tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post4449176747570946469..comments2024-03-26T06:17:49.527-07:00Comments on Had Enough Therapy?: In Love with Social IsolationStuart Schneidermanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12784043736879991769noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-7981875194540206172021-03-12T11:39:17.115-08:002021-03-12T11:39:17.115-08:00Without reading more than your post, she seems a f...Without reading more than your post, she seems a fairly normal introvert to me.<br /><br />Why on Earth would anyone hang out alone in a local Starbucks? or donut shop or tea room? Going somewhere where it is expected one will introduce one's self and mingle, I understand. But why go somewhere public to be alone? It makes no sense to me. Clearly it happens, but I've never understood it.<br /><br />As for going back to the office, the vast majority of my coworkers are not even located in the same country, which means electronic communication. It seems to work fine for the city-local ones, too. I have no desire to start commuting, again. Socializing among coworkers is somewhat fraught in the best of times. In this "I'm more woke than you are" era, I'd rather not have anything to do with them.<br /><br />All that said, friends are important - it's just that those are bad places to look for them. "Friendsgiving" is Thanksgiving with friends rather than family; I've been hosting one for decades.<br /><br />Better advice: Join a group (or five) that you're interested in (knitting, neighborhood association, church group, four-wheelers, whatever...) and attempt to befriend everyone. It doesn't take long to discover the control freaks and mean girls (all groups have them, usually in leadership positions no one else wants). Ignore them. If you don't find anyone you like, drop the group and try another one.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00433809480063800263noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-83651976142837865202021-03-12T09:38:08.191-08:002021-03-12T09:38:08.191-08:00She says she's approaching her 30s. She shoul...She says she's approaching her 30s. She should go to restaurants and observe, as I have, very old people who come in alone, sit alone, eat their meals alone, and then leave to go back to an empty home. They don't look happy to me.RebeccaHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15113907852048577121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-42122878177635732522021-03-11T13:34:58.550-08:002021-03-11T13:34:58.550-08:00Great piece and keen advice.
Polly sounds like she...Great piece and keen advice.<br />Polly sounds like she works for HR.<br /><br />“ One does not know whether she actually studied this swill in college or whether she just picked it up on her own.”<br />Maybe Heidegger is just a verbose autist.<br /><br />KCFleminghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00124201866124646626noreply@blogger.com