Thursday, December 6, 2012

A Millennial Woman's Lament


The feminist life plan has become the norm. Whether it’s ideology or peer pressure or both, Millennial young women—the under-30s-- have been induced to conduct their lives exactly as feminism would have wanted.

Larissa Faw describes it well:

My Millennial-aged girl friends and I never doubted that we would accomplish all of our life goals. Everything, thus far, has pretty much gone according to our plans. We were accepted into the right college, landed the dream job, and developed a network of amazing friends. Our apartments are beautifully decorated and we have closets full of stylish clothing. Romance hasn’t been entirely sidelined, but we don’t waste our time trying to cultivate a relationship unless someone is really amazing.

But now, a growing number of Millennial women are beginning to fret over the unanticipated consequences of prioritizing our careers before love. And I only need to look at my group of friends to see this reality. Again and again, year after year, my successful, gorgeous, and amazing friends remain kiss-less on New Year’s Eve. And on Valentine’s Day. And on the 4th of July. The only dateable men we encounter are either attached, gay, or otherwise involved in “it’s complicated” situations. We are coming to the realization that we were unwittingly playing a game of musical chairs — while everyone was pairing up, those focused on our careers are left standing alone.

Today, one likes to hope, a young woman who chooses to follow this life plan will not be surprised to face “unanticipated consequences.”

I and many others have tried to warn young women against trying to make their lives conform to an ideological fiction. They are forewarned.

Admittedly, feminists sold this plan by saying that once these women had become, in Faw’s words: “successful, gorgeous, and amazing”… men would flock to them.

Assertions of inflated self-esteem are normally not the most attractive quality anyone can project. Young women who spend their time telling themselves and their friends how great they are tend to be seriously lacking in humility and modesty.

It’s a side-effect of the feminist life plan.

Reading Faw one can only conclude that feminists did not know what they were talking about or flat-out lied.

For today I will spare you a commentary on why things are as they are.

Instead, I propose that you read Faw’s column as an invitation. She has told us, rather clearly, that she and her fabulous girlfriends do not know very many suitable Millennial men. Most of them don't have dates for New Years Eve. 

If you or someone you know is a suitable Millennial man, why not drop Larissa Faw a line. Introduce yourself; start a conversation; get to know her; let her get to know you.

I don’t have her email and I would hesitate to publish it if I did. So, why not message her through Facebook. Even if you don’t hit it off, rumor has it that she knows a large number of ravishing, unattached Millennial woman friends.

25 comments:

Dennis said...

I have to admit that I find this amusing. Here one has women who are so into themselves that they have a set of criteria that they themselves would rebel against if those very same criteria were applied to women.
Interestingly enough, these criteria would exclude a large number of the millionaires and billionaires that now live in this country. A degree is just a $100,000 plus debt and a piece of paper that might open a few doors. I suspect it might be okay if one is happy just being a well paid cog. Why is it that these self indulgent women are so unhappy if the feminist life is so great?
This would not be as amusing if I had not heard so much drivel from feminists about how we men were to involved with work. What goes around comes around.

By The Sword said...

...trying...to...feel...sorry...for...them...

...unnnnh!

Nope, can't do it.

Anonymous said...

How many times can the writer of this piece use (or misuse) the word "amazing?" A lot, it seems.

Sam L. said...

These consequences should be obvious to those not wearing blinders. The Feminazis looooooove blinders, on other women. Have to guess they are misogynists.

Stuart Schneiderman said...

The conclusion is inescapable.

n.n said...

Well-heeled and available for sex and taxation. It's a liberal and progressive wonderland, respectively.

Hilarious! They have become the men who they previously despised.

That's the problem with all reactive movements. Without a principle base, they are vulnerable to suffer progressive (i.e. generational) corruption.

Can I assume that evolutionary dysfunction was an unintended consequence? Surely no sane people would voluntarily embrace genocidal behavior and commit generational suicide.

Anonymous said...


"My Millennial-aged girl friends and I never doubted that we would accomplish all of our life goals."

-With the "patriarchy" all but guaranteeing your success what is there to doubt?


"Everything, thus far, has pretty much gone according to our plans. We were accepted into the right college, landed the dream job, and developed a network of amazing friends. Our apartments are beautifully decorated and we have closets full of stylish clothing. Romance hasn’t been entirely sidelined, but we don’t waste our time trying to cultivate a relationship unless someone is really amazing."

-"Amazing?" Whaaaaat? And that was planned no less.

"But now, a growing number of Millennial women are beginning to fret over the unanticipated consequences of prioritizing our careers before love."

-Idiots, no pity.

"And I only need to look at my group of friends to see this reality. Again and again, year after year, my successful, gorgeous, and amazing friends remain kiss-less on New Year’s Eve. And on Valentine’s Day. And on the 4th of July."

-As should be the case. and again with the "amazing."

"We are coming to the realization that we were unwittingly playing a game of musical chairs — while everyone was pairing up, those focused on our careers are left standing alone."


