tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post5842601987796642397..comments2024-03-29T04:06:37.402-07:00Comments on Had Enough Therapy?: Betraying a ConfidenceStuart Schneidermanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12784043736879991769noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-20640233153907097352019-02-14T04:27:01.634-08:002019-02-14T04:27:01.634-08:00You may be right... but among politically correct ...You may be right... but among politically correct types, it is becoming customary to call girlfriends partners too. Stuart Schneidermanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12784043736879991769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-76483624384527586252019-02-13T20:43:36.268-08:002019-02-13T20:43:36.268-08:00Remarkable how Anonymous completely misses the poi...Remarkable how Anonymous completely misses the point.JPL17https://www.blogger.com/profile/10649330420822802850noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-73297564448199864852019-02-13T17:56:28.151-08:002019-02-13T17:56:28.151-08:00Just out of curiosity, is there any evidence that ...Just out of curiosity, is there any evidence that the betrayed party was a "girlfriend"? The writer keeps referring to a "partner", which I always take as a euphemism for "gay lover".jabrwokhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14537636497352864636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-65910697050804381932019-02-13T13:24:45.539-08:002019-02-13T13:24:45.539-08:00I don't know what circumstances might compel m...I don't know what circumstances might compel me to break a confidence. I'd see my "loyalty" should be to helping a friend trust himself and "go and sin no more" while a there's still a risk a bad conscience unrelieved can encourage a person to "turn bad" and follow with even more destructive choices when he's under stress.<br /><br />I wonder what a pastor or priest would do in such a situation, whether confession or counseling context? I assume their obligations are similar to therapists, so only threat of likely future violence or criminal activity would compel action.<br /><br />I suppose a fair rule of thumb would be to ask yourself "What's the worst consequences if I keep quiet?" And then imagine that happened, and how your conscience would feel, how responsible you would feel for not acting. And then you can confront the person and ask them directly, if those consequences are possible, and if the other is not able to promise those consequences won't happen, you should make a step to break the relationship, to show how serious it is to you.Ares Olympushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09726811306826601686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-18204343958736383852019-02-13T06:44:42.075-08:002019-02-13T06:44:42.075-08:00I agree with Appiah that the moment the younger co...I agree with Appiah that the moment the younger confessed his infidelity, he put a tremendous strain on the friendship between all four of them, IMO precisely because the confession involved the well-being of another member of the group. This friendship will never be the same. The young woman needs to know urgently that she has to get herself tested for STD. That would be my main reason for spilling the beans. I am not sure how I would actually do that, nor if I would inform her directly, but I am in no doubt that she needs to be informed.<br />It might be different if this was a situation of mentorship only, but that is not the case here.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com