tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post2343334700431586982..comments2024-03-29T01:07:30.224-07:00Comments on Had Enough Therapy?: Needed: HumilityStuart Schneidermanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12784043736879991769noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-45342153373222200092015-05-14T08:16:54.346-07:002015-05-14T08:16:54.346-07:00Searching for "false humility", here'...Searching for "false humility", here's some resources to consider.<br /><br />Apparently you can't be humble by just acting humble publicly, even if that wins friends better than being a braggart, you still might be in viceful pride and sin at heart.<br /><br />http://www.recoveringgrace.org/2013/08/whelp-there-it-is-15-signs-of-false-humility/<br /><br />http://www.swordofthespirit.net/bulwark/truehumilitychart.htm Distinguishing True Humility from Its Two Extremes: False Humility and Pride<br />------------<br />False Humility [thinking poorly of oneself, low self-esteem, feeling inferior]<br /> <br />True Humility [lowly of heart – not arrogant or boastful, ready to serve, teachable]<br /> <br />Pride [vainglory, being conceited, feeling superior, arrogant] <br />------------<br />https://nightshade130.wordpress.com/2011/11/07/the-importance-of-detecting-false-humility/<br />----------<br />So what is False Humility?<br /><br />I’m not going to say that I’m an expert on this topic but to me I think it’s a subtle form of self-righteousness; and yes it is also tied to PRIDE yet again. <br /><br />Think about it; if False Humility isn’t Humility then it is the exact opposite of it clearly by definition. However, in this case it is more of an “act” of humility rather than the true heart-conditioned practice of it. <br /><br />People who operate in False Humility take on the “appearance” and perform the actions characteristic of a humble person but do not believe in being humble as a heart conditioned decision. In a nutshell, it’s a form of pretentiousness. <br />---------------<br /><br />Ares Olympushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09726811306826601686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-9110232803784435942015-05-14T06:35:35.043-07:002015-05-14T06:35:35.043-07:00When I read "lessons" like this I think ...When I read "lessons" like this I think of E.F. Schumacher's idea of convergent and divergent problems, with convergent problems being the technical lifeless kind that can be optimized, and divergent ones that exist as the tension of opposites.<br /><br />So sure, "Be humble; don’t brag" is excellent advice, but it always makes me wonder what the other side is.<br /><br />Like I heard in the olden days people used to have "mortgage burning" parties, but now adays, with underwater mortgages, and people in their 40's refinancing into a 50 year mortgage, it's impolite to tell people you paid off a 30 year mortgage in 10 years.<br />https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mortgage_burning<br /><br />I don't want people to feed bad, and who am I to feel acomplished for mere discipline. It's not like I had kids braces to pay for. So I'll just keep quiet in person.<br /><br />So what's the other side against humility? False humility?<br /><br />Marianne Williamson is known for a quote that is sometimes attributed to Mandela, so it would seem to be a calling against false humility.<br />http://skdesigns.com/internet/articles/quotes/williamson/our_deepest_fear/<br />-----------------<br />Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. <br /><br />We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? <br /><br />You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. <br /><br />We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. <br /><br />And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.<br />-----------------<br /><br />So what is this "fear"? Fear of making people envious? Fear of sounding arrogant? Fear of standing outside of the herd, and being judged as uppity?<br /><br />It might be the same fear that keeps black youth from learning proper english, last week's complaint by James Howard Kustler.<br />http://kunstler.com/clusterfuck-nation/english-spoken-here/<br /><br />So "false humility" is about being less than you are, to "fit in" to a group.<br /><br />False humility also encourages people to care more about "image" than "truth", so its more important to "look" like a normal family than to confront an alcoholic father's rage. As long as you can care-take, and keep his outbursts hidden from view, and children out of harm's way, you're being properly humble.<br /><br />And the entire "moral relativism" is one big "Be humble; don’t brag", the only important standard is what's in your own heart, and never stand for something you believe, because someone else might feel bad.<br />Ares Olympushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09726811306826601686noreply@blogger.com