tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post6647669101263096073..comments2024-03-26T06:17:49.527-07:00Comments on Had Enough Therapy?: Feeling Your FeelingsStuart Schneidermanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12784043736879991769noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-44758911150999994572017-11-24T09:29:45.838-08:002017-11-24T09:29:45.838-08:00I'm guessing that Polly wouldn't agree wit...I'm guessing that Polly wouldn't agree with what you said about the leaf blowing gardener in the last post<br /><br />"Think before you abandon impulse control. Spontaneity is overrated."<br /><br /><br /><br />whitneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01339343160301118530noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-26582774784876530972017-11-24T06:21:19.380-08:002017-11-24T06:21:19.380-08:00Yes, "feel your feelings" does seem to b...Yes, "feel your feelings" does seem to be bad or confused advice, although I guess its supposed to be the opposite of "denying your feelings".<br /><br />The simplest interpretation I've heard is to say our 5 physical senses are our connection to the outer world, and our feelings or emotions are our connection to our inner world, including the unconscious, and possibly the soul, however hard either may be to define or understand.<br /><br />Not "feeling your feelings" is like when you tell someone "You don't have to shout." and he or she says back even louder "I'm not shouting!" Feelings are affecting your behavior and abilities, whether you acknowledge them or not. Acknowledging them may reduce their ability to affect us unaware, although certainly the opposite might also be true, and we may prefer to be a slave to them, like our passions, and believe we have no influence to change them for the better. <br /><br />A confusing fact is that feelings distort our thinking, while its hard to see that while its happening. You can only see this by remembering how you see the same facts differently based on what feelings are present at each given moment. Another confusing fact is feelings can be contagious, overriding our otherwise good sense, and so talking of "your feelings" may be a flawed ownership, we are still responsible for our actions even if someone else provoked us. If you feel you didn't have a choice, you're probably lying to yourself.<br />Ares Olympushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09726811306826601686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-74759239070944280722017-11-24T06:14:05.481-08:002017-11-24T06:14:05.481-08:00"True enough, the letter write does not say h..."True enough, the letter write does not say how much therapy she has undergone, but how can anyone make this much of a mess of her life without having suffered the ministrations of a licensed, credentialed professional?"<br /><br />I think that you are underestimating the ability of people to make messes out of their lives.<br />Some people are extremely good at making bad decisions. She might be one of those people. <br /><br />That being said, I would not be surprised if she overdosed on therapy to get where she is now. JPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11126071014909954387noreply@blogger.com