tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post2008131580474371063..comments2024-03-18T08:02:51.154-07:00Comments on Had Enough Therapy?: Teaching People To Hate YouStuart Schneidermanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12784043736879991769noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-50983377313563982552014-12-03T05:33:03.177-08:002014-12-03T05:33:03.177-08:00AO,
The first step is almost always the willingnes...AO,<br />The first step is almost always the willingness to be accountable for one's behavior. One will never learn to be truly successful until they take responsibility. I have found that people are neither as dumb as some think nor as smart as they think they are. Hate is such a wasted emotion that does more damage to the one who hates vice the object of that hate. I vowed years ago never to hate another human being or thing. Notwithstanding I have disliked a few or consider that they are not up to the requirements of that they seemed to want.<br />QUIPTOQUIP.<br />Sometimes one has to see the humor that is life.Dennishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14962996070458991675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-73072905274491604942014-12-03T05:21:16.521-08:002014-12-03T05:21:16.521-08:00Not wanting people to hate me, but I am really tak...Not wanting people to hate me, but I am really taken aback at the fact that the Chinese government is banning puns. I rather enjoy doing the CRYPTUQUIPS in the morning because they start the day off with a good clean chuckle and/or laugh. Sometimes they are the better part of a pun, PU, but they never fail to elicit a reaction.<br />I just hate this?????????Dennishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14962996070458991675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-63170495265248398592014-12-02T13:08:22.396-08:002014-12-02T13:08:22.396-08:00There must be a lot of projection in all this talk...There must be a lot of projection in all this talk of "people hating you", an insecurity. I mean its an exaggeration, and a narcissistic one at that.<br /><br />I'd say "acting badly", like being chronically late, represents a defense mechanism where you may in part just be lazy, but also are "testing" the world on your status (and its inner reflection of self-esteem). If you have high status, no one will call you out, (even if they hate your behavior), while if you have low status you might also get away with it because people feel sorry for you (while still hating your behavior).<br /><br />So there's a strange idea here, that "being hated" is okay and encouraged, perhaps because it externalizes existing unacceptable self-hate. So if others hate you, and yet still accept you, there's a blind bridge that says you can hate yourself and accept yourself. <br /><br />But as long as its someone else's hate you're worried about, its easy to ignore the fact you have a choice in your behavior.<br /><br />I've seen the prideful rationalizations like "do as you please because no one has a right to judge you."<br /><br />It is a powerful tactic to close down awareness of your own projection, judging yourself, while rebellion against real or imagined judgements by others.<br /><br />But if we can escape "being hated", we still have the opposite problem, how not to be a people-pleaser, and spend your interactions trying to figure out what other people want so you'll be accepted.<br /><br />I imagine people anxious about others opinions may oscillate between these responses.<br /><br />So I'd say real healing can't come by conforming or rebelling, but by willing to be accountable to your actual behavior, regardless of who is looking.Ares Olympushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09726811306826601686noreply@blogger.com