tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post2836163918185640335..comments2024-03-26T06:17:49.527-07:00Comments on Had Enough Therapy?: The Unhappiness of the Alpha FemaleStuart Schneidermanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12784043736879991769noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-60798465517334971972014-03-14T09:14:06.963-07:002014-03-14T09:14:06.963-07:00Unhappiness spring from various experiences or dis...Unhappiness spring from various experiences or disappointments. We need to examine the situation and act accordingly.<br /><a href="http://www.21stcenturynews.com.au/10-common-reasons-unhappiness/" rel="nofollow">http://www.21stcenturynews.com.au/10-common-reasons-unhappiness/</a>Brendonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06796112376397533803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-47414462730590302442014-03-13T06:05:00.548-07:002014-03-13T06:05:00.548-07:00I am just amazed at the amount of people who don&#...I am just amazed at the amount of people who don't see the irony in much of the desire to control the words of other people so that one's feelings won't be bruised. This out of the very people who have cared little about how others felt at their use of language.<br />The more mature I get the more I see the humor in much of the whining that passes for"woman speak." especially so after watching a "Wounded Warrior" advertisement to get funds to help those that the government seems not to be able to answer the call of duty that the government asked of them.<br />Imagine if you will coming back from Viet Nam and one of the first things you hear is being called a "baby killer" by a young woman who has probably already had one or more abortions and the hardest thing she has faced is a "split nail.". Imagine if you will finding out that the only job one can get is with the government because one is a disabled veteran. Imagine if you will listening to people intimate that military people are "cannon fodder" and "low hanging fruit" not deserving of respect as a human being. Or listening to a woman in HR damn Vietnam veterans who have the temerity to believe that they at least will have a chance at a job under the VRA. Or noticing that every bad person in the movies is a whacked out Vietnam Veteran.<br />Most of these men and some women who were the object of much of this commentary didn't spend much time feeling sorry for themselves. They went out and worked hard, got educations and became upstanding citizens. You will have to forgive me for not feeling much sorrow for a large number of these women who have faced few hardships and in many cases came from upper class backgrounds that created the idea that they deserved it all.Dennishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14962996070458991675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-20978725628597809342014-03-12T22:28:56.817-07:002014-03-12T22:28:56.817-07:00Women are mean. Every woman knows it. It's an ...Women are mean. Every woman knows it. It's an uncontrollable, reflexive, brutal and visceral. It comes from a place as primitive as a caveman with a club in hand.<br /><br />Anybody can say that men are simple and brutish, but women phony and manipulative. The dark sides of either are proportional in every sense.<br /><br />I remember a great quote of Ayn Rand: "The qua of woman is to admire a man." I have yet to meet a woman who, in her best moments, denied this.<br /><br />Stereotypes matter because they are, by and large, true. That's how they become stereotypes. I recognize such an idea runs contrary to everything one has heard in diversity/sensitivity seminars, but such protests reflect the victimology of the world of make-believe.<br /><br />To those who disagree, I give you "The View."<br /><br />TipAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-29777461172034317682014-03-12T11:57:54.513-07:002014-03-12T11:57:54.513-07:00This miserable piece is standard: the men take all...This miserable piece is standard: the men take all the blame. The women, by contrast, are successful, enlightened, hard-charging, long-suffering, and smart.<br /><br />But the truth is the women have far more problems with the arrangement than men do. Consider this anecdote:<br /><br />===<br />A few years ago, my husband, Mark, and I were at one of those hip downtown restaurants, when my boss appeared and I introduced him to Mark. He naturally asked what he did for a living. We both froze. Mark looked at me and shrugged. "I stay home with our daughter," he said, as my colleague quietly balked. <br /><br />"He makes it possible for me to do my job," I said, laughing. But inside, I was mortified. Technically, I had it all back then, including a gorgeous toddler and a cool job. <br /><br />What I didn't have was a husband I felt proud of. <br /><br />....We hadn't had sex in almost a year... In my head, I'd neutralized him as a sexual being. I wanted to be overwhelmed by the sheer power of his masculinity in the bedroom, but I wasn't. Because I felt like the man in our relationship.<br /><br />In retrospect, I realized I had this preconceived idea of what a sexy, attractive man should be like. I imagined being married to, well, someone like me. Someone whose job sounds interesting to other people. Someone who walks out the door with a pressed shirt on, a leather briefcase, and a confident gait. Someone who wins bread. <br /><br />======<br /><br />Instead of being a superwoman she's petty, self-serving, childish, and let her need for external status wreck her marriage and family. Even having a daughter wasn't enough to cause her to respect her responsibility to make the marriage work.<br /><br />Consider one more snip from Gavin Polone's piece:<br /><br />"In divorcing her husband, the idea of forking over a big check was particularly distasteful—much more so than it has been for my divorced male friends but similar to what it’s been like for my other divorced female friends. “It’s harder for women to get to the top than men, so you’re a little more proprietary about your money,” Sally said."<br /><br />Once again, the women look strong and good. That beats saying women paying alimony are notoriously small-minded and bitter. Try these three examples:<br /><br />===<br /><br />But (Carol Ann Wilson, a certified financial divorce practitioner in Boulder, Colo, says) "I've seen thousands of clients," she says, "and almost every time I've seen a stay-at-home dad seek alimony, the wife--she's usually a software executive--goes ballistic."<br /><br />===<br /><br />But the women who have to pay it are sounding a different chord. "I feel financially raped," says Rhonda Friedman, the former wife of Mr. Castellanos. So distasteful are the monthly payments she makes to him that after filling out the check she used to spit on it. <br /><br />===<br /><br />"Women having to pay spousal support are the most difficult clients to represent because they are so damn angry," observes Lisa Helfend Meyer, a family law attorney in Los Angeles. <br /><br />===<br /><br />For decades, the cultural rhetoric has been about men's retrograde views and inability to accept societal change. If a high-earning woman had a troubled marriage, it was because the man couldn't deal with her success. She was a paragon of virtue, he was a throwback. Now we're seeing frank evidence the truth is very different. Selfishness and pettiness abound.<br /><br />We're reading that women who are primary breadwinners want to wield power inside their marriages, rather than partner with their husbands. Now they are starting to lose (i.e. be treated equally) in the courts, a place which has in the past been the scene of so many wins for divorcing women.<br /><br />In the pop culture, it will be a rare writer who will fess up to all that. It's so much more career-enhancing to jump on the you-go-girl, Sheryl-Sandbergesque bandwagon and talk about how men are failing today's high-flying uberwomen.Lastangonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-28661391036217565562014-03-12T07:01:10.566-07:002014-03-12T07:01:10.566-07:00Sorry, I have to wait until I stop laughing at the...Sorry, I have to wait until I stop laughing at the things that women has said over the last 50 years about men and what they have done to them as well.<br /><br />At times I am the only man in the room and I guess women just forget. One time my wife, oldest daughter and two granddaughters were talking and inevitably it got around to men and what horrible people they were. I stated that I would have to remember that the next time they wanted my help.<br /><br />It is difficult to believe that the women I know the best are any different than other women. Dennishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14962996070458991675noreply@blogger.com