tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post1836944284048765345..comments2024-03-29T01:07:30.224-07:00Comments on Had Enough Therapy?: Her Boyfriend Is Going to DieStuart Schneidermanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12784043736879991769noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-18968857069117018012017-08-13T20:10:08.691-07:002017-08-13T20:10:08.691-07:00'Note that she is considering what is best for...'Note that she is considering what is best for her. What about her family, her friends and her future children?"<br /><br />Highly unfair. She is considering primarily what's best for her boyfriend in the time that he has left.<br /><br />I don't think 'what's best for her friends' should really enter into the equation at a comparable level, especially given the kind of people her friends seem to be.<br /><br />David Fosterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15464681514800720063noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-71641835191197477642017-08-13T12:03:41.522-07:002017-08-13T12:03:41.522-07:00However tragic and heartbreaking this scenario is,...However tragic and heartbreaking this scenario is, I'm comforted, knowing that some people have yet to succumb to the utilitarian hell our modern culture is striving to impose.trigger warninghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06310637474428322994noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-51708036610437363612017-08-13T10:52:21.483-07:002017-08-13T10:52:21.483-07:00This happens and it isn't a millennial thing. ...This happens and it isn't a millennial thing. Perhaps millennials are worse than previous generations though. These are presumably people in their early thirties and what is happening to the letter writer is way out of their comfort zone. Yet the friends try to 'fix' things within their own beliefs and limited experience. They are at least 8 months behind her in development, plus they lack the experience of having to go through such heart wrenching decisions. AISISNJ has outgrown her friends. What she needs now are new friends, preferably people who have gone through the same or a similar ordeal, and those who are able to bridge the huge divide that unfortunately exists in our societies between the healthy and the chronically ill. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-21689951975864308362017-08-13T10:25:08.056-07:002017-08-13T10:25:08.056-07:00Stuart,
I'm really not trying to disagree. You...Stuart,<br />I'm really not trying to disagree. You're right, no one is an island. Of course her actions will affect a lot of other people, but I still say she has to do what she thinks is right and most importantly live with the result. This doesn't imply in my mind any rightness or wrongness in her actions, it just means it's her decision and she has to make it and live with it. To me people have gotten away from that idea.Jameshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13642228725661059539noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-23806090164143211072017-08-13T07:38:29.308-07:002017-08-13T07:38:29.308-07:00AS the old saying goes, no woman is an island. Her...AS the old saying goes, no woman is an island. Her actions affect many other people, members of her family and anyone who has a social connection to her. She is doing exactly what she wants to do, but that does not mean that that is the best way to make a decision. And it does not mean in other circumstances that the principle might lead to some very bad outcomes.Stuart Schneidermanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12784043736879991769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-15130691347583402102017-08-13T07:24:43.760-07:002017-08-13T07:24:43.760-07:00What she does is nobodies else's damn business...What she does is nobodies else's damn business. She should do what she thinks is right and live with it.Jameshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13642228725661059539noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-60756473263999452702017-08-13T06:47:33.662-07:002017-08-13T06:47:33.662-07:00The reason marriage is a problem is that all of hi...The reason marriage is a problem is that all of his assets must be used for his care before going on medical assistance. If they're married it's much more complicated.Nanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15634235894433276073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-43553078958313351622017-08-13T05:14:39.019-07:002017-08-13T05:14:39.019-07:00The key sentence for me is this "The disease ...The key sentence for me is this "The disease manifests differently in everyone, so we don’t entirely know when or how things will progress."<br /><br />If you know someone you love will likely be dead in 6 months to 5 years, most will stick it out, especially if there are support systems. But when you don't know what's going to happen, how do you commit to a difficult future of decades? <br /><br />Stephen Hawking is still alive past 70, but did divorced after 30 years and married his nurse for over 10 years. And amazingly he also had kids, so he's not fully alone.<br /><br />I'd never dismiss the power of love. I suppose I'll go reincarnation as my explanation of why people commit a life to something less than the most we could get. Perhaps her soul was disloyal in her last incarnation, and she's here to prove herself, or try, and there are different lessons to learn from every choice. So the important thing is accepting it is a choice. If you're compelled to only one point of view, probably you're going to find a limit to that down the road, and face a different related choice later. Anyway, "meaning" is clearly one of those mysteries of life, and it can't be simply rationally understood or argued against.<br />Ares Olympushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09726811306826601686noreply@blogger.com