tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post819553731147104165..comments2024-03-29T04:06:37.402-07:00Comments on Had Enough Therapy?: Your Narcissism Quotient: the I's Have ItStuart Schneidermanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12784043736879991769noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-71967980353864309442010-08-23T19:31:53.002-07:002010-08-23T19:31:53.002-07:00It's also observe the use of the terms "w...It's also observe the use of the terms "we", "I", and "they" with salesmen...talking here about business-to-business salespeople selling complex and expensive products. In this context, the use of "I" (as in "I've got this really interesting new product I want to tell you about") doesn't always denote narcissism in the same sense it would if overused by a CEO; it can also denote a sense of personal ownership. "They", on the other hand, is usually bad news. (Talking about company salespeople, not distributors or agents).<br /><br />The test for the "I" salesperson is when he has to deliver bad news: will he say "I'm not going to be able to get the Gerbilator modified for 440 volts like you requested", or will he revert to "They're not going to be able to..."David Fosterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15464681514800720063noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-92021444329416577092010-08-23T14:54:27.588-07:002010-08-23T14:54:27.588-07:00Thanks for sharing the experience with your partne...Thanks for sharing the experience with your partner. <br /><br />I have not tried this myself, but I do wonder whether a person can be retrained to use more first person singular pronouns. In principle, it should be possible, but it remains to be seen how.Stuart Schneidermanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12784043736879991769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-71981343329881291772010-08-23T12:41:01.711-07:002010-08-23T12:41:01.711-07:00Regarding CEO's and other high execs..
My exp...Regarding CEO's and other high execs..<br /><br />My experience has been that self made, boot strapper, execs are typically pretty down to Earth. Ones that come up through formal hierarchies are more likely to be narcissistic. Young execs who've risen quickly can be a bit full of themselves as well. <br /><br />As for telling a Narci that they use <b>I</b> too much, good luck. I don't think that they're aware of it. It's their default mode when relating events and other information, they're always the subject either by action or perspective. So while they'd probably make an effort in prepared statements, they'll shift to the FP singular and sing. possessive as soon as they have to speak extemporaneously. <br /><br />I have a business partner whose I count is probably like that of a 15 year old girl. We've had to confront him repeatedly because he'll refer to the company, and our activities, in a manner that makes it seem as though he is the entire company. That he's literally the only executive in the company. So we always have to vet his statements. But as soon as he's off the leash, he falls right into the same mode. But in his case, it isn't a surfeit of confidence, it's a severe lack of confidence masked by grandiosity.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-35347470493977848632010-08-22T21:24:55.914-07:002010-08-22T21:24:55.914-07:00And Pick Up Artists teach young slackers to have &...And Pick Up Artists teach young slackers to have "irrational confidence".<br /><br />What's the point of "acting confident" if you have nothing to be confident about?COUGARnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-80260563308324980372010-08-22T19:35:39.867-07:002010-08-22T19:35:39.867-07:00Recently-retired naval aviator and captain Neptunu...Recently-retired naval aviator and captain <a href="http://www.neptunuslex.com/" rel="nofollow">Neptunus Lex</a>:<br /><br />"When I took command, a mentor told me that I would suddenly feel more powerful, more handsome and that my jokes would be funnier. Only one of those things would actually be true, he said."David Fosterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15464681514800720063noreply@blogger.com