If you are vaguely familiar with my thought on the question,
you might imagine that I will be telling you that psychoanalysis has no future.
It’s as dead as a dead horse, and we have all learned not to beat a dead horse.
The cognoscenti in the psychoanalytic world should not be
surprised. In being dead psychoanalysis is fulfilling a prophecy uttered by the
great French psychoanalyst, Jacques Lacan. You might recall, in Rome in
1973, or was it 1974, Lacan said that the Roman Catholic Church would outlive
psychoanalysis.
How right he was!
One does not know whether Lacan’s cult followers have found
a way to raise the dead, but I am confident that they are hard at work on
solving the problem
One notes and one underscores that Lacan was comparing
psychoanalysis with a religion, not with a scientific technique or a medical
treatment. He was saying that a true religion will always outlast a fake
religion, an apparent religion, a pseudo religion, a cult.
Of course, to the chagrin of his cult followers Lacan had
himself contributed to the demise of psychoanalysis as a treatment. Others have
denounced psychoanalysis as a con game and a mountebank’s trick, but Lacan was the highest ranking member of the Wholly Freudian Church who declared
it to be a scam. And Lacan also said, for those who have now forgotten, that if
anyone gets better by doing psychoanalysis, it is by accident.
Yes, I recognize that Lacan’s faithful toadies have tried to
distort the meaning of the line to make it mean something other than what it
says. But, the sentence is unambiguous. Worse yet, it is consistent with other
pronouncements.
Nevertheless, Lacan’s followers have declared that Lacan did not mean what he said, but, if he did, he did not know what he was saying.
For those who remain true believing true believers, that will solve the
problem.
Yesterday, amidst the din over the Republican convention I
came across an intriguing sign of the times,
a hint at a more productive future for psychoanalysis. This time, it’s
from Japan. It appeared on Yahoo News, but the story comes to us from AFP, that
is, Agence France Presse.
In principle there is very little if any psychoanalysis in
Japan. This despite the fact that many books about psychoanalysis, including my
1983 book about Lacan, have been translated into Japanese.
The Japanese are orderly and economical. They have extracted
the essence from psychoanalysis and transformed it into a new profession: rent
men.
Does it show the future of psychoanalysis? I suspect that it
does.
In Japan today, women and even men who want to talk to an
anonymous someone who will just listen but rarely respond can hire what are
called “rent men.” One cringes at the sexism at play here. Why not “rent women?”
And why not “rent boys” or “rent girls?”
Evidently, the Japanese have a lot to learn about political
correctness.
Sometimes these rent men sit silently and listen, allowing other
people to speak their minds, without fear of offending anyone. Sometimes they
engage in conversation, though the story does not make clear what they have to
say. One suspects that, like psychoanalysis, the clients of these “rent men”
are trying out different roles and buying silence. You understand that someone
who sits silently by while you try on a role is playing the role of the
audience.
After all, these men, the story's title tells us, are just paid to listen. In truth, if they are listening the way psychoanalysts are listening they are faking it. But, what did you expect?
And, truth be told, the price seems altogether fair. $10 an
hour. If psychoanalysis promotes itself as a therapy, it’s worth about $10 an
hour. At least, until their raise the minimum wage in your neighborhood.
The AFP story lays it out:
From
lonely pensioners to Japanese schoolgirls with shattered dreams, Takanobu
Nishimoto and his crew of middle-aged men will lend an ear to clients who would
never dream of spilling their guts to a therapist or worse, their families.
Anyone
in need of company can sign up to his online service to rent an
"ossan" -- a man aged between 45 and 55 -- for 1,000 yen ($10) an
hour.
"For
me, the service is a hobby more than anything," says Nishimoto, who first
came up with the concept four years ago and who now has a growing network of
some 60 men across Japan.
"The
initial idea was to improve the image of guys my age, people who might not be
spring chickens anymore and not taken so seriously."
