists will carry their own ideologies and biases into their practices and can distort meanings in ways that can be at best unhelpful and could make things worse.<br /><br />When you bring your car in to be repaired, it is a mechanical problem, and the classes of failures are well known, solutions well known and can be taught. In contrast the problems of living don't look like that, and people don't have interchangeable parts that can be replaced.<br /><br />It almost makes more sense to me that pastors and priests act as therapists because their livelihood are already provided by the congregation, and they are not expected to have all the answers or know what's wrong or fix people. I'm sure many pastors also feel they are not up to the task of helping people, but at least they're free to admit this. They don't have to be like the therapists who have to pretend to be experts because it justifies how much they're getting paid.Ares Olympushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09726811306826601686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-37479009992769235852019-01-20T10:51:32.037-08:002019-01-20T10:51:32.037-08:00Taken correctly, this little incident provides per...Taken correctly, this little incident provides perfect clarity. Now, all you have to do when meeting with a therapist for the first time is ask them what they think of the new APA guidelines on masculinity. If they blabber on in equivocation, walk, quickly to the exit. You have what you need. Keep looking. If they stridently reject it without endlessly qualifying it, then there is the chance that the therapist is a master. A needle in a haystack. It's the touchstone I have been seeking for years. Bravo, APA, bravo.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-9451743963126364782019-01-20T05:46:24.243-08:002019-01-20T05:46:24.243-08:00https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=117&am...https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=117&v=x_HL0wiK4ZcAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-19487489737278243352019-01-19T08:21:56.509-08:002019-01-19T08:21:56.509-08:00About 25 years ago I, for some strange reason deci...About 25 years ago I, for some strange reason decided that maybe feminists had a point or two. So I tried to be more attentive to my wife. That only lasted about 5 days before I learned a valuable lesson. My wife and I suspect most women, just want the men in their lives to respect their contribution to the marriage, NOT to do or help unless specifically asked. As I have stated before it was the worst 5 days of my life. Never give any credence to anything a feminist has to say. Suffice it to say that my "toxic masculinity' has produced great joy in my life.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com