The news is not new. For all of America’s raised
consciousness about sexual harassment, dating at the least to the Clarence
Thomas confirmation hearings a quarter century ago, the problem persists. Recent
disclosures suggest that it has gotten worse. As I have often noted, the
absence of codes of proper sexual conduct cannot be compensated by criminalizing all
bad behavior.
One must add, yet again, that men who sympathized with the feminist cause were quickly forgiven every manner of predation. The Weinstein scandal is the first time that a man of the left has been held to account.
Many feminists believe that the raised consciousness counts as a victory in the war against men. And yet, it is
also well known that men have reacted to this consciousness by avoiding personal contact with women
in the workplace. Happily, those who have perpetrated these assaults will
receive their just punishment. And yet, the public conversation has made working
women radioactive. Senior men avoid socializing with junior women. The avoid mentoring junior women. They avoid taking junior women into their confidence. They avoid being alone with junior women. It is not worth the risk.
Claire Cain Miller has explained the unintended consequences
of the recent national conversation:
Even
before the recent attention on harassment, the
practice of avoiding
solo meetings with colleagues of the opposite sex was not uncommon. It
could mean not sharing in cabs, travel, lunches, projects or get-togethers over
coffee, and not meeting behind closed doors.
Nearly
two-thirds of men and women say people should take extra caution around members
of the opposite sex at work, and about a quarter think private work meetings
with colleagues of the opposite sex are inappropriate, according
to a poll conducted in May by Morning Consult for The New York Times.
What is gingerly called “solo interaction” has now become
off-limits:
Yet 64
percent of senior men and 50 percent of junior women avoid solo interactions
because of the risk of rumors about their motives, according to a survey by the
center.
Miller presents the evidence:
In
Silicon Valley, some male investors have declined one-on-one meetings with
women, or rescheduled them from restaurants to conference rooms. On Wall
Street, certain senior men have tried to avoid closed-door meetings with junior
women. And in TV news, some male executives have scrupulously minded their
words in conversations with female talent.
In
interviews, the men describe a heightened caution because of recent sexual
harassment cases, and they worry that one accusation, or misunderstood comment,
could end their careers. But their actions affect women’s careers, too —
potentially depriving them of the kind of relationships that lead to promotions
or investments.
It’s an
unintended consequence of a season of sex scandals. Research shows that
building genuine relationships with senior people is perhaps the most important
contributor to career
advancement. In some offices it’s known as having
a rabbi; researchers call it sponsorship.
Unlike mentors,
who give advice and are often formally assigned, sponsors know and respect
people enough that they are willing to find opportunities for them, and
advocate and fight for them.
But
women are less likely to build such relationships, in part because both senior
men and junior women worry that a relationship will be misread by others. At
every level, more men than women say they interact with senior leaders at least
once a week, according to research by
McKinsey and the nonprofit Lean In. This imbalance is a major reason
women stall
at lower levels of companies, according to a variety of research.
Of course, this state of affairs, has harmed women’s career prospects. And yet, we should not forget that the primary reason why women do not move up the corporate ladder is motherhood. Miller neglects to mention the salient fact, but it
is worthy of note.
The problem is simple.Why mentor a young woman when she is likely to have children and to want to spend more time caring for them. Becoming a senior executive makes a woman less attractive to men. For their part many women do not want to gain access to the executive suite if it costs them their marriages.
As often happens in these discussions, authors assume that
women want exactly what men want, that is, to be CEOs of major corporations and
that the only thing keeping them from doing so is misogyny. Unfortunately, they do not really consider what women want, how
they would choose to conduct their lives.
For her part Miller outlines the ways in which the recent
national conversation has increased the reputational risk to men. It is not
just about what did or did not happen, but about the way it looks. The more
people have their minds filled with scenes of sexual harassment the more likely
they are to see it, even where it does not exist:
Some
are avoiding solo meetings with female entrepreneurs, potential recruits and
those who ask for an informational or networking meeting.
“Before,
you might have said, ‘Of course I would do that, and I will especially do it
for minorities, including women in Silicon Valley,’ ” the investor said. “Now
you cancel it because you have huge reputational risk all of a sudden.”
Sometimes
women avoid solo meetings with men who have made them uncomfortable or have bad
reputations, as when female executives brought
colleagues to meetings with Mr. Weinstein.
Miller reports that an orthopedic surgeon told her that it
is simply not worth the risk… not just to reputation, but to career and
livelihood:
Dr.
Mukund Komanduri, 50, an orthopedic surgeon with a practice outside Chicago,
said he avoids being alone with female colleagues, particularly those he does
not know well or who are subordinates.
“I’m
very cautious about it because my livelihood is on the line,” he said. “If
someone in your hospital says you had inappropriate contact with this woman,
you get suspended for an investigation, and your life is over. Does that ever
leave you?”
He
mentioned a hospital colleague who lost his job because of harassment allegations.
“That individual has created a hypersensitive atmosphere for every other
physician,” he said. “We basically stand 10 feet away from everyone we know.”
Everyone is hypersensitive, and all women suffer. In passing
Miller pays lip service to the possibility that the enhanced awareness has
caused some men not to say or to do things they might have said or done. Yet, the current explosion of stories tells us that threats
and intimidation has not even curtailed the harassment:
In some
cases, the heightened awareness has improved people’s behavior. “People are
more sensitive to how they conduct themselves, because they’ve seen what can
happen,” said a male executive in the news and entertainment industry, who
spoke anonymously because of the same heightened caution over the topic that is
in the air in some workplaces. “That’s presented a better working environment.”
One would hope that this is the case. Yet, it seems richly
ironic for an executive in the news and entertainment business, the place from
which most of today’s horror stories flowing, to say that greater awareness has
improved anyone’s behavior. It has not even improved anyone’s ability to call
out bad behavior. It produced a conspiracy of silence about sexual harassment.
One might also call it a strategic method.
ReplyDeleteIt all makes Mr Pence's refusal to socialize with other women - minus his wife - an understandable and very rational decision!
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ReplyDeleteIt makes sense that new barriers will spontaneously arise between the genders, and innocent interactions will decrease, along with opportunities.
ReplyDeleteI saw recently that 72yo film director James Toback got in the news on the sexual harrassment bandwagon for his past, and I peeked at his wikipage, and its fun to see how it gets changed over news.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/James_Toback
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Old: Personal life: Toback has developed a reputation as a "pick-up artist." ...
Recent: Toback has developed a reputation as a sexual predator. ...
Current: Controversy: Toback has been accused of sexually harassing young women. ...
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Language has power, and so a "pick-up artist" clearly suggests someone with talent, even if it is more talent for charming lies. Saying "sexual predator" goes the opposite direction, reducing women as victims as hunted animals. Saying "sexual harassing young women" is more weaselly, since harassing is subjective, but ultimately it is dismissing the entire masculine world where men are supposed to initiate contact.
So as this post suggests, if every interaction between a man and a woman risks become called sexually harassing, like if the man says something insensitive like "That's a nice dress", many men will prefer to not talk to women at all, at least not unless they actually want sex, and are willing to pay the price of doing what they're accused of doing.
I don't know if anyone has noticed how the wording of the accusations has become almost formulaic. He pressed himself against me, he pressed his erect penis against me, he chased me around the desk, etc............
ReplyDeleteIt doesn't mean the accusations are false, but it is interesting.
And now Mark Halperin... tsk-tsk.
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