Wednesday, January 7, 2009

"Does Couples Counseling Work?"

On December 23 I wrote a post called: "Does Psychotherapy Work?" Then, on December 26 I wrote one called: "Does Rehab Work?" Maybe there is something in the air, but now Cosmo has given us an article entitled: "Does Couples Counseling Work?" Link here.

The article opens with a brief glimpse into the best counseling that money can buy. That being the one undertaken by Madonna and Guy Ritchie.

According to Cosmo, their high-end counselor gave Madonna and Guy "meticulous measures" to overcome their marital discord.

Since the measures described as "meticulous" are sorely lacking in precise detail, I assume that Cosmo editors do not know what the word means. But, why cavil?

Thanks to their counselor Madonna and Guy posted "a list of relationship guidelines" on the walls of their New York apartment. Of course, if you have children who can read or friends coming in and out, this is not a great idea.

Guy was instructed to "enrich his wife's spiritual and emotional well-being," and to study the Kabbalah with her. And both parties were told: "not to use sex as a stick to beat one another."

For my part I cannot even venture to guess whose stick was being used to beat on whom.

Be that as it may, the tenor of the advice tells me one thing: that Madonna was paying for it. I hate to attribute even unconscious venal motives to anyone, no less a professional, but the counselor's advice is clearly one-sided.

Guy Ritchie was told that he could save his marriage by providing more fully for his wife's emotional and spiritual needs by participating in her religious practice. No one seemed to consider the possibility that he was just not that into Jewish mysticism.

Little matter that. The counselor told Ritchie to serve his wife, to attend to her spiritual and emotional needs, and to worship with her at the same altar.

Perhaps that was just what he needed to see clearly what he had gotten involved in. Couples counseling helped Guy Ritchie to see the writing on the wall, and he decided to cut his losses. Score one for couples counseling.

9 comments:

Adam said...

Their therapist's counsel is precise in meticulously inverting Old Testament dictums. Maybe she's studying the New Age Kabbalah?

Linda said...

As the topic says " Does Couples Counseling Work?"... I can just say one thing... Couples Counseling worked like magic for me. It has brought back happiness, peace and love to my relationship. It rocks! ;)

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Jennie said...

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african girl said...

Of course it really works! Through couples counseling I learned alot from it. It is a great tool to revive yourself from certain problems whether mentally and emotionally. It's a great help to those couple who has difficulty or doubts in their relationship.

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Karen A. said...

Couples Counseling or what others call "marriage counseling" really works and helped a lot of couples to save their marriage. But still it depends on both parties if they want to hold on and save their marriage.