Tuesday, July 22, 2014

Do You Really Want to Be a Porn Star?

Aurora Snow doesn’t get it. She doesn’t get why so many people are emulating her.

You see, Aurora Snow is a retired porn star, turned writer.  Her name, Aurora Snow, is a pseudonym, because, like many porn stars, she did not want to drag the family name into the business.

Anyway, Snow does not understand why so many young people seem to want to be porn stars. She kind of gets why a couple might want to spice up their sex lives by filming it for posterity. The danger of exposure might, for some people, be an aphrodisiac. (It’s the premise of a new and apparently boring movie called “Sex Takes.”)

Given her experience, Snow is well-qualified to warn people of the risks of doing sex tapes.

People know the risk, and yet they still do it. Why?

Perhaps they have overcome their sense of shame. After all, in certain segments of our culture, shame is the enemy. It is something that must be overcome… in the interest of openness and honesty.

Sexting is apparently widely practiced by adolescents. It is so widely practiced that it has lost some of its stigma.

We all know that some celebrities have garnered fame and fortune by doing their own private porn. Think: Kim Kardashian.

And yet, people must know that if they want to be respectable professionals and have real careers, if they do not want to become celebrities, such exposure will do them no good.

Though Snow does not put it in these terms,  many young people have learned about sex by watching porn. They believe that porn stars are setting a performance standard for sexual prowess. It is not bizarre that they would believe that they could improve their own sexual performance by doing having sex in front of a camera.

Also, if they have fetishized pornographic images, why should they not use their fetish by getting aroused by images of themselves? After all, it’s better than “cheating” by watching Aurora Snow.

Yet, porn stars know better than anyone the price of full frontal exposure.

Snow explains that anyone who is choosing to immortalize his sexuality on his iPhone should assume that, at some point or another, the images will escape their confines and enter the public domain.

She offers a word of warning:

So next time you’re feeling the urge to film, remember that a two-minute video is never just a two-minute video. Sex tapes aren’t always fun and fortune—they can be a disastrous embarrassment. And they can be used as video incrimination or provide for some good old-fashioned shunning.

A quick glance at the tabloids will let you know whose tape might become public next. Yet, as long as there is a thrill to be had or a long shot at fame, people will immortalize their sex for future generations to marvel at.

5 comments:

Anonymous said...

"Perhaps they have overcome their sense of shame."

Doesn't this make us no different from apes(that feel no shame--indeed have no concept of it)?

http://youtu.be/4DYUeajaEUg

Anonymous said...

"Perhaps they have overcome their sense of shame."

Okay, but when that happens, what will it take to make things exciting? If making a porn tape is supposed to get you beyond "bourgeois morals," and it becomes commonplace, chic and therefore bourgeois, what's the superlative going to look like then? What will up the ante and excite the senses?

This is all driven by a culture of narcissism, celebrity and domination. There are many public figures who embody these values. Yet this leads to self-centeredness, loss of privacy and using people to one's own ends, respectively. When human beings become objects, even if it's consensual (the myth of the "victimless crime"), then the true meaning of love goes out of the world, or at least becomes counter-cultural. That's why Christianity will continue to flourish, and why Christian values are the light of the Western world, as out of vogue as they appear on television. People are titillated by the unusual or bizarre, which might give us hope that this porn star thing is a fad or a curiosity. The true destruction will come when it is commonplace. Then perhaps people will begin to see Christianity anew, as the contrasting value set against the rapacious media culture. But Christian morality and ethics are a high standard. Maybe that's what makes them worth following.

This provides an opportunity for Aurora Snow to recognize and stand for the dignity of the human person -- which she has now that she's chosen not to give it away to the camera. Her advice should be heard loud and clear in this crazy world that values experience over all other things. Hers is testimony to what you will give away to find love, attention, and power. She knows it doesn't come with her former profession. Being a porn star isn't just a job, it's a lifestyle, and that lifestyle comes with a lot of tradeoffs that last forever. But redemption can happen at an instant. I wish her the best, and hope her story gets the airtime it deserves.

Tip

Anonymous said...

I've always wondered about Prostitution. The extent, the total money, the corruption. After all, many women (and some gay youths) can do it easily.

Every so often, Waukegan IL does a street prostitution sweep. They find many "johns" of high status and professions. Even clergy. And that's just the streets (where a few spasms can get you awful STDs).

I knew a pornographer in CA (email only, deceased). After the Crash of 08, his "models" Mothers were asking him for work.

It's not much better now. I'm sure there are many older gents like me, with a bit of disposable income. Viagra.

Who knows how many spend it on the cash-strapped neighbor lady? (I wouldn't) Heck, in my poor locality, most are a govt or paycheck away from homeless. There's a Paycheck or Auto Loan or Pawnshop on every street.

Porn is a relatively small sordid "business". Prostitution is un-knowably huge and ubiquitous. Hard times make for hard choices. What say you? -- Rich Lara

Anonymous said...

If you think this porn culture is pathetic, check this out:

The cuck-culture.

http://www.nerve.com/dispatches/ma/cuckold

It's about how white guys are looking for black guys to do their white wives.
Yo, wanna be a mothercucker?

Funny how these Liberals insist that there are no racial differences and would wince at words like 'buck' that was once to describe young black men in the South, but these same white liberals seek out Big black guys and call them 'bulls' to have wild orgies with them.


"The cucks I interviewed denied having a preference for Mandingos, but would eventually admit some sort of racialized, if not racist, baggage. Bob, a forty-seven-year-old caucasian male, says he found a relationship through an online ad posted by a woman pursuing black bulls. “I emailed her because I was hoping to fall in love with a sexual white woman who does black guys,” he says. “We hooked up and it was really wild.” The race thing is one of cuckolding’s more uncomfortable aspects. On most cuckolding sites, such as blacksonwives.com and myslutwife.com, there is an overwhelming preoccupation with “Mandingos,” or well-endowed black men. Similar racial parameters exist in the swinging community, as highlighted in Details magazine’s March article on “Mandingo parties” — interracial orgies arranged for single black men to have sex with white wives in front of their white husbands. The popularity of the orgies is buttressed by a two-prong fantasy: the white couple’s fetish for a “BBC” (big, black cock), and the Mandingo’s fetish for having sex with rich, white wives. All participants get something out of it, and a Mandingo even argues that interracial orgies are a by-product of multiculturalism and tolerance."

Anonymous said...

This is a liberal's idea of racial
progress.

A white conservative Republican guy is no longer so 'bigoted' since he enjoys watching his white wife have sex with black men on his own bed.

http://www.details.com/sex-relationships/sex-and-other-releases/200703/meet-the-mandingos