tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post928605052166154050..comments2024-03-26T06:17:49.527-07:00Comments on Had Enough Therapy?: The Case of the Jealous WifeStuart Schneidermanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12784043736879991769noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-2358241266784013882019-05-03T14:55:37.995-07:002019-05-03T14:55:37.995-07:00This one is obvious. Replace 'jealousy' wi...This one is obvious. Replace 'jealousy' with 'grief' and you have a clear story. You can take the woman out of the situation, but the situation is still in the woman. After a life of hardship that she somehow survived, now that she is safe and life seems beckon her, all of a sudden the pain that she has been carrying hits her right between the eyes, and hard. The good news is that this is a transition, if she takes the right direction, it will pass. The other news is that she and her husband will probably need some help to understand what is happening to her. Feeling your feelings won't cure it, and neither will the mechanics of CBT. Interpersonal psychotherapy, short and sweet, might be an option.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-4936667029207480542019-05-03T11:09:56.697-07:002019-05-03T11:09:56.697-07:00Interesting observation... one that makes a lot of...Interesting observation... one that makes a lot of sense to me.Stuart Schneidermanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12784043736879991769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-49586856328177875582019-05-03T10:49:49.260-07:002019-05-03T10:49:49.260-07:00I think the country she has moved to is the US. I ...I think the country she has moved to is the US. I am a teacher and she writes like many of my ESL kids. Probably why she does not understand the meaning of jealousy and other words.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-82225730003692982262019-05-03T09:42:20.253-07:002019-05-03T09:42:20.253-07:00I think she is using the right word when it matter...I think she is using the right word when it matters based on this sentence at the beginning of her letter that she never touches on again<br /><br />"If I had to get more specific, I would say everything nice that my HUSBAND HAS and all the women he even pays slightly more attention to (in a weird “I find you or your personality attractive” kind of way)."whitneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01339343160301118530noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-27810219163946180522019-05-03T08:31:33.604-07:002019-05-03T08:31:33.604-07:00Stuart: You will note, with some bemusement, that ...Stuart: You will note, with some bemusement, that she doe not know the meaning of the word “jealousy.” She mistakes it for envy and resentment.<br /><br />Growing up, I frequently heard people say jealous/y when they mean envious/envy, and I can fall into that misusage myself due to my imperfect cultural upbringing, even if I doe know the correct meaning. So we doe not necessarily know she does not know it. I also notice bemusement may have an alternative meaning as contempt.Ares Olympushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09726811306826601686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-20206806037281492512019-05-03T06:38:48.038-07:002019-05-03T06:38:48.038-07:00Dan, historically, that problem usually get sorted...Dan, historically, that problem usually get sorted out with all the men being slaughtered and the women sold into slavery. If you don't fix your problems, someone usually comes along with another solution.<br /><br />The pigs often survive the invasion by running off into the woods.UbuMaccabeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00237833458790876775noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-32068488950658323242019-05-03T06:15:25.100-07:002019-05-03T06:15:25.100-07:00An observation, and one that will create a tangle ...An observation, and one that will create a tangle of controversy:<br />Women are trouble. The further they are from nurturing motherhood the worse the trouble gets.<br /><br />Creating the environment to allow for nurturing motherhood - all the many things that make a society pleasant, safe, and free - should be the task taken by adult men, who today are often not up the the challenge. And so we have the present problem of un-moored females and dissatisfied males both searching for happiness and neither finding it. Dan Pattersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18306436521768077821noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078379512095504946.post-7417483505712647312019-05-03T05:58:12.723-07:002019-05-03T05:58:12.723-07:00If she thinks the way she writes, then I have no i...If she thinks the way she writes, then I have no idea why he (or anyone, for that matter) would marry her. Maybe he wants to be able to move the entire family to America and she is the bridge they have all been looking for. Maybe he wants a dummy around who will remain oblivious to his serial infidelity. Maybe she has a fine ass, and that is enough. Maybe she should get out more and make her own friends.UbuMaccabeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00237833458790876775noreply@blogger.com