tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post7099320481060434584..comments2024-03-26T06:17:49.527-07:00Comments on Had Enough Therapy?: The Case of the Class ClownStuart Schneidermanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12784043736879991769noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-26335049379079574032020-02-06T13:20:08.429-08:002020-02-06T13:20:08.429-08:00It's interesting that "Tired Of Fake Laug...It's interesting that "Tired Of Fake Laughing" says, "Without a doubt, the part of my life that has been most negatively affected by this “gift” has always been work." Does she put her work first when she is at work? It sounds as if she might be focused more on entertaining than on working. Do her coworkers pick up the slack when she is being the class clown? Is her humor the adolescent style of personal insults? Does she reprimand people who don't laugh at her jokes? I've run into people like this. Some people act as if they are professional comedians, and it isn't appropriate in all circumstances. The part about "boyfriends’ friends who try to be funny and fail" suggests that perhaps TOFL needs to be the center of attention.<br />How well did TOFL research this company before applying? Was it possible to know that the workplace is, in her word, intense? Does anything about her clothing, body language &/or speech suggest that she is interested in off-color jokes?<br />My advice would be to focus on working hard/well, and taking the focus off the jokes. If being a class clown has always been least appreciated at work, stop trying that approach. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-38811937633283004902020-02-06T11:31:48.636-08:002020-02-06T11:31:48.636-08:00I'm female so I'm going to excuse it that ...I'm female so I'm going to excuse it that way but this is news to me. Also highly Illuminating if true. And it rings true when I think back to when I have been mocked in my life<br /><br />"they do so for a very specific reason. They are not trying to hurt feelings, but they are trying to show people how they look to others, to tell them to get over themselves and to get with the program"whitneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01339343160301118530noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-45419086994586803372020-02-06T11:20:36.517-08:002020-02-06T11:20:36.517-08:00She may be on the spectrum. She may be on the spectrum. sestamibihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03713681322114049960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-78109109355269076292020-02-06T09:51:08.583-08:002020-02-06T09:51:08.583-08:00"Get with the the program!" That's ..."Get with the the program!" That's what our drill instructor told us. Takes me back, it does.Sam L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/00996809377798862214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-8302541108337057852020-02-06T08:49:33.405-08:002020-02-06T08:49:33.405-08:00These endless rants about such lovelorn advice are...These endless rants about such lovelorn advice are truly boring and diminisg your site.Jim Sweeneynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-71752312225027729572020-02-06T06:03:35.693-08:002020-02-06T06:03:35.693-08:00"I do a lot of fake laughing at my own expens..."I do a lot of fake laughing at my own expense."<br /><br />Nothing worse. Be funny, be witty, do not provide your own laugh track. It is such an off-putting behavior.ASM826https://www.blogger.com/profile/04017388670319590449noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-76138261177760292652020-02-06T05:31:59.838-08:002020-02-06T05:31:59.838-08:00I do a lot of fake laughing at my own expense.
A ...<i>I do a lot of fake laughing at my own expense.</i><br /><br />A lot of younger women affect a self-depreciating and fake laugh, as if to signal "I'm ditzy, I'm cute" (with an undertone of "help me, do my work for me"). Which would be 100% self-defeating in this environment.<br /><br />Not that you cannot ask for help, but do it with "explain it to me and I will take care of it" attitude.Freddonoreply@blogger.com