tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post5458297285636672479..comments2024-03-29T04:06:37.402-07:00Comments on Had Enough Therapy?: Sex With Someone You Don't KnowStuart Schneidermanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12784043736879991769noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-83856508769429066212018-01-18T20:53:03.859-08:002018-01-18T20:53:03.859-08:00Mae West! Hoo, BOY!!Mae West! Hoo, BOY!!Sam L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/00996809377798862214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-208773103462396922018-01-18T12:00:51.753-08:002018-01-18T12:00:51.753-08:00Kinda reminds me of the old Mae West quip "Th...Kinda reminds me of the old Mae West quip "The game of Bridge is like sex, if you don't have a good partner you better have a good hand".Jameshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13642228725661059539noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-40631881813506244942018-01-17T11:51:39.735-08:002018-01-17T11:51:39.735-08:00Such is my recollection... which suggests that she...Such is my recollection... which suggests that she received it first. For L. Beau I was trying to be ironic... raising the issue by saying that I was not raising the issue... apparently not very successfully.Stuart Schneidermanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12784043736879991769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-59155840958216842242018-01-17T11:44:14.573-08:002018-01-17T11:44:14.573-08:00Well, I remember reading that He gave HER oral sex...Well, I remember reading that He gave HER oral sex first. I could be wrong, and I'm not going to look for that story to check my memory.Sam L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/00996809377798862214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-10429099114923930142018-01-17T10:11:07.219-08:002018-01-17T10:11:07.219-08:00"No one has suggested that their rush to defe..."No one has suggested that their rush to defend Ansari has anything to do with his ethnicity, so I will not go there either." - Stuart Schneiderman<br /><br />You are a gentleman and sport for not going "there", Dr. Schneiderman, and I applaud you for it. But in point of fact, Caitlyn Flanagan did "go there" in her piece in <i>The Atlantic</i>. I provide the following short excerpt as my evidence:<br /><br /><br />"I thought it would take a little longer for the hit squad of privileged young white women to open fire on brown-skinned men. I had assumed that on the basis of intersectionality and all that, they’d stay laser focused on college-educated white men for another few months."<br />- Caitlin Flanagan, in <i>The Atlantic</i>, Jan. 14, 2018<br /><br />link: https://www.theatlantic.com/entertainment/archive/2018/01/the-humiliation-of-aziz-ansari/550541/L. Beauhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13652846614886274866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-13855612777023099822018-01-17T07:56:34.810-08:002018-01-17T07:56:34.810-08:00Kinda reminds me of an old Tom Waits song about da...Kinda reminds me of an old Tom Waits song about dating yourself "I'm not weird, I don't tie myself up first". People go figure. Jameshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13642228725661059539noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-28072088506959824122018-01-17T06:56:56.958-08:002018-01-17T06:56:56.958-08:00Stuart: Most women have a functioning moral sense....Stuart: Most women have a functioning moral sense.<br /><br />I always assumed we could blame alcohol for "loose morals", at least that seems to cover a huge fraction of the cases.<br /><br />I read one opinion that suggested he should have acted more like a gentleman, and of course the counter argument is that she should have acted more like a lady, one who doesn't get intimate in private with a stranger on a first date.<br /><br />Overall I'll go with the NY Times article as sensible.<br />https://www.nytimes.com/2018/01/15/opinion/aziz-ansari-babe-sexual-harassment.html<br /><br />The counter arguments I've heard is that women don't use escalating language because they're afraid of violence from men, and clearly that's an insane position to find yourself, where you're with someone you don't know, and don't trust, doing intimate things, with no one there to protect you.<br /><br />Perhaps we can divide adult women into 3 categories: Women, Ladies, and Girls. The first can be feminists and do as they please, the second don't need to be feminists because they don't do as they please, and the last should just put "kick me" signs on their back and hope no one reads it.Ares Olympushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09726811306826601686noreply@blogger.com