tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post6829967274663094043..comments2024-03-26T06:17:49.527-07:00Comments on Had Enough Therapy?: Friendless in WhereverStuart Schneidermanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12784043736879991769noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-56000477272395183472018-11-08T00:18:49.849-08:002018-11-08T00:18:49.849-08:00Everyone has their own version of mental crutches....Everyone has their own version of mental crutches. We treat ourselves with kid gloves, as stupid retard We Lie because we don't want to mutilate its impressionable feeling.<br /><br />When you half 'joking' wrote that "the animal species is 'Stoopid'" you are trying to convince yourself that the entire scenario can be discarded as a poorly constructed attempt at failed humor. You don't want to admit to yourself that you MIGHT actually agree with the Researcher's assumption that the animal cannot recognize its own reflection in the mirror and is indeed not just 'Stoopid' but genuinely so. In this way even the dumbest of the stupid animals can 'outsmart' the human, an animal so dumb it cannot be fooled by a mirror. If only the humiliation could intensify by having the cow break character to parrot worn out platitudes ""Know Thyself" "The unexamined life is not worth living."<br /><br />You are right about the cow, and the imaginary cow philosopher happens to also be right about you, but neither one is "right" or wrong about anything. I suspect the cow probably has a better comprehension of this though. As a human maybe for a brief millisecond at the cusp there is a glimpse of bridging that wide chasm of understanding, a gap of understanding between the incomprehensible contradictions of |existing for a brief time between|. This sounds crazy but doesn't contradict any existing dogmas that I know the top of my head, but do let me know.<br /><br />The morbidly Insane have less delusions than we do. It is absurd, that experience is a series of well constructed hallucinations that function just well enough to allow us survival for an extra blip or two. <br />I don't think that all there is to our existence or experience is mere organization of semi-accurate hallucinations as predictive models, at the core of it there is nothing. I think it is possible to be aware in the most rudimentary physiologically state possible of being aware while in the pseudo-amnesic 'nothing state' that precedes death's more complete amnesia. I don't consider nothing awareness to be a direct experience of reality as an 'accurate' experience. Or perhaps it is all an unhappy hallucination.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-19363270748609439552018-11-07T22:42:43.092-08:002018-11-07T22:42:43.092-08:00Liked the title and the humor theme. You've go...Liked the title and the humor theme. You've got to appreciate that title "Friendless in Wherever" I certainly do. <br /><br />"I would like to be a joiner." a block narrates its good day finishing story with "..and Be nice to someone today." <br /><br />Sound advice!<br /><br />Some interesting commenting too! <br /><br />"is a sign you're probably not a good new potential friend."<br /><br />This is true!<br /><br />No one makes a good friend. <br />The better the friend or relationship is the more it hurts.<br />You aren't a good friend to yourself. Most people will never bother to see themselves. I mean, why bother? You see yourself every time you brush your teeth. There is a sick joke that stupid animals play on smart humans. The theory is when an animal fails to identify its own reflection in a mirror it is a sign sent by Providence itself that the animal species is 'Stoopid'. <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-82345488726354558802018-11-07T12:12:35.121-08:002018-11-07T12:12:35.121-08:00Stuart: Normally, we would recommend that she work...Stuart: Normally, we would recommend that she work to deepen the friendships that she has, whether with acquaintances, colleagues, old classmates, or even family members. She should build on what she has, rather than to attend meetings filled with strangers.<br /><br />Agreed, that's where she should start. I'd guess the problem is there's momentum and expectation in the way there, especially if she feels guilty from her past decisions to ignore other's efforts to reach out to her.<br /><br />So the advantage in searching a "new crowd" is she is free to experiment and go outside of her comforts, outside of her habits of reserve, and the new people don't know she is trying to be someone else. And she can still retreat from those new friends if she decides she doesn't like it, and doesn't have to raise walls again with people who she does seem more regularly now.<br /><br />It does seem like you almost need an external reason for changed behavior, like a parental death or loss of a job, some important loss or change, that opens a hole and time to fill it. Then new behavior can be experimental, and temporary, and new friendships might arise, or not, and there's no "expectations" of future loyalty or care when the crisis period ends. <br /><br />There is a sense of the "narrative" we need for ourselves, to explain why we're reaching out now, rather than in the past, and perhaps one can just make one half-truth up as an icebreaker, if people are curious, and you're ashamed of what otherwise seems a dumb reason. OTOH, its better to not tell lies or play the victim for sympathy, and bad talking people from your past to explain why you're avoiding them is a sign you're probably not a good new potential friend.<br />Ares Olympushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09726811306826601686noreply@blogger.com