tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post584644205584109311..comments2024-03-29T01:07:30.224-07:00Comments on Had Enough Therapy?: Tiger Mom Continues to Provoke Furious DebateStuart Schneidermanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12784043736879991769noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-44388942018297239492011-11-21T08:53:11.341-08:002011-11-21T08:53:11.341-08:00Well, I don't really think it may have success...Well, I don't really think it may have success.www.gerona-3d.comhttp://www.gerona-3d.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-68582227535881911602011-10-08T14:04:20.622-07:002011-10-08T14:04:20.622-07:00Pretty helpful piece of writing, thanks so much fo...Pretty helpful piece of writing, thanks so much for your post.muebles tres cantoshttp://www.muebles-en-tres-cantos.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-22290846796944827532011-08-17T01:15:18.048-07:002011-08-17T01:15:18.048-07:00This cannot truly work, I believe so.This cannot truly work, I believe so.contactos madridhttp://www.encontactos.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-26540427151859182932011-01-22T11:11:33.731-08:002011-01-22T11:11:33.731-08:00As a father I am considered to be a strict parent....As a father I am considered to be a strict parent. I make my boys walk to the bus stop and to the store in bad weather, bait their own hooks, clean their own guns and even pay for their amunition (or at least some of it). I expect good performance at school and try to set a good example. But what Amy Chua does to her daughters is really a form of child abuse. She is teaching her daughters that her approval is based on their performance. That may be OK for employer-worker relationships but not mother-child ones. Family is a place where you are loved regardless of how well you "perform". Most of the examples I read about here are Chinese women married to highly paid western professionals and have daughters. The jury is still out on this form of "extreme" parenting. I once lived in an Asian neighborhood in California. True, many of the kids did get straight As. But many of them smoked and were reckless drivers. Mrs. Chua's girls are still in the pre-dating stage of life. She is in for some tough times as her girls turn into women and she struggles to maintain a control she cannot keep. Nobody seems to want to speculate how the Tiger Moms will handle the adult years. Here's what most are missing in this discussion -- you never stop being a parent. My oldest is 30 and covets my advice and guidance more than ever. Parenting requires different approaches at different ages. My sons know that that their mother will always love them. She continually teaches important things to her kids that only good moms can - things like compassion, tenderness, patience. Can a Tiger Mom do that??Jimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04779989953563193520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-86441370778303601792011-01-21T09:16:03.994-08:002011-01-21T09:16:03.994-08:00TO: All
RE: Let's Try 'Again'
The ...TO: All<br />RE: Let's Try 'Again'<br /><br />The 'disappeared' comment related to how college students don't seem to 'learn' very much in their first two years in acadamia-land.<br /><br />Article is <a href="http://www.usatoday.com/news/education/2011-01-18-littlelearning18_ST_N.htm?csp=hf&loc=interstitialskip" title="Report - First two years of college show small gains" rel="nofollow"><b>HERE!!!!</b></a><br /><br />My observation was that the way some of the women who oppose Chua are behaving, it resembles the same sort of vicious attack we've seen performed against a certain female of the conservative persuasion who ran on a national-level ticket in 2008. And continues TODAY.<br /><br />And, it is all a validation of the third option of the famous Lawyers' Rule....<br /><br /><b>[1] If the Law is against you, argue the facts.<br />[2] If the facts are against you, argue the Law.<br />[3] If the Law and the facts are against you, call the other side names.</b> -- <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Official-Rules-Paul-Dickson/dp/0440166845/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1266252049&sr=1-1" title="At Amazon.com" rel="nofollow"><b>The Official Rules: A Compendium of Truths and Laws for Living</b></a><br /><br />Enjoy,<br /><br />Chuck(le)<br />[The Truth comes out....in some interesting forms....]Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-15799509319278690812011-01-21T08:33:48.086-08:002011-01-21T08:33:48.086-08:00TO: Dr. Schneiderman
RE: [OT] BLOGGER??!?!?!
