tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post6329680776149220262..comments2024-03-26T06:17:49.527-07:00Comments on Had Enough Therapy?: BullyingStuart Schneidermanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12784043736879991769noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-20875667298688086102012-04-01T11:16:41.045-07:002012-04-01T11:16:41.045-07:00We had a bully at school when I was in the sixth g...We had a bully at school when I was in the sixth grade. He picked on anyone he could get away with pushing around, including me. <br />My big brother found out about it. He was in the seventh grade. Next time this kid picked on me was his last time.<br />My big brother, a 13 year old, beat the ever living sh*t out of him in front of the entire school.<br />He never touched me, my brother, or anyone else in my class, or the school again, that entire year.<br />Bullies only learn one way.<br /><br />But they really learn it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-62581860603450465492012-04-01T10:46:27.836-07:002012-04-01T10:46:27.836-07:00"School administrators refuse to exercise aut..."School administrators refuse to exercise authority or accept responsibility because they believe that a bully just needs more therapy."<br /><br />I think the problem is more generic than that. I think people often become public school administrators specifically because they want the status that goes with the title but without accepting the combination of responsibility and authority that goes with a true leadership position. The average public school administrator, in the US at least, has no interest in being in a position in which he must personally make hard decisions and be accountable for the outcome. He would rather defer to generalized policies.David Fosterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15464681514800720063noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-47822217899276212542012-03-31T10:42:32.983-07:002012-03-31T10:42:32.983-07:00Just between us, dude, you did not read what I sai...Just between us, dude, you did not read what I said very carefully.<br /><br />I do have compassion for the victims of bullying. That is why I tried to outline some steps that can be taken to deal with the problem.<br /><br />Some of what is called bullying is extreme behavior that the individual cannot deal with himself. I strongly suggested that teachers, parents, administrators, and the police be brought in to help deal with the problem.<br /><br />That has nothing to do with blaming the victim.<br /><br />Thelma Adams was not blaming the victim. Nick Gillespie was not blaming the victim. And neither was I.<br /><br />There are situations where someone who is being bullied can and should fight back. Perhaps not in quite the same way that Casey Heymes did, but his example does show something that can be done.<br /><br />It does need to be the exact same thing, but there are often things that can be done. If not alone in conjunction with the proper authorities.<br /><br />Less extreme forms of bullying can usually be dealt with with less extreme measures.<br /><br />Do you think that a football player who is being taunted and insulted should receive our compassion? Do you really think that that would help him to deal with the situation?<br /><br />No, I was not a bully at school. Rather than striking out at people who are trying to help you, it might be a better idea to see if there are any other ways to deal with the problem.Stuart Schneidermanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12784043736879991769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-56688963032747049222012-03-31T10:30:12.427-07:002012-03-31T10:30:12.427-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.The Fun Sized Writer https://www.blogger.com/profile/10507655222450814186noreply@blogger.com