The therapy culture has made many dubious contributions to
moral philosophy. Among them is the notion of deferred gratification.
At first, one finds much to praise in the requirement that
people defer gratification. The principle seems to promote self-control and to
teach people not to indulge in instant gratification.
If those are the terms of the argument, one would have to
agree that deferred gratification should win out over grabbing whatever is available in the present.
But, if the theory falsifies human experience by trying to fit
it into a narrative, it risks leading us into error.
The struggle between an instinct that is seeking immediate
gratification and an ego that believes that it is best to delay is a narrative.
Those who traffic in it are trying to impose it on human beings, not
to analyze how they really function.
By this narrative, children are instant gratifiers while
adults have learned how to constrain and restrain their impulses, the better to
find future gratification.
Many believe that the gratification awarded to those who
wait is better than the instant gratification they would receive, but that is
not necessarily part of the theory. It is a ploy designed to help people to exercise
self-control.
It’s nice to see it all in terms of forgoing the Big Mac now
and being rewarded with a steak dinner, but life rarely works out that way.
As with any narrative, this one has flaws and gaps. It
precludes the possibility that people might feel good about exercising
self-control. Reducing human beings to gratification-seeking organisms does
them a serious injustice. Humans are also rule-followers. When they learn to
follow a rule that prescribes self-control they can feel gratified at their mastery
of a social skill.
Moreover, research
psychologists have recently shown that the decision about deferring or not
deferring is often a rational calculation. It seems that there is more to the
story than the struggle between willpower and instinct.
Maria Konnikova explained the issue in a recent New York
Times article:
When we
think of self-control, we don’t normally see it in these terms — a reasoned
decision to wait or not. In fact, the ability to delay gratification has
traditionally been seen in large part as an issue of willpower: Do you have
what it takes to wait it out, to choose a later — and, presumably, better —
reward over an immediate, though not quite as good one? Can you forgo a brownie
in service of the larger reward of losing weight, give up ready cash in favor of
a later investment payoff? The immediate option is hot; you can taste it, smell
it, feel it. The long-term choice is far cooler; it’s hard to picture it with
quite as much color or power.
To add to the complexity, psychologists have tested the
deferred gratification hypothesis against real life situations where the future
reward, the payoff for deferring gratification was either more or less certain.
Konnikova wrote:
[Professor
Joseph] Kable [of the University of Pennsylvania] who has been working on the
psychology and neuroscience of decision making for more than a decade, argues
that the truth is that in real life, as opposed to the lab, we aren’t nearly as
sure we’ll get our promised reward, or if we do, of when it will come.
“The
timing of real-world events is not always so predictable,” he and Mr. McGuire
write. “Decision makers routinely wait for buses, job offers, weight loss and
other outcomes characterized by significant temporal uncertainty.” Sometimes
everything comes just when we expect it to, but sometimes even a usually
punctual bus breaks down or an all-but-certain job offer falls through.
She continued:
But
what happens if our initial estimate is off? The more time passes without the
expected reward — it’s been 20 minutes and still nothing; I’ve been dieting for
a week and a half now and still weigh the same — the more uncertain the end
becomes. Will I ever get my reward? Ever lose weight? Ever get on that stupid
train?
In this
situation, giving up can be a natural — indeed, a rational — response to a time
frame that wasn’t properly framed to begin with, according to a series of new
studies conducted by Mr. Kable’s decision neuroscience lab at the University of
Pennsylvania and published in Cognition and Psychological Review.
Note well that Kable believes that abandoning the distant
reward in favor of the immediate gratification might well be the “rational”
choice when one comes to believe that the promised reward is not going to
arrive within a reasonable time frame.
When the wait time is extended an individual will
increasingly believe that the reward might never come. Then, the correct
decision is to seek gratification in the present. It’s easier to forgo the Big
Mac if you know you will have a steak dinner in three hours, but as the three
hour mark comes and goes, the Big Mac looks more and more appetizing.
If you take a bite, you are not yielding to temptation or
showing weak self-control. You are making a rational decision based on the
facts as you know them.
“The basic idea,” [Penn neuroscientist Joseph]
McGuire said, “is that while a decision maker is waiting, he is constantly
re-evaluating the thing he’s waiting for. You’re waiting for the same reward,
but your assessment of it changes as a function of the passage of time.”
This suggests that the ability to exercise self-control
depends in good part on the consistency of your daily routines. If a child
knows to a certainty that he will have dinner at 6:00 he will find it easier to
control his impulse to snack in the afternoon. If the dinner schedule varies,
even to the extreme point where he is not sure that he will even have dinner,
he will be more inclined to yield to eat what he can when he can.
Thus, an inconsistent reward pattern will induce people to have less impulse control:
The
researchers found that while the shoppers seeing the regular intervals looked
like the very model of persistence and self-control, those seeing the erratic
intervals grew increasingly less persistent over time — even if they had
initially been quite patient. The uncertainty of the reward timing was itself
enough to push them toward behavior that looked increasingly impulsive.
1 comment:
It is not about deferring gratification per se. It is about reasonable expectations and planning. The question is what constitutes "reasonable".
For example, Obamacare promises everyone health insurance, which is easy; but, the services and products which people are purchasing is medical care, drugs, etc., which are finitely available and accessible.
Another example, women and men want to enjoy their lives, including: sex, money, and ego. This has caused a progressive need for abortion or delegated parenting, among other dysfunctional behaviors.
The same has happened with education, housing, luxuries, etc., where inflated costs have produced insidious side-effects, including sabotaged feedback controlling population growth and development.
The expectation of instant or immediate gratification without consequence is a cause of corruption. Only a select minority ever escape this outcome, and usually for a finite time.
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