What would we do without science?
A new study has discovered that women have a maternal
instinct.
Astonishing.
Better yet, this instinct manifests itself in the way that
new mothers talk to their babies.
The best, fathers do not talk to the same infants in the
same way. Even more maternal fathers do not engage in very much baby talk.
Apparently, fatherly speech points a child out of the home
into the world.
Amazing.
Time Magazine reports:
Most
mothers [talk baby talk] without thinking: cooing to their young children in a
sing-songy, high pitched way that seems to help them connect better with their
youngsters.
Mark
VanDam, a professor in speech and hearing sciences at Washington State
University, wanted to find out in his new study presented at the annual meeting
of the Acoustical Society of America. While previous studies have looked at how
moms and dads interact with their preschoolers, most of these have been in the
rather artificial setting of a lab. So researchers led by VanDam strapped
recording devices on both parents and their toddlers for an entire day in order
to hear what parents were really saying to their children—and how they were
saying it—in a more natural setting.
They
found that mothers do indeed adopt “motherese” when addressing their
preschoolers, but fathers did not—even those who spent more time with their
children. In fact, the fathers talked to their young children in the same way
they conversed with adults.
Why is this so?
Apparently, there is good reason for both tactics. Thus,
there is good reason why a child has both a mother and a father and why these
two individuals perform different functions.
Time explains:
That
may be because mothers vary their intonation more and tend to speak in a more
infantile way in order to bond better with their toddlers, according to a
theory proposed in the 1970s. Mothers are supposed to teach their children how
to connect on a more intimate level, and speaking in a more melodic way
introduces children to this way of communicating, the theory goes. Fathers, on
the other hand, are the bridge for preschoolers to the outside world, and
fathers’ more varied vocabulary and adult intonations help to familiarize them
with this way of connecting with others. “The basic idea is that moms provide
the link to the domestic, more intimate type of talk, while dads provide the
link to the outside world,” says VanDam. “In that sense, moms and dads provide
different kinds of experiences that give kids more comprehensive exposure to
what kinds of language they need in the real world.”
These results were drawn from two-parent families.
Science has not yet discovered what happens in families
where fathers are absent and where both parents are of the same gender.
We await the results.
Sure, it all makes sense, right?
ReplyDeleteI don't know if there are many "no mother" families to study in the future, but its also unclear if the "maternal instinct" is ALWAYS present in ALL women of any age around any children, related or not, or if MORE LIKELY in biological mothers versus adoptive mothers, or whether a woman who are not mothered by someone with a "maternal instinct" fails to mother as well.
So variables to consider:
1) How well was a woman mothered (or fathered!) as a child?
2) How well a woman mothers before she has her own biological children?
3) How well a woman mothers other unrelated children after mothering her own?
Perhaps the word "instinct" gives it away, but even if its instinct, it might be dormant in many women until they give birth, and hormones bring it out, and those horomones might be triggered from giving birth OR even by proximity to a baby?
I guess we'll have to spend more money on this "science" just in case it can eventually discourage nontraditional families from these instinctual advantages.
But my sincere take from the study for now would say that if "My Two Dads" or "Three Men and a Baby" want to "mother" because there's none around (maybe they're on Mars, or in Holywood), they're going to have to work harder to overcome their natural reticence and will themselves into the art of baby talk.
And probably the STEM-leaning women also might find they've diconnected from their instincts need remedial lessons in baby-talk as well, just like the dads.
Wow! Talk about "politically incorrect"! Fathers have a function that can not be in vitro? What nonsense!
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