What Do Men Want?

Once upon a time people thought Sigmund Freud was being profound when he asked: What do women want? They also thought that he was being profound when he discovered the Oedipus complex. Perhaps today is not the right day to ponder the deeper meaning of that piece of recycled mythology. Even more so since France has today inaugurated a new president, a man who married his mother. Nice way to celebrate Mother’s Day. (For those who are sticklers for facts, Mother’s Day in France is two weeks from today. Vive la France!)

Someone wrote me this morning to suggest that when Brigitte met high school student Emmanuel Macron she "groomed" him. If you live in England you will get the meaning. If not, you might have to look it up.

Anyway, unless you have a plan to love or to marry all women you do not really need to know what women want. If you want to know what one woman wants, I recommend that you ask her. And that assumes that you are not sufficiently alert to have noted the dozens of clues that she has thoughtfully left lying around.

But, what better day to ask what men really, really want.  And who better to ask that a woman who has known a large number of them. Known… in the Biblical sense—because today is Sunday.

So, the Daily Mail recycles a report from an Australian newspaper about one Gwyneth Montenegro—no relation to Gwyneth Paltrow. You see Gwyneth M. was a lady of the evening. In honor of France’s new president we will call her what the French do, a demi-mondaine.

Naturally, the reporter wanted to know what men wanted? Who better to ask than a woman who had thousands of men. What kind of sex did men prefer when they could have any kind of sex at all… within limits, of course? You will be surprised to discover that men did not seek out depravity and abuse. Kinkiness was rarely on the menu.

So, here it is:

But it was also a lifestyle that gave Gwyneth a deep insight into what men really want from women as they confided in her about their desires and relationships.

Gwyneth found that most of her clients actually didn't want 'hardcore kinky sex' or a chance to live out 'sick fantasies'.

The sex was 'normal', but the escort found that many men felt 'more validated' in their own masculinity after they had sex with her.

'I don't want to be so brazen as to just blame feminism for this. However, I think there is a part to play where men do feel emasculated,' Gwyneth told News.com.au. 

A nice touch that… we do not want to blame feminism and the gender neutering that it has imposed on us. Call it a rhetorical sleight-of-hand.

She continued:

Gwyneth believes that men no longer know how to navigate a world where they're scared to open a door for a woman.

She found that many of her clients sought out escorts because they felt emasculated in their actual relationships.

'They don't know what it is to be a man anymore. They've lost their way,' she added. 

Gwyneth found that much of her job involved just talking to men, although she found there were some clients who liked the feeling of owning her for a bit. 

'They get an intense delight out of controlling women. They get more of a kick out of feeling like they control you, than they do off the actual sex,' she told the site. 

If women can take care of themselves, if they are independent and autonomous and self-sustaining, what is left for men to do? What is left that will not leave men feeling demeaned.

Happily, for her, Gwyneth retired from the escort business. Guess what she chose as her next career? That’s right, you guessed it: she became a therapist. A special kind, of course, but, it's Sunday so I am stretching things a bit:

It wasn't until the age of 33 that she finally retired once and for all and instead became trained in neuro-linguistic programming, a type of psychotherapy.  

Gwyneth then found fame when she wrote the story of her life in the book 10,000 Men and Counting, which was released in 2014. 

The former escort found writing the book to be a therapeutic experience, one she said helped her discover her true self as the 'girl next door'.   

We are happy to learn that writing about your experiences can be therapeutic. One suspects that high royalties are also therapeutic. As for the “girl next door” claim, I imagine that many women hope that Gwyneth will not be moving in next door to their husbands.