-I know this generation well. I've had them as classmate, "hook-ups," co-workers, etc. What is "amazing" is how bottomless their cluelessness really is. Just plain stupid.





Stuart Schneiderman said...

Excellent analysis... it really shows why they are staying home alone... I'm getting the impression that most of you guys are not going to reach out to Larissa Faw...

Anonymous said...

Hahaha! Dr. Schneiderman, speaking for myself, there will not be any reaching out to her anytime soon.

rogue wolf1 said...

Sorry Stuart, I'm not taking one for the team on this one. I don't date stupid women.

n.n said...

Arrogance is unbecoming a man or a woman. Fanatical behavior, whether trending to one extreme or another, is counterproductive. Perhaps these women do not consider life beyond their own short existence and feel fulfilled with an exclusive investment in their own egoistical pursuits. After all, girls just wanna have fun, right?

No. There is clearly room for only one inflated ego in their life. It would be impractical and sadistic to inject another.

ar10308 said...

Do you know how many girls in their mid-20s told me they didn’t want a relationship because they wanted to focus on their career? Too many. (Really, they just weren't interested, but that was there reason)

Well, guess what? Those guys they rejected and put-off along the way aren’t going to want them now because they can get younger and more attractive women.

The typical lament of the careerist woman at age 30:
“Where have all the men gone? And why does my butt hurt?”

Stuart Schneiderman said...

Check out the last comment on a previous post. The comment was added yesterday and it is fully in line with what you have all been saying:

http://stuartschneiderman.blogspot.com/2012/04/what-hath-feminism-wrought.html

ar10308 said...

Stuart,
If you click on my name, it will take you to my blog. On my blogroll, you'll find those exact sentiments being echoed by many, many of those writers.

This sentiment is growing by the day in numbers of smart, college educated men who were tossed aside by these women who went for Loserrockband McDrummer as a NSA-FWB/fuckbuddy instead.

Stuart Schneiderman said...

Thanks for pointing out your blog. It's excellent. It's good to see that young men are catching on.

Joe said...

...rumor has it that she knows a large number of ravishing, unattached Millennial woman friends.

Interesting word choice - "ravishing." If I was of the right age, I seriously doubt I'd want to "ravish" any of her friends. That would be far too dangerous, in all sorts of ways.

Anonymous said...

"The only dateable men we encounter are either attached, gay, or otherwise involved in “it’s complicated” situations. "

"Datable" = Attractive, college-educated, white-collar men. What, these guys are "attached"? Shocking.

The similarly fabulous guys who are impressed with closets stuffed with the latest fashion are "gay"? Shocking.

Desirable men are in "its complicated" situations? Hmm, could it be FWB, no-strings, harem maintenance - the very, hmm position, these women are supporting with their low price for sex and obsession with keeping their options open.

Or perhaps "its complicated" because many of these men are pursuing women who are so so obsessed with their own career and awesomeness that they fail to see that they have a "catch" of a man right in front of them.

This certainly isn't limited to the under 30 crowd. The feminist promised land has ensnared women for quite some time.

But more importantly, the "issue" somehow always falls on men's failings to recognize how great these women are despite the fact that by her own admission, many of these men are "attached".

It is hard to empathize with women who continually fail to see how privileged they are to have an *option* to chase that career or stay at home or both. All while having little or no concept of what men want or find attractive in a wife. Men have never had an option like those of the gen y women and never will. Our option is to either buy into this culture or not. Obviously some men don't find these women to be as "amazing" as they find themselves - to the point of opting out of marriage indefinitely.

And when we dare exercise our own judgement, preferences, desires, we are failing to "man up". They need to decide if they want Men or some commoditized version to fulfill the balance of their amazing life plans.

Anonymous said...

I just laugh at these Harpies, it gives me great pleasure to see them fail and cry over how cruel the world is.

Well sweetie, if you were not a self absorbed slut whore maybe things would be different, but feminism taught you to be one and now you get to enjoy that liberated life.

Jay in DC said...

Personally, I find this wailing and gnashing of teeth to be nothing more than poetic justice. It has been happening for years and the snowball is starting to roll downhill faster and faster as more men "wake up" to the poisonous feminist dogma surrounding them. These fabulous women are simply going to wait until their market value is so low nobody wants them as is happening now in scary numbers with women in their 30s and 40s. At that point, they have selectively bred themselves and their genes out of existence. Again, poetic justice. People this deluded and dim shouldn't breed anyways and as many commenters in the original article stated, foreign wives genereally do not suffer from this poisonous indoctrination. Let these mostly white middle and upper class liberal women simply cease to be. It is better that way.

Dennis said...

