Wednesday, October 27, 2021

But, Is It Rape?

Is it merely a reductio ad absurdum of the utter nonsense about gender? 

Let’s see. A boy with a skirt rapes two high school girls in Virginia. School. Administrators, upon being informed of the crimes, decide to cover it up-- because they want to advance their trans agenda. By their feeble thinking, gender is all in the mind. Right?

And then Barack Obama comes forth to say that it’s all a bunch of ginned up outrage by the right wing.

Anyway, the boy with a skirt was just found guilty of the rapes-- so much for Barack Hussein’s foray into gender politics.

Now, the latest in rape culture dawns in Great Britain. We learn about it through the BBC. The issue is this: if a trans woman, that is, a self-proclaimed woman with a penis wants to have sex with a lesbian, and the lesbian refuses, is the lesbian

transphobic? And if the lesbian in question is coerced into having sexual relations that she does not want because if she says No she will be exposing her bigotry, is it rape?

You think I am making this up?

Apparently, trans activists are not kinder and gentler. They are monstrous bullies, especially those who are boys wearing skirts, or better, girls with penises.

This comes to us from the BBC, that is, not from the vast right wing conspiracy:

"I've had someone saying they would rather kill me than Hitler," says 24-year-old Jennie*.

"They said they would strangle me with a belt if they were in a room with me and Hitler. That was so bizarrely violent, just because I won't have sex with trans women.”

Jennie is a lesbian woman. She says she is only sexually attracted to women who are biologically female and have vaginas. She therefore only has sex and relationships with women who are biologically female.

Jennie doesn't think this should be controversial, but not everyone agrees. She has been described as transphobic, a genital fetishist, a pervert and a "terf" - a trans exclusionary radical feminist.

"There's a common argument that they try and use that goes 'What if you met a woman in a bar and she's really beautiful and you got on really well and you went home and you discovered that she has a penis? Would you just not be interested?'" says Jennie, who lives in London and works in fashion.

"Yes, because even if someone seems attractive at first you can go off them. I just don't possess the capacity to be sexually attracted to people who are biologically male, regardless of how they identify."

Would you call this rape? If not, why not? 

So, now lesbians are becoming victimized by trans women, that is, women with penises. 

Several people got in touch with me to say there was a "huge problem" for lesbians, who were being pressured to "accept the idea that a penis can be a female sex organ".

I knew this would be a hugely divisive subject, but I wanted to find out how widespread the issue was.

Ultimately, it has been difficult to determine the true scale of the problem because there has been little research on this topic - only one survey to my knowledge. However, those affected have told me the pressure comes from a minority of trans women, as well as activists who are not necessarily trans themselves.

They described being harassed and silenced if they tried to discuss the issue openly. I received online abuse myself when I tried to find interviewees using social media.

Some extra anecdotes, about the case of Amy:

When Amy explained her reasons for not wanting to, her girlfriend became angry.

"The first thing she called me was transphobic," Amy said. "She immediately jumped to make me feel guilty about not wanting to sleep with someone."

She said the trans woman in question had not undergone genital surgery, so still had a penis.

And that’s not all, folks. As Amy makes clear, trans females still retain many male characteristics, characteristics that are unappealing to a lesbian. One remarks that no one discusses this aspect of transitioning, that is, that there’s more to gender than genitalia. Of course, you knew that. But the trans movement has forced everyone to deny reality:

"I know there is zero possibility for me to be attracted to this person," said Amy, who lives in the south west of England and works in a small print and design studio.

"I can hear their male vocal cords. I can see their male jawline. I know, under their clothes, there is male genitalia. These are physical realities, that, as a woman who likes women, you can't just ignore."

Amy said she would feel this way even if a trans woman had undergone genital surgery - which some opt for, while many don't.

Soon afterwards Amy and her girlfriend split up.

"I remember she was extremely shocked and angry, and claimed my views were extremist propaganda and inciting violence towards the trans community, as well as comparing me to far-right groups," she said.

Without going into the sordid details, removing male genitalia does not grant a trans women female genitalia.

Again, is the following example an instance of rape? Was she consenting?

Another lesbian woman, 26-year-old Chloe*, said she felt so pressured she ended up having penetrative sex with a trans woman at university after repeatedly explaining she was not interested.