Now ...TO: Dr. Schneiderman<br />RE: [OT] BLOGGER??!?!?!<br /><br />Now even my 'anonymous' posts are becoming part of the 'disappeared'. <br /><br />I had something to say about Chua vis-a-vis the attacks on her. I mentioned a correlation with a certain woman of a conservative persuasion who was once on a national-level election ticket. <br /><br />THAT POST DIDN'T 'TAKE'. But the follow-on to Grey DID.<br /><br />I HIGHLY RECOMMEND YOU CHANGE YOUR VENUE!!!<br /><br />This venue can no longer be trusted.<br /><br />Regards,<br /><br />Chuck(le)<br />[The best way to beat the 'competition' is to 'silence' them.]Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-4761648810186084872011-01-21T08:30:26.262-08:002011-01-21T08:30:26.262-08:00TO: Anonymous, a.k.a., Grey
RE: Abandonment
Oh, B...TO: Anonymous, a.k.a., Grey<br />RE: Abandonment<br /><br /><i>Oh, Boomers don't like how the kids they abandoned are raising their own kids?</i> -- Grey<br /><br />For your information <b>I</b> did not 'abandon' my children.<br /><br />Rather, they were RIPPED from my arms by the 'Family [dissolution] Court' system.<br /><br />GOT IT!!!!<br /><br />Regards,<br /><br />Chuck<br />[Make it idiot proof and someone will make a better idiot.]<br /><br />P.S. Look at the children of 'today'.....destroyed....all in the name of 'progress'.....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-33791686245054243842011-01-20T18:59:59.936-08:002011-01-20T18:59:59.936-08:00Oh, Boomers don't like how the kids they aband...Oh, Boomers don't like how the kids they abandoned are raising their own kids?<br /><br />Really, as an engineer, I have had to deal with these Chinese Wunderkind: They were great students, hopeless as employees and insufferable as bosses.<br /><br />"East is East and West is West, and never the twain shall meet"<br /><br />--GrayAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-78162346550375973522011-01-20T18:50:09.537-08:002011-01-20T18:50:09.537-08:00All I have to say is:
Todd Marinovich
http://en....All I have to say is:<br /><br />Todd Marinovich<br /><br />http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Todd_Marinovich<br /><br />--GrayAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-58448872181150222702011-01-20T11:55:08.482-08:002011-01-20T11:55:08.482-08:00It may be tactical, but there's a big differen...It may be tactical, but there's a big difference in my mind between telling someone "This isn't very good" or even "This is lousy!" on the one hand, and telling someone "You are garbage" on the other. I'm pretty hard-nosed, but would be disinclined to tolerate any manager working for me who regularly talked to subordinates in the latter way.<br /><br />A good example of handling a problem well was provided by former Navy captain Neptunus Lex on his blog. Chastising someone who had made an obnoxious comment, Lex mentioned that the guys previous comments had been insightful, and went on to say something like "This is not worthy of you."David Fosterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15464681514800720063noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-20082566567386844292011-01-20T09:13:29.185-08:002011-01-20T09:13:29.185-08:00I don't want to condone (or condemn) specific ...I don't want to condone (or condemn) specific tactics.<br /><br />This tactic falls within the general category of shaming. It feels a bit extreme, but all parents use shaming all the time.<br /><br />When a parent tells a child that he is not acting his age, that involves shaming. When a parent tells a child that he is disappointed in a child's behavior, he is shaming the child. When he tells the child that he is not working up to his level, he is shaming the child. When a child is sent off for a time out, he is being shamed.<br /><br />These techniques are notably effective, like them or not.<br /><br />The question is: what are the alternatives? One can either not discipline the child at all or institute different kinds of physical punishment coupled with bribes. As in, you get spanked for getting it wrong or you get a treat for getting it right.Stuart Schneidermanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12784043736879991769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-53187705098197806312011-01-20T09:01:45.026-08:002011-01-20T09:01:45.026-08:00One of the "tiger mother" tactics that w...One of the "tiger mother" tactics that was mentioned is calling children "garbage" when they don't meet expectations. Isn't it likely that someone raised this way will use similar terminology should (s)he ever reach a supervisory position? Isn't such behavior likely to lead to failure? (Outside perhaps certain GM plants, given that yelling at employees has apparently long been a part of that company's culture)David Fosterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15464681514800720063noreply@blogger.com