tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post2129457869426324163..comments2024-03-29T01:07:30.224-07:00Comments on Had Enough Therapy?: The End of the AffairStuart Schneidermanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12784043736879991769noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-2535415438453206732020-07-14T20:58:11.357-07:002020-07-14T20:58:11.357-07:00Their affair was not a completely unreasonable sol...Their affair was not a completely unreasonable solution to an intractable problem. This kind of accommodation seems to have worked, at least with what she provides it did. The other person assumed to be someone's husband and his wife's relationship are not revealed other than sexual dissatisfaction. There is reason to believe this was very common in our societies past. We are going by her characterization of her lovers reaction. It might be very skewed. You are probably right...she's likely a passive pleaser with some masochistic tendencies. Who would not be upset? You have to wonder just how upset she really is about moving. I think she might be more upset about angering her lover and being a pleaser becomes anxious and confused. Kansas Scouthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15744438882831933314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-18853429042947507822020-07-14T11:36:09.661-07:002020-07-14T11:36:09.661-07:00Al of us have a blind spot, or blind spots, and do...Al of us have a blind spot, or blind spots, and don't want to explore the big picture. <br /> <br />Your husband gets a great opportunity. All you see is losing everyone you are comfortable with, especially your lover. You apparently haven't noticed your lover is possesive, perhaps unbalanced if he screams and rages. Your children will also move from the comfortable to the unknown.<br /> <br />The world works like that sometimes. You can make new friends, You made those, didn't you? Your children will make new friends, and if they are not of age to be independent they don't have a choice anyway.<br /> <br />The lover? Look at him honestly. Do you really need him when he is like he is? Unless you move to a very small town you can find another lover, too.<br /> <br />I can see that kind of change being a very big challenge, though, especially after 25 years.urbane legendhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12699110758399432397noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-58442972378298175372020-07-14T11:24:12.864-07:002020-07-14T11:24:12.864-07:00This would make a fine reality TV show. I bet ever...This would make a fine reality TV show. I bet everyone except the husband of the letter would eagerly sign off.Giordano Brunonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-43358338570680249132020-07-14T10:45:37.630-07:002020-07-14T10:45:37.630-07:00The woman tells what's-her-name that she took ...The woman tells what's-her-name that she took a lover via the permission/suggestion of her therapist. I don't denounce her for having a lover (who I think is a man), I'm just saying that she shouldn't even mention the therapist because the therapist didn't do this, she did. She's a big girl and the therapist is just her excuse. Then she chose, for whatever reason, a neurotic person. She is now going to escape this person which is fortunate. And yes, she is being punished right now for being an adulterer; not punished by God, but by consequences. She's actually getting off easy.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-7547220389437764042020-07-14T06:39:17.211-07:002020-07-14T06:39:17.211-07:00This perfectly illustrates how sin darkens the int...This perfectly illustrates how sin darkens the intellectwhitneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01339343160301118530noreply@blogger.com