Aurora Snow doesn’t get it. She doesn’t get why so many people are emulating her.
You see, Aurora Snow is a retired porn star, turned writer. Her name, Aurora Snow, is a pseudonym, because, like many porn stars, she did not want to drag the family name into the business.
Anyway, Snow does not understand why so many young people seem to want to be porn stars. She kind of gets why a couple might want to spice up their sex lives by filming it for posterity. The danger of exposure might, for some people, be an aphrodisiac. (It’s the premise of a new and apparently boring movie called “Sex Takes.”)
Given her experience, Snow is well-qualified to warn people of the risks of doing sex tapes.
People know the risk, and yet they still do it. Why?
Perhaps they have overcome their sense of shame. After all, in certain segments of our culture, shame is the enemy. It is something that must be overcome… in the interest of openness and honesty.
Sexting is apparently widely practiced by adolescents. It is so widely practiced that it has lost some of its stigma.
We all know that some celebrities have garnered fame and fortune by doing their own private porn. Think: Kim Kardashian.
And yet, people must know that if they want to be respectable professionals and have real careers, if they do not want to become celebrities, such exposure will do them no good.
Though Snow does not put it in these terms, many young people have learned about sex by watching porn. They believe that porn stars are setting a performance standard for sexual prowess. It is not bizarre that they would believe that they could improve their own sexual performance by doing having sex in front of a camera.
Also, if they have fetishized pornographic images, why should they not use their fetish by getting aroused by images of themselves? After all, it’s better than “cheating” by watching Aurora Snow.
Yet, porn stars know better than anyone the price of full frontal exposure.
Snow explains that anyone who is choosing to immortalize his sexuality on his iPhone should assume that, at some point or another, the images will escape their confines and enter the public domain.
She offers a word of warning:
So next time you’re feeling the urge to film, remember that a two-minute video is never just a two-minute video. Sex tapes aren’t always fun and fortune—they can be a disastrous embarrassment. And they can be used as video incrimination or provide for some good old-fashioned shunning.
A quick glance at the tabloids will let you know whose tape might become public next. Yet, as long as there is a thrill to be had or a long shot at fame, people will immortalize their sex for future generations to marvel at.