Just what we needed, a history of swear words. The category
comprises curses, profanity, obscenity and even blasphemy.
Be that as it may, Melissa Mohr has written a book that, by all
accounts is a valuable contribution to the history of swearing.
Among her intriguing conclusions: polite society used to be
defined by its rejection of profanity involving bodily functions like
fornication and excretion. Being a public person meant keeping your private matters to yourself. Today, polite
society is nonchalant about profanity but it is militantly opposed to
derogatory references to race, gender, ethnicity and certain kinds of sexual behavior.
Joseph Bottum summarizes this aspect of Mohr’s argument:
In her
account, the sex-based swear words so reviled by the Victorians have become
almost commonplace: No real stigma attaches to their use these days, although
certain classes may still feel a little antiquated frisson when they write or say them. The real swear words
of our time, she notes, are race- and gender-based epithets, which polite
society has banned—words that, indeed, almost define polite society by their absence.
It isn’t just profane terms that
were proscribed, but often more technical references to private matters were also frowned upon. Saying “shit”
at the dinner table was vulgar, but people did not sit around talking about
fecal matter either.
Obviously, using polite language was a sign of status. When
you use the more profane words you are lowering your status. When someone curses
you out or insults you profane language, he is trying to diminish you. It seems
to be a way to compete for status.
Of course, the difference between public and private
reflects the division between the sacred and the profane.
Since polite society is defined as a place where social
harmony prevails, certain rules must be observed. The purpose is not to fight,
or even to compete over the dinner table, but to socialize, to get along.
Trying to gain an advantage at someone else’s expense, by
injuring him does not contribute to this goal. Using language that shows you to
be out of place socially produces general discomfort.
On the other hand, some people prefer not to be part of
polite society. They believe it to be phony. They sprinkle obscenities throughout
their speech in order to designate themselves as proud members of a different
social stratum.
But, what does it mean to swear?
For one, Colin Burrow points out, swearing can also involve
taking an oath, giving your word or making a promise.
Importantly, when you swear an oath or give your word you
are engaging in an action. Swearing commits you to doing something, or even not
doing something. Whatever you meant when you swore the oath, your words bind you to do something.
The same applies to the effort to pin derogatory labels on
people.
Burrow explains:
Swearing is an action, and one that can hurt, harm, engage and enrage,
as Homer and Aristophanes and Chaucer and Shaw knew. When a swear word is used
casually as an intensifier it can carry a residuum of the pain and shock that
it is capable of inflicting in other circumstances. That transfer of shock is
part of what we do when we swear, whether we want to or not.
This makes obscenity a subspecies of what J. L. Austin
called doing things with words. If a minister pronounces a couple husband and
wife, he is doing something. If the Queen of England christens a ship she is
doing something.
When you give your word, it is assumed that you will honor
your commitment, that you will be there when you said you would be there. Your oath
will cause other people to take certain actions themselves because they know
that your words and your actions will coincide
Similarly, when you curse someone you are doing something to
him, much as when a witch casts a spell or a god curses a Greek hero.
You might consider witchcraft to be mumbo jumbo, but you
certainly believe that certain derogatory terms hurt other people.
Sometimes a curse is intended to inflict pain; at times, people use a word that would be acceptable in some places but not in others. Some people have think enough skin to ignore a curse. Others have such thin skin that they become traumatized.
Philosophically, when you do something with words, the doing
supersedes the meaning.
It is easiest to understand in terms of curses, but the true
prototype is the proper name. If we are to believe Saul Kripke,
proper names designate unique objects. By extension, they do not served to
convey a meaning.
The Chinese words Hong Kong mean: fragrant harbor. And yet,
once they become the proper name of a place they will continue to be used
regardless how fragrant or how rancid the harbor smells. The clearest
indication of the way proper names are used is the fact that they are not
translated from one language into another. No matter what language you speak, Hong Kong is
Hong Kong. No English speaking person ever says that he is travelling to
Fragrant Harbor.
In much the same way, many people use a word like “fuck” in
a way that removes its normal meaning. When someone says “what the fuck” he is
not referring to fornication. And when someone says, “Oh, shit” he is not
referring to excrement.
In both cases the use of profane expletives is an attempt to
articulate a deeply felt and authentic emotion.
Of course, when you pepper your discourse with “oh, shit”
you are also reducing your social status. People who make a public spectacle of their
private emotions lose respect.
The exception lies in certain worlds where using such
expletives signal coolness or extreme youth.
I remember almost laughing as a teenager when my dad was frustrated because he forgot something and said "Oh, nuts!" It sounded funny, but I admit it never occured to me then whether nuts had any symbol value.
ReplyDeleteI remember further back in middle school, riding my biking for my paperroute and bag twisted into the handlebars sending me palm-first into a gravelly road, and I was inspired to swear up a storm, and surprised I felt strong, and didn't need to cry, and I cleaned off my bloodied enough to finish my route. So if swearing lowers ones status, perhaps less so than crying, even if no one was watching anyway.
My older brother's friends knew how to swear in every third word, and I was never impressed, easy contempt to dismiss anything they might be saying between. My younger sister liked to claim our brother taught her to swear because it made her laugh and it was fun to copy his funny phrases.
I don't swear to make people laugh, but I can see language can be fun, even shock value, but swearing just doesn't seem funny to me. But I will use strategic swear words to convey anger at a subject, but not at a person or about people, but more when my idealism has been crushed by reality that doesn't care about my standards of they way things ought to be.
The worst insult anyone can tell might might be that I don't listen well, and I may have a thin skin for explicit criticism, but I admit I don't know how to fight back, even if I wanted to try a clever retort. I'll just try to sidestep whether I have failed in my duties and acknowledge that I'm trying to understand or whatever.
Oh, I guess really, I'm not offended by swearing or indecent talk, if someone feels the need to release their anger or whatever, I can think "This person is angery or hurt" and not take it personally. I'd rather angry people swear than break things, even if I mostly don't worry about that either.