As I have stated on a number of occasions, Feminism is a self limiting philosophy. It cannot help but be anything else. If it doesn't breed it doesn't succeed. Even when it does breed it limits itself to the least amount of children which does not interfere with its own self indulgent desires and behaviors.
Lasting change does not exist if built on the idea that only the other side has to meet one's expectations with no recognition of the others requisites.
I sometimes wonder if in the future we will call this the "Stupid Generation?" How unhappy does a generation have to get before it figures out that feminism has done real damage to them. A generation who sells themselves for cheap birth control pills and a free abortion which would not be necessary if one took real responsibility for their bodies.
To actual believe that one is smarter by the fact that they are females who graduated from an education system that does everything possible to disadvantage its male population. The utter gaul to complain that there are not enough male college graduates when you are part of this system and would have to be blind not to see it or so self indulgent that the only one cares about is one's self.
It is not that many knowledgeable people have not tried to tell these types of individuals that feminism as it currently exists will make one a very unhappy person unless one is selfish. It will only degrade one to the point of unhappiness and dysfunction.

Dennis said...

Question: What is the buy in that men would have to make to be part of this great feminist utopia? I would suggest until one can answer this in a way that is acceptable to men then it is just another failed philosophy.

ironrailsironweights said...

So. How many of these date-less, lonely Millennial women would ever consider dating/marrying Beta males? I sort of suspect the answer is "hardly any."

Peter

RonF said...

Women who put men off to work on their career are telling those men that their career is their top priority AND that it's so consuming that they have no room in their lives for a relationship. Why should any man trust such a woman when she decides she wants a relationship? How would I know she won't change her mind? What kind of person turns themselves on and off like this?

If I'm a 30-year-old man with a decent job, etc., why wouldn't I go find a 25-year old woman who is interested in relationships as well as a career?

Why would any man want someone who is so self-consumed that they think they are some kind of prize to be granted to the best qualified supplicant?

As my Dad once said "Don't ever date a girl whose father calls her 'Princess'. She might believe it."

Dust Bunny Queen said...

Lirissa needs to realize that amazing isn't always a good thing.

A two headed calf is pretty amazing.

I feel very sorry for these young women who have bought into the fantasy and lie of feminism. They are beginning to wake up to the fact that you can't have it all. That they have turned away many of their chances at happiness by telling themselves that they are 'amazing' and disdaining perfectly nice men because they just weren't 'amazing' enough.

Anonymous said...

I see I'm a little late to the party, but her article reads like the Narrator's lament from 'Fight Club'.

The Narrator/Tyler Durden/Jack gets to a point where he realizes that all the possessions he had collected as "young adult and working professional" were without any personal meaning. He lacked self-awareness and any kind of personal defining concept, sans the desire to collect money and status and appear successful to his bosses and uninvolved parents (the Narrator is the son of a divorced couple - he was raised by his mother with limited contact with his father).

Once he loses his condo (to a natural gas explosion his alternate personality/alter ego rigged up), it only takes him about a month to get over the personal shock and the lifestyle change put upon him. Although it is worth realizing that he put that change upon himself out of desperation to begin with.

I wonder when these girls are going to breakdown, psychologically and physically, and embark on their 'Fight Club' style "spirit quest". I wonder what the fallout might look like. I wonder if they're even capable of dropping their mouthpieces and living with the sound of their own ego/hot air. I wonder is they're open to listening to actual women.

I can't but help but hear Edward Norton's voice in my head when I read the bit about these girls having the dream job, the dream college, the ever-expanding collection of fashionable things and apartment decor, 'amazing' friends, etc... only to turn around and declare that the complete lack of dateable men verges on ruining their lives, or at least their perfect and uncontested sense of their perfect accomplished little selves.

Where's the adversity? Where's the reflection on past mistakes? Where's the humility? Where's the acknowledgement of their own humanity and that of the men they deem unworthy of a date? When are these girls going to step out of their comfort zone and do something that's going to stretch out their abilities and their perspective of the world?

Where are the real women to pull these little girls aside and tell them to shutup and get on with their lives?

Not that they should be expected to make themselves better women, or really know how too, given that they've apparently acquired enough financial and social capitol to feel "complete" and justified in bitching about the men in their life they can't control.

This girl is still in her 20's and is paid to throw this kind of garbage up on 'Forbes'? She could say "mission accomplished" and use this opportunity to buff up her resume, but by what measure? Her own?

I'm 26, college educated with an interdisciplinary degree I designed with the help of my professors, and filling out shit hourly food service jobs. I'm back in school working on certifications through a local community college. I have far more accomplishments in my volunteer and non-profit endeavors than I do in my 'professional' career, but those accomplishments seem to be totally worthless to the HR recruiters who want talking points and Twitter bits in place of dialogue and questions. I'm not comfortable with my paycheck and overall professional experience, but it is a reality I have to live with for now and I realize there are plenty of opportunities to 'up' myself.

But the few young twenty-something women I attempted to date this past year and a half appear to completely disagree. They appeared to empathize, but turned around and ignored me. I got the hint eventually, but I can't get over their callousness and extreme fear of failure (which apparently included me).