From Therapy to Happiness

Ever on the lookout for glimpses into therapy, I am grateful to the attentive reader who just sent me this excerpt from New York Magazine’s “Sex Diaries.” The reader prefers to remain anonymous. You will understand why.

Here, it’s all in the juxtaposition. We witness a young woman’s journey from her therapist’s office to home care. We get to see how therapy leads to happiness. 

One appreciates that the writer, who has never had a relationship and has only on the rarest of occasions been on a date, is discussing these matters with her therapist. She might also be discussing her first experience with BDSM, but perhaps not.

She has been doing therapy for over six years. Since she is 23… do the math.

Here is what happens in her therapy session:

8:15 p.m. At my therapist’s. I’ve been seeing him for over six years. The past year we’ve almost exclusively worked on my relationships with men, specifically my tendency to put pressure on guys in order to get some relationship or sign that they like me. Unsurprisingly, that hasn’t worked for me in the past. Lately I’ve gotten a lot better at taking a step back and letting relationships run their course.

Then, here is what she does afterwards, when she gets home and wants to wind down after what was surely an intense therapy session. (Trigger Warning: this is decidedly NSFW):

10 p.m. I get home from therapy and text the Dom a photo of my butt plug. I turn on some porn, lube up my butt plug, and use my vibrator. It is amazing. I fall asleep happy.

You see, therapy has given her a pathway to happiness. I trust that her story brightens your day.