And
while the 48-year-old professional fashion coordinator is used to renting
himself out, he insists conversation is all he offers to between 30 and 40
clients a month, roughly 70 percent of whom are women.
"The
people who rent me are just asking me to keep them company for an hour or two,
mainly to listen to them," he tells AFP between sessions, giving the
example of a woman in her 80s who would book him every week for a walk around
the local park.
To be clear, it’s all about free speech. Or, at least, the illusion
of same, which Freudians call free association:
Rather,
those who use the service say it allows them to forget the expectations of
their family and friends and speak freely -- an option which experts say is
especially useful in Japan, where social roles can be tightly defined and
expectations rigid.
Funnily enough, clients of these rent men do gain insight
about themselves by speaking in ways that they would not be allowed to in
normal social intercourse. And you thought that it required years of medical or
paramedical training, plus years of personal psychoanalysis, plus years of
studying in an institute to qualify you to help people to gain insight. In truth, you needed
merely to be taciturn to a fault.
AFP continues:
"There's
a different 'me' depending on whether I'm with my friends, my family, or my
boyfriend," says 24-year-old Nodoka Hyodo after her session with
Nishimoto.
She
explains: "I create a 'me' in relation to others. Here, all that
disappears because I'm talking to someone I don't know -- thanks to him, I feel
like I'm understanding myself better."
The rent man service is a variant on other services. In the
end they all show how well the Japanese have understood the importance of
transference. In these other services, you can go out and hire someone to be
your fake friend or family member:
In
recent years, a number of agencies have been offering "rent-a-friend"
services paid by the hour.
Customers
can rent an agency employee as a fake friend, family member, or companion for
various occasions such as weddings, funerals and parties. Some use them just to
have a conversation partner to ease times of loneliness and isolation in old
age.
The Japanese have always been very good at cutting to the chase.
ReplyDeleteHowever, it is sad to have so many people who don't have a real friend to talk to (but how many of us tell our own friends all our secrets?)
I guess my dad was a sort of "rent man" from me when he was alive. We'd go months not talking sometimes, but I'd always know he'd be there to listen if I needed him, and we'd always talk longer than I planned. He didn't even charge $10/hr. I can't say who talked more, but I felt in control, to open a topic, redirect it, and shut it down if it didn't serve my needs in the moment, and he'd usual comply happily.
ReplyDeleteAbout 5% of the time I sort of liked his new-agey wisdom. Sometimes it even came across close to Star Trek's "prime directive", basically saying we have no responsibility to help anyone else unless we felt like it, so more of an optional prime directive I guess.
Most of the time I thought he was gullible, and he'd listen to Coast to Coast Radio which he said was where you'd learn all the things that would eventually come out in mainstream media years later. The possibility the speakers were full of shit never seemed to occur to him. And its unfair since I like creative interpretations of events and reality, but there's some metaphysical level I just can't go. Sure, there's more that meets the eye, but all that Atlantis stuff with crystal technology that allowed distant communication and transportation, until they destroyed themselves. Can anyone believe such mythology?
The biggest reason I can't imagine having kids is I'd have no idea what to tell them about the world. Be fearful is not terrible advice. Perhaps my mom taught me that, and maybe that's what made me frugal, but also too frugal to imagine being responsible for the cost of raising children now-a-days.
Perhaps I'm a "rent man" to my younger sister? It is fun to offer advice, especially things like that she should divorce her husband. I don't suppose "rent men" are supposed to say things like that. Then I realize she's probably better off having someone to take care of. Maybe she just likes it when I tell her her anger is just, and then she switches side to defend him.
It is a curious modern world how conversations start by one small momentary need, and often shift to a dozen different things. But I guess if I'm going to be a good life coach, I have to learn to focus and also compare my advice to what I'm willing to do myself in something similar, and then I see why advice is easier to offer than to follow.
But the hardest time I can't help is probably ages 16-26, where young people find their calling. I can listen, and I have NO advice. I'd say live with your parents until you're 30, and be nicer to them than I was. They're human too you know.