They lived near each other in halls of residence. Chloe had been drinking alcohol and does not think she could have given proper consent.

"I felt very bad for hating every moment, because the idea is we are attracted to gender rather than sex, and I did not feel that, and I felt bad for feeling like that," she said.

Ashamed and embarrassed, she decided not to tell anyone.

"The language at the time was very much 'trans women are women, they are always women, lesbians should date them'. And I was like, that's the reason I rejected this person. Does that make me bad? Am I not going to be allowed to be in the LGBT community anymore? Am I going to face repercussions for that instead?' So I didn't actually tell anyone."

Mind games, I would call them. But, is it rape?

One compared going on dates with trans women to so-called conversion therapy - the controversial practice of trying to change someone's sexual orientation.

"I knew I wasn't attracted to them but internalised the idea that it was because of my 'transmisogyny' and that if I dated them for long enough I could start to be attracted to them. It was DIY conversion therapy," she wrote.

Another reported a trans woman physically forcing her to have sex after they went on a date.

Apparently, she was brainwashed by queer theory-- theory that that eminent nitwit Judith Butler has said is perfectly harmless:

"[They] threatened to out me as a terf and risk my job if I refused to sleep with [them]," she wrote. "I was too young to argue and had been brainwashed by queer theory so [they were] a 'woman' even if every fibre of my being was screaming throughout so I agreed to go home with [them]. [They] used physical force when I changed my mind upon seeing [their] penis and raped me."

While welcomed by some in the LGBT community, Angela's report was described as transphobic by others.

"[People said] we are worse than rapists because we [supposedly] try to frame every trans woman as a rapist," said Angela.

"This is not the point. The point is that if it happens we need to speak about it. If it happens to one woman it's wrong. As it turns out it happens to more than one woman."

As it happens, the biology of sexual attraction seems to be at work as these women with penises seek female sex partners:

Although there is currently little data on the sexual orientation of trans women, she believes most are female-attracted because they are biologically male and most males are attracted to women.

"So when they [trans women] are trying to find partners, when lesbian women say 'we want women', and heterosexual women say they want a heterosexual man, that leaves trans women isolated from relationships, and possibly feeling very let down by society, angry, upset and feeling that the world is out to get them," she said.

Debbie thinks it's fine if a lesbian woman does not want to date a trans woman, but is concerned some are being pressured to do so.

"The way that shaming is used is just horrific; it's emotional manipulation and warfare going on," she said.

"These women who want to form relationships with other biological women are feeling bad about that. How did we get here?"

Exactly the right question? How did we get here? Well, to venture a guess, it has happened because legions of the woke have imposed ridiculous unscientific dogmas on the population. We have also gotten here because trans people, suffering the aftereffects of their treatment, have decided that if they are miserable the only reason can be that someone called them the wrong pronoun.


n.n said...

Unsafe, but inclusive. Two girls. Rape and sodomy.

LordSomber said...

Coercive sex sounds pretty "rapey" or would be called such were it a straight male demanding it.

markedup2 said...

it's emotional manipulation and warfare going on
Without question.

However, rape requires physical force.

From the male point of view, the term "coyote ugly" didn't come about because of good decision making prior to sex. There may well have been emotional manipulation involved - on either or both sides - but that doesn't make it "rape".

If one is too embarrassed/ashamed/shy/whatever to say - at any point - "no, I just can't do this" and walk away - even if it involves getting redressed, first, that's a huge problem, but it is that person's judgement that "being raped" and dealing the lifetime of regret it will engender is better than getting out, RIGHT NOW. Who am I to say that's wrong? You want to be empowered? Making those sorts of judgement calls yourself is empowerment. It is by no means easy.

At some point, the default position became "you will have sex with me after this date" and the difficult choice is to say "no". It used to be the other way around. I'm glad I'm old and coupled.

lynney62 said...

My question: If you are born a man with male DNA and body parts to match, but you "feel" like a female and want to "be female", why not go ahead and dress as female but hook up with a MALE? Isn't that what DNA females do? Face it, trans-guy, you're homosexual, gay, sodomize a DNA female? Why? Get yourself a gay guy and do whatever............

Sam L. said...

I'm sitting this one out...waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay out!