tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post2666095911938400683..comments2024-03-29T01:07:30.224-07:00Comments on Had Enough Therapy?: A Mother's AnguishStuart Schneidermanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12784043736879991769noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-29124388719077179232011-03-22T08:39:50.670-07:002011-03-22T08:39:50.670-07:00"For all the brouhaha about the Tiger Mom’s p..."For all the brouhaha about the Tiger Mom’s pedagogical technique, her work ethic, and her unyielding Confucianism… very few of those who railed against her bothered themselves with the fact that she was bringing up daughters, not sons.<br /><br />For the record, this blogger was among the very few who emphasized that point, and that her techniques might well have been devised to protect her daughters from American culture."<br /><br />It has nothing to do with sons or daughters. Asian parents are the same across the board.<br /><br />Asian parents don't care about their kids having a "social life".<br /><br />They want them to "succeed" in academics and professional life more than anything else.<br /><br />For getting laid - they can have an arranged or assisted marriage when they grow up.Therapy Culturenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-51407214768841191522011-03-22T07:21:56.371-07:002011-03-22T07:21:56.371-07:00Stuart -
the self-directed charge of "hypoc...Stuart - <br /><br />the self-directed charge of "hypocrisy" shows a (crippling)confusion on the part of Ms Moses w/regard to her parental role.<br /><br />your comments about Moses' "confusion in her heart",<br />and Retriever's excellent,parallel comments about hypocrisy, show how much moral-relativity has damaged adult judgment.<br /><br />I'm reminded of the idea that it's wise to learn from your mistakes, but wiser to learn from the mistakes of others. <br /><br />Ms Moses can't seem to acknowledge that she'd like to put this principle to work for her daughter's advantage and well-being. The parental roles of guidance and responsibility should over-rule "worries about <br />hypocrisy",no?<br />__________________________<br /><br />"He doesn't demonstrate good judgement".<br />___________<br /><br />"She doesn't demonstrate good judgement".<br />__________________________<br /><br />These phrases illustrate a daily thought that must pass through the minds of intelligent, modern adults, despite the fact that<br />they can't say it out loud,in public. And despite the fact that<br />people like "Morning Gloria" are in full-time "activist" mode, devoted to demonstrating its opposite.<br /><br />If you were seeking to hire an employee (high-school-age, college-age or beyond) can you say the two phrases above wouldn't enter your deliberations?<br />____________________<br /><br />"Destroy the family, and you destroy society." <br />- (V. I. Lenin)<br /><br /> - shoeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-49976550677986449532011-03-21T06:53:50.882-07:002011-03-21T06:53:50.882-07:00TO: Dr. Schneiderman, et al.
RE: More on 'Herd...TO: Dr. Schneiderman, et al.<br />RE: More on 'Herd Mentality'<br /><br />Thinking further on this, I believe that both men and women are subject to this sort of 'group non-think' of 'follow the leader', whomever the leader may be.<br /><br />However, I suspect that men are less susceptible to this form of get-along-to-go-along. Men tend to be more likely to think/act for themselves. From thence came the likes of the Vikings, Columbus, mountain men, pioneers, great inventors, great out-of-the-box philosphers, etc., etc., etc.....<br /><br />So we allowed women to 'take charge' of US. And what has it got US?<br /><br />• Greater debt than any nation in history has experienced.<br />• The suppression of industry and the advancement of knowledge for the sake of political correctness.<br />• A new war that has been instigated with less justification than Bush's wars against Iraq and Afghanistan....not to forget that Obama didn't even bother to ask Congress about it.<br /><br />I could go on and on, but why waste my 'breath'. The useful fools who put Obama into office won't listen in the first place and those who recognized the 'threat' when he showed up in 2007 for what he was are fully aware already.<br /><br />But back on my point, not ALL women nor ALL men are 'herd mentality' thinkers-actors. Rather, it is highly more likely than women are than men.<br /><br />Regards,<br /><br />Chuck(le)<br />[In unanimity there is cowardice and uncritical thinking.]Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-14330591572175195212011-03-20T12:23:31.482-07:002011-03-20T12:23:31.482-07:00P.S. What have I said in the past on this blog abo...P.S. What have I said in the past on this blog about women and....<br /><br /><b>herd mentality</b>?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-18022143372882197552011-03-20T12:19:56.592-07:002011-03-20T12:19:56.592-07:00TO: Dr. Schneiderman
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What’s a mother to d...TO: Dr. Schneiderman<br />RE: Heh<br /><br /><i>What’s a mother to do when the culture is leading her daughter in a direction that she knows is wrong and harmful?</i> -- Stuart Schneiderman<br /><br />What's THIS?!?!?!???<br /><br />Did she forget what HER mother told HER....<br /><br /><b>If everyone else is jumping off a cliff, will you do it too?</b><br /><br />Regards,<br /><br />Chuck(le)<br />[Truisms are not necessarily 'false' because they are 'old'.]Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-50999380673269436632011-03-20T12:14:31.605-07:002011-03-20T12:14:31.605-07:00I never let my daughters dress like sluts. I didn...I never let my daughters dress like sluts. I didn't care if it isolated them from their peers. They never wanted to dress that way (thank God). But if they had, I would not have let them. Perhaps my fuddy duddy expectations psychologically scarred and isolated them? <br /><br />Now, obviously, you can't stop them unbuttoning blouses or rolling waistbands of skirts to make them shorter or buying what I call hooker shoes with earnings from after school jobs. But you can do a few things to limit it. For one thing, you can limit work to 4-6 hours a week (as we did) in a place locally that they had to walk to so that a) work didn't cut into studying time and b) didn't expose them to things in the mall that they'd want to waste their money on. <br /><br />It really doesn't matter how the parents behaved (or did not) in their youth. They are the parents, and they should determine the standards for their kids. If a child wants to be sent to college at vast expense, they have to abide by the parents' rules. End of story. Popularity is BS. <br /><br />My kids took on their peer group's standards in college, when I expected them to, but by that time they were mature enough not to dress like floozies. By 18 or 19 they just reject your politics, religion and other values and you almost wish they would dress like sluts--which would be a relatively minor form of rebellion by comparison...:) <br /><br />All kinds of parents did all kinds of dumb or sleazy things when younger (whether it was drive too fast, drink too much, smoke weed, cheat on schoolwork, lie on job applications, slough off on the job, sleep with people on the first date, cheat on a loved one, betray a confidence, try LSD, go on crazy fad diets, become insider traders, become scummy hedge fund managers who pillage the life savings of their fellow Americans). In general, those same people want their children to grow up to be honest, faithful, kind, disciplined, self-controlled and able to delay gratification, law-abiding, and not substance abusers...And they are perfectly entitled to insist on those things when raising their children. Civilization depends on a certain degree of hypocrisy as all of us are fallible. <br /><br />My generation has often lacked the courage of its convictions because we hesitate to expect much of our kids, guiltily remembering our own failings in youth. But it's better to expect too much than too little, that way, when people fall short, they have still tried to aim higher.Retrieverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09036341287285545932noreply@blogger.com