tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post7180864649334376293..comments2024-03-29T01:07:30.224-07:00Comments on Had Enough Therapy?: The Big Feminist LieStuart Schneidermanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12784043736879991769noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-39556214659789912092014-01-28T16:29:29.465-08:002014-01-28T16:29:29.465-08:00In retrospect, I was just lucky - I was apparently...In retrospect, I was just lucky - I was apparently hyper-fertile, and had 3 kids in 4 years (in my mid-to late-20s). It meant that I put off finishing college until my mid-30s. Now, as I reach my 60s, I don't have the large retirement income that other women, who established themselves earlier, do.<br /><br />I don't regret it. No amount of money or professional success could compensate me for the joys of having a family.<br /><br />That said, EVERY choice a person makes:<br />- jobs<br />- marriage, or not<br />- children? Early? Late? Never?<br /><br />has consequences. To choose one thing may well eliminate other choices. That is the nature of life.<br /><br />I don't believe that the doctors are as much to blame. They also tended to believe the hype of the fertility specialists. Likewise, media hype about the wonders of late-motherhood was based on hope and not much science.<br /><br />Dr. Phil had a recent show about this issue. Woman after woman stood up, talked about how fit they were, and how young they looked. They just didn't seem to "get" that their internal biological clock wasn't affected by diet, exercise, or other age-delayers. Their eggs were old, their uterus was aged, and they were quite unlikely to get pregnant.<br /><br />Those who DO get pregnant in mid-life are generally women of PROVEN fertility - those who had children earlier.Linda Foxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15024201252345608291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-83550374126807721302014-01-26T16:43:25.556-08:002014-01-26T16:43:25.556-08:00I didn't buy the lie, but wasn't able to g...I didn't buy the lie, but wasn't able to get married before 40. So no children for us. In talking to many of my peers, I think the "lie" also spread to married couples who used birth control until they thought they were "ready" - but now even IVF can't help them. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-86749366911123714282014-01-26T14:46:58.435-08:002014-01-26T14:46:58.435-08:00(Cont'd from above)
These women chose to be &...(Cont'd from above)<br /><br />These women chose to be "tricked." They got something in return, namely a sense of connection with a group, regardless of whether its beliefs aligned with their long-term plans. Human beings who think about long-term are the exception, not the norm. I'm sure she had a great time in her late teens, 20s and early-30s. 20 years later, real life showed up… what some might call "being an adult." And paybacks are something else...<br /><br />And you are certainly right on one thing, Stuart: it's the media's fault. We are slaves to the glowing box and the women's magazines at the checkout counter. We can't help but read them and follow their cues. We're victims. And those Tea Party people, whoa. What I marvel at is how feminists viciously attack women like Selvaratnam for her heresy. I can't imagine social events with her NYC cadre will ever be the same again. More loneliness. Well, I hope her testimony can support more women in seeing that the ability to bear a child is a finite gift.<br /><br />A career woman needs a child, like a fish needs a… never mind.<br /><br />TipAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-86888238442733693762014-01-26T14:46:35.783-08:002014-01-26T14:46:35.783-08:00"It seems to have tricked large numbers of wo..."It seems to have tricked large numbers of women out of having children in order to enlist them in an ideological crusade."<br /><br />I disagree with you on this one, Stuart. And Selvaratnam says as much in her comments about not blaming anyone and seeing the discipline of nature in this regard. People are responsible for their choices, whether influenced by biology or otherwise. How many times have you heard people say "I couldn't help myself" and shouted "Give me a break!" at the TV? I admire Selvaratnum's honesty. She's not passing the buck at all. She's cautioning people who may be believing the same lie she did… before it's too late. And what is that lie? You can have it all! It's "free"!!! In the age of the undo button, anything is possible!<br /><br />Once again, what Selvaratnum was up against isn't the biological "push" women get to have children. Nay, this is about denying it. It's about the consequences of following the self-loathing, materialistic philosophical foundation of feminism, which is inextricably tied to Leftism: EQUALITY, whether real or imagined. Feminists imagine a lot of things. After all, "truth" is relative. And what I want to do with my body is my choice, right? Don't push your "truth" on my "truth." Relativism is the gateway to all this nonsense.<br /><br />When the core dogma of high feminist ideology is that woman alone has the choice to kill the gestating human life within her, on demand, we are talking about absolutism, not relativism. And that's the rub, right? We're not talking about control over one's life, we're talking about intentional, arbitrary control over life itself. That is enormous power! And we halt any real debate about it because people become "uncomfortable." Of course they do! Today's women have unfettered rights to control potential life, whether in terms of bringing life into the world or ending it. That's not equality, that's absolute power favoring one sex. Yes, I get that woman bears sole responsibility for bringing a life into the world, and the overwhelming responsibility for child-rearing, but let's be serious… most of that is biology. This extraordinary power of woman is exclusive. Men ain't got it. When that gift is viewed as an inconvenience or, worse, a problem, we are talking about something much larger than woman's greatest power. We're attacking it. Feminist dogma is hostile to themselves and each other. It doesn't protect the sisterhood, it prevents more sisters from becoming part of it. People like Selvaratnam are waking up to this reality later and later, and now… too late.<br /><br />We forget at our peril that women are normative. Selvaratnam also admits to being a demographic shoe-in for enrolling in the (normative) feminist cause: "a film and theatre producer, actress and activist based out of New York City…" She found a sense of belonging in this culture, and bought into its values and memes. There's nothing wrong with it, and I admire Selvaratnam for taking responsibility for her choices. What she's saying is: ideology has consequences. It follows character. It trumps rationality. After all, she's really saying "Look what happened to me: I put career first, family second, and now I don't have one of my own. And I'm very unhappy about it. I gave up a part of my life to something that can't ever love me back."<br /><br />(Cont'd below)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-21230543873355213032014-01-26T11:26:17.755-08:002014-01-26T11:26:17.755-08:0040 is the new 30 for career development. Human bio...40 is the new 30 for career development. Human biology, whether natural or artificially enhanced, has not materially changed.<br /><br />Leo G, good point. Not only does there remain a biological deficit during conception, gestation, and birth; but, also during the development of children in their formative years. Not to mention the increased likelihood of genetic and developmental defects.<br /><br />The web they weave is structurally unsound. It will not survive even a modest perturbation. Presumably this is the motivation to accelerate immigration, in order to continue the charade.<br /><br />Welcome the Dodo Dynasty.<br /><br />Make life, not abortion!n.nhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04252447117532342957noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-64741510247935495942014-01-26T11:24:07.842-08:002014-01-26T11:24:07.842-08:00This comment has been removed by the author.n.nhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04252447117532342957noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-87281423630449995212014-01-26T10:40:45.422-08:002014-01-26T10:40:45.422-08:00Let just say that IVF and other methods has become...Let just say that IVF and other methods has become fool-proof, and women in their forties/fifties could have the children they waited for.<br /><br />Umm hate to say it girls, but raising a child takes the energy of a twenty something or very in shape 30 something. Large families were different, as the older children helped in raising the younger.<br /><br />What a web we weave......Leo Gnoreply@blogger.com