tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post31742902183263851..comments2024-03-26T06:17:49.527-07:00Comments on Had Enough Therapy?: Will More Sex Make You Happier?Stuart Schneidermanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12784043736879991769noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-44908295825780017572016-06-06T09:00:05.978-07:002016-06-06T09:00:05.978-07:00Turning your thermostat further down (in summer) o...Turning your thermostat further down (in summer) or further up (in winter) is unlikely to make you more satisfied with your home temperature...because you've already set it where you want it....*unless* you can't afford to cost of more heat or more air conditioning.<br /><br />The study would be more meaningful if they separated out people who felt they weren't having enough sex and then look at how the 'more' factor influenced *their* satisfaction. For those who were already having what they felt to be the right amount, the increment would predictably feel like a chore.David Fosterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15464681514800720063noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-30252021367145313992016-06-06T08:30:28.988-07:002016-06-06T08:30:28.988-07:00A very silly study. Assuming the couples were alre...A very silly study. Assuming the couples were already happy with their frequency of sex, then adding more could easily make it feel like a chore, just one more thing to add to your daily list of things to get done.<br /><br />You could ask a similar question "Will more exercise make you happier?" And that's an easier question since you don't have the problem of two people trying to adapt to each other's ideal frequency, intensity, and duration of an activity.<br /><br />What I've learned on exercise, mainly running, is that I don't definitely miss exercise when I don't get it, but maybe my body does. Like in the winter when I've noticed I didn't feel very well, and I've realized I've not got any real exercise for a number of days in a row, and after I do exercise I feel better even when I didn't expect to.<br /><br />And it does sometimes seem as a burden when I'm doing it, but I'll almost always feel better when I'm done.<br /><br />And when I'm in a good routine, running 20-30 miles/week is great, but if you asked me to double that, perhaps to train for a marathon, I'm old enough my body just doesn't care for it, and I'll actually get little injuries that demand extra rest days anyway. <br /><br />On the other hand I read one book that said the risk of injury is very low at 12-20 miles/week, so perhaps when I have no competitive ambitions, that seems like a good minimum to feel good, and not have sore muscles which happens when your muscles are not used to an activity.<br /><br />And that's probably true on sex as well, if we only consider sex is a physical act that needs toned muscles to be most enjoyable. <br /><br />And finally for aerobic exercise, probably 15 minutes is the absolute minimum workout that makes sense, so probably a good sex study should look at not just frequency but duration (including warmup time), and finally also relationship qualities excluding the physical benefits.Ares Olympushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09726811306826601686noreply@blogger.com