Science has just discovered something you already know.
Wives are the glue that hold marriages together. Wives are the cornerstones, the foundations of good marriages.
That means: wives, not husbands. This study accepts that the roles of husband and wife are not interchangeable.
The tone of a happy marriage is set by a wife who is even-tempered, who does not anger easily, who does not hold grudges, who does not take it personally, who does not display contempt and who quickly gets over negative emotions.
The quicker a wife cools off after a fight, the better the marriage will be. This is true even if her hot-headed husband continues to be angry.
The Daily Mail reports on the study, performed by researchers at Berkeley and Stanford:
Scientists said that women are better at starting those difficult conversations that will solve the problem and allow both parties to move on – but only if they have regained their composure first.
And ironically, they found that if the husband attempts to start those conversations himself, his spouse will criticise him for trying to resolve things too quickly.
Call it female empowerment if you like, but the key to a good marriage, the researchers say, is a woman’s ability to temper her emotions. Some will call it repression, but the truth is, doing what it takes to get along is better for your emotional well-being than seething with anger and contempt.