tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post8444949573589299193..comments2024-03-26T06:17:49.527-07:00Comments on Had Enough Therapy?: "The Cynical Girl"Stuart Schneidermanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12784043736879991769noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-82997508677353577042011-08-07T05:18:05.564-07:002011-08-07T05:18:05.564-07:00Excellent point, Dennis. Every profession does hav...Excellent point, Dennis. Every profession does have its own language. People have to know the game that is being played, the rules and the roles, and they need to learn how to play it very, very well.Stuart Schneidermanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12784043736879991769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-20624572356951093032011-08-07T05:05:58.520-07:002011-08-07T05:05:58.520-07:00Far too many people wants to feel "bad" ...Far too many people wants to feel "bad" about the challenges life throws them instead of seeing the good that can accrue to them by facing those challenges successfully.<br />Here is a secret that might help: Every job, profession, action has a language that defines it. Learn that language and one is more than half way to conquering it. One would be surprised at how much passion can be developed by understanding the challenge and the exhilaration of being the best one can be.<br />Only you can allow others to make you miserable.Dennishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14962996070458991675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-89687710925911182342011-08-06T10:48:37.381-07:002011-08-06T10:48:37.381-07:00JP,
There are a lot of people who find out early w...JP,<br />There are a lot of people who find out early what they are good at and a far larger number that have no clue. One has to be willing to experiment to get an inkling. I have worked on construction, became a musician, worked as a bar stocker and bartender, drove cars, been in the military, both Navy and Air Force, been a Senior NCO, went to college and received both an undergraduate and graduate degree, became a QA Specialist in Ammunition Surveillance, worked R&D developing AIS, taught classes, been a network administrator on both Novell and MS systems, been a program analyst, been a systems security officer, been a business manager for ISSO, developed training courses for military schools, et al.<br />All through the above I always spent time playing music and backing shows and found that when I retired I really enjoyed music because it was the only thing I had to work at to be good. The rest was interesting and instructive and gave me a chance to travel to many places and meet a lot of good people.<br />Enjoy it all and learn from everything you do and do it the best you can and life becomes its own reward.Dennishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14962996070458991675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-52907556445123002242011-08-06T10:47:51.791-07:002011-08-06T10:47:51.791-07:00One way of figuring it out is through academic per...One way of figuring it out is through academic performance, athletic prowess, musical performance... any time that your abilities are tested in the marketplace.<br /><br />Other than that, it is often a good idea to ask those older and wiser. When I meet with young people I can often tell where their talent lies. The clues are usually there, somewhere.Stuart Schneidermanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12784043736879991769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-19773467217248823482011-08-06T07:31:53.667-07:002011-08-06T07:31:53.667-07:00Stuart says:
"You go out into the world with...Stuart says:<br /><br />"You go out into the world with your talent and your character. First, you should know what you are good at. Second, you should be ready and willing to work very hard at your job. Your job is not the place to try to get in touch with your feelings."<br /><br />I never was able to figure out what I was good at. I still don't know and I'm 37.<br /><br />How in the world are you supposed to figure this out when you are younger?JPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11126071014909954387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-86482957509834173572011-08-05T14:19:23.798-07:002011-08-05T14:19:23.798-07:00Thank you. I was always a slacker and I think that...Thank you. I was always a slacker and I think that passion just came out at the right opportunity. (95% of the office staff walked out. I was a basic gofer who couldn't afford to quit, and the few of us remaining had to teach ourselves how to keep the business afloat, even though we hated the current owners.)<br />The learning part was passion. The reason for staying in a dysfunctional workplace was a mystery. (I wasn't the only one.)<br />It was only until I ran across "The Addictive Organization" by Anne Wilson Schaef that some things began to make sense.<br />But that is a whole separate topic.<br />It may be of interest to you though:<br /><br /><a rel="nofollow">http://www.amazon.com/Addictive-Organization-Overwork-Pieces-Perpetuate/dp/0062548743</a><br /><br />Cheers,<br />LSLordSomberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08483452672640797537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-13317860933565139372011-08-05T11:54:55.656-07:002011-08-05T11:54:55.656-07:00One could also say that you had great natural tale...One could also say that you had great natural talent for the field and a strong work ethic that made you persevere and put in a lot of extra time. Clearly, anyone who is good at something and who works hard at it will feel gratified... but I think that the anti-passion crowd would not see your success as a function of passion. <br /><br />Of course, we could be wrong too...Stuart Schneidermanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12784043736879991769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-10683463848144370342011-08-05T11:41:47.528-07:002011-08-05T11:41:47.528-07:001. “Passion doesn’t pay the bills.”
2. “Performanc...<i>1. “Passion doesn’t pay the bills.”<br />2. “Performance pays. Passion doesn’t.”</i><br /><br />May I posit that sometimes passion leads to performance?<br />(Anecdotal, but...) I lucked into a field I had a passion for, but with little formal background. <br />So evenings I would go to the local college's computer lab and teach myself the relevant software.<br />Meanwhile, I would check out books from the library on the fundamentals of the field. Also, I subscribed to relevant trade periodicals.<br />A dozen years later I find myself in an office with mediocre coworkers with no passion or creativity (in a field that is creative). And it shows in the end product. Very frustrating.<br />But I guess the upshot is that it made me shine (and get more raises. And happier customers.)<br /><br />If the passion is constructive (and humble), it can lead to performance.<br /><br />P.S. I had no mentors the entire time. How galvanizing it could be to have a mentor channel someone's passion constructively!LordSomberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08483452672640797537noreply@blogger.com