Whatever their rationale, psychoanalysts have always avoided
face-to-face contact with their patients. Beginning with Freud they have
traditionally sat behind their prostrate patients, looking off into space while
their patients were gazing at the wall.
Considering that treatment traditionally involved an hour a
day every week, that’s an awful lot of avoiding non-face-to-face contact. Of
course, you want to know what the deeper meaning of the practice. Here it is. The attitude
signifies rejection. Analysts who engage
this practice are saying that their patients are not good enough to face them.
Many of today’s psychoanalysts believe that they have made a
great leap forward. They have rearranged their furniture so that they can look
at their supine patients. Most often, however, their chairs elevate them above
their patients so they are more likely to look down at their patients than to
look them in the eye. It doesn’t signify rejection. It is closer to
condescension. Nothing about that should surprise anyone.
Amazingly, some analysts think it’s some kind of major
achievement to look a patient in the eye. In truth, it ought to be a given.
I have often opined that psychoanalysis produces more
depression than it cures; now we know one way that it does so. New research has shown that if you want to
overcome depressive tendencies you should, among other things, converse
with people face-to-face.
In the old days when psychoanalytic orthodoxy ruled, it was
commonly said that the inferior kind of treatment-- known at the time as
psychotherapy-- was distinguished by the fact that patient and analyst had
face-to-face meetings. The superior kind of treatment-- known as psychoanalysis--
was said to have begun when the patient lay down on the couch and abandoned the
“crutch” of speaking to his analyst face-to-face.
Then, analysts overcame their tendency to converse with
their patients. They listened with rapt attention to communications that were
coming from their patients’ unconscious minds. They called it free floating
attention, but it was more like daydreaming and tuning the patient out.
Of course, failing to take a patient at his word is a way to
reject him, to diminish and demean him.
You get the picture.
Current research has addressed the negative emotional
consequences of communicating via written and not spoken media. It distinguished
between texting and speaking to someone face-to-face. It even found that phone
calls were less effective than immediate contact. It concluded that: the more
face-to-face contact you have with other human beings the less likely you are
to be depressed.
Want to improve your mental health? Instead of lying on a
couch and babbling about green fields, try sitting up, looking your
therapist/analyst in the eye, and having a conversation with him. That assumes that he knows how to do so.
The Daily Telegraph reports:
Replacing
face-to-face contact with friends and family with emails, text messages and
phone calls could double the risk of depression, a major study suggests.
Research
on 11,000 adults found that those who meet friends and family at least three
times a week are far less likely to suffer from depression.
Individuals
who had such contact just once every few months had an 11.5 per cent chance of
later suffering from depressive symptoms two years later.
By
contrast, those who met up with family and friends at least three times a week
had the lowest level of depressive symptoms, with rates of 6.5 per cent.
And also:
Dr Alan
Teo, lead author and assistant professor of psychiatry at Oregon Health and
Science University, said: "We found that all forms of socialisation aren't
equal. Phone calls and digital communication, with friends or family members,
do not have the same power as face-to-face social interactions in helping to
stave off depression."
And:
Dr Teo
said: "Research has long supported the idea that strong social bonds
strengthen people's mental health. But this is the first look at the role that
the type of communication with loved ones and friends plays in safeguarding
people from depression."
Connecting to other people is better than not connecting
with other people. If your mood is markedly improved by having a direct
conversation with someone for three times a week think of all the damage you do
by meeting five times a week with someone who will not face you and who makes
looking you in the eye a major personal psychodrama.
For the record, analysts who need to psychoanalyze
themselves before they can look their patients in the eye are simply
rationalizing their failure to do so from the onset.
Here, the history of psychoanalysis is relevant. Freud
performed his initial self-analysis by writing letters to his friend Wilhelm
Fliess. Ever since, people have called it his writing cure. Everyone has seen
it as distinct from psychoanalysis proper, which has been known as the talking cure.
By all appearances, however, psychoanalysis is much more
like a writing cure spoken out loud than a talking cure. If that is the case—the
latest research suggests as much—we should not call it a cure at all.
Strangely, this research comparing the relative value of
direct spoken communication with written communication reflects on a practice
that is called deconstruction. You may or may not know it, but this pernicious
practice—it’s a fancy philosophical term for pogrom—has claimed that Western civilization
is based on a systematic repression of writing in favor of speech.
Deconstructionists argue that the speech act involves
presence and the use of the voice. It also, obviously enough, involves face. All
of that is reasonable enough. This being the case, when you are speaking to
someone face-to-face you will have much more difficulty avoiding responsibility
for what you say.
Writing can be performed anonymously. When your reader reads
what you wrote, you will very likely be absent. Writing silences your voice.
This means that you can say more stupid things in writing
than you can in speech and can more easily evade responsibility for your
actions. The argument suggests that by overcoming the cultural prejudice toward
speech you can get in touch with your inner demons and allow them to express
themselves freely.
You can say offensive and insulting things and no one will know
that you were the one who said them. When it is not trying to make us into
junior brown shirts deconstruction is trying to make us all into internet
trolls.
Stuart: ...when you are speaking to someone face-to-face you will have much more difficulty avoiding responsibility for what you say.
ReplyDeleteI can go back and forth on all of this. I'd tend to consider that it is easier to take responsibility in writing because
(1) You have time for a measured response, compared to a gut reaction in person that might be unkind
(2) You can't undo what you've written and shared, while ignoring recording devices, you can deny what you just said, or claim you said something else, or meant something else.
And I don't feel rejected when someone isn't looking at me. I might feel more self-conscious and distracted by continual eye contact.
But of course the advantage of face-to-face communication (or one-on-one in general) is that you can adapt what you're saying based on how the other person is responding, so like if they seem bored or distracted or upset, you'll know you're probably not being heard, and you can halt and see what the other person needs before trying to continue.
I've heard it claimed, maybe first by Deborah Tannen, that women will tend to communicate face-to-face more, and men side-to-side more, without paying attention to facial clues. OTOH, vision however quick, might be the least accurate of our senses, and listening how someone says something might be more important. Of course you can do both, but not everyone might be as skilled in taking in sight and sounds and "hear" both well?
Here's one:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/he-speaks-she-speaks/201404/why-you-stand-side-side-or-face-face
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• The Vis-à-Vis Frame. When two people come together, they greet and address each other in a face-to-face position. They will adjust the distance between themselves according to their ethnic traditions, their level of intimacy, their prior relationship, their business together, and the available physical space and circumstance. The vis-à-vis frame is a prerequisite for making eye contact.
• The Side-by-Side Frame. Often, this is a communication choice, especially among men. It precludes eye contact. However, sometimes unrelated people assume a side-by-side position by accident or because of the physical nature of their circumstances. They happen to be walking in the same direction or they sit down on the same bench or the same seat on a bus. In this case, they may have no other relation to each other.
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That makes me all religious. Seeing God's face is man's desire.
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