Tuesday, September 20, 2016

Turning Boys against Feminism

Thrice divorced single mother of seven Jody Allard shows us how not to raise teenage boys. In the Washington Post, no less.

Were you to ask yourself what topics a teenage boy would not want to discuss with his mother, sex would certainly be on the list. And teenage boys do not want to have to talk about their mother's view of rape while digging into the mashed potatoes. The worst, if such can be quantified, would be to talk about rape with a mother who has already shared with them her own experience of having been raped. 

Time to crawl under the carpet.

Can you get more appalling? Can you set a worse example? Several months back I posted about a study showing that successful people know what not to discuss in polite company. Successful people value harmonious interactions; they know how to get along with people. They know better than to discuss intimate matters or politics or ideology at the dinner table.

But, Jody Allard is a fanatic. She is a feminist zealot. She is on a crusade against rape culture. And she is afraid that her teenage boys, age 16 and 18 will turn out to be rapists. Or that they will condone rape. Or that they will laugh at sexist jokes. Or that they will slut shame young women of loose morals.

So she harasses them. She harangues them. She ruins the harmony of a family dinner by lecturing and browbeating them about her current obsession: toxic masculinity and rape culture. What kind of mother considers her own children to be poisonous?

But, isn't her insistence on harassing her children over dinner a toxic form of child abuse? Won't these boys grow up with a decidedly negative view of women? 

It is likely that they will see women as irredeemably hostile toward men, as ideological fanatics who have no sense of other people. And they will learn that it is impossible to have a serious and intelligent conversation with a female being. With any luck they will also learn to keep a considerable distance from feminists. If they learn anything they will learn not to marry a feminist.

To their credit these boys do not tune their mother out completely. With time I suspect that they will. With time they might even react to her unremitting hostility by retaliating… if not against them, against women that they meet.

For now, they attempt to engage the argument. It’s the price of dinner with their witch of a mother:

“Oh boy,” my son said, rolling his eyes. “Not rape culture again.”

We were sitting around the dinner table talking about the news. As soon as I mentioned the Stanford sexual assault case, my sons looked at each other. They knew what was coming. They’ve been listening to me talk about consent, misogyny and rape culture since they were tweens. They listened to me then, but they are 16 and 18 now and they roll their eyes and argue when I talk to them about sexism and misogyny.

“There’s no such thing as rape culture,” my other son said. “You say everything is about rape culture or sexism.”

I never imagined I would raise boys who would become men like these. Men who deny rape culture, or who turn a blind eye to sexism. Men who tell me I’m being too sensitive or that I don’t understand what teenage boys are like. “You don’t speak out about this stuff, mom,” they tell me with a sigh. “It’s just not what teenagers do.”

Allard is guilt tripping her sons. She is trying to make them feel guilty for slut shaming young women. She is not smart enough herself to know that most slut shaming is done by women against other women. Slut shaming occurs when girls and women discover that another woman has given away her favors too cheaply. They look seriously askance at such behaviors.

She says that she wants them to be honorable young men, but her warped mind sees honor only in leftist political activism. 

Allard is not smart enough to know-- point I have often had occasion to mention-- that the rape capital of the Western world is Sweden and that Sweden is not only a Feminist Paradise, run by feminists, but that Swedish boys in Swedish schools are forced to pee sitting down. Peeing standing up might be more manly, but it is also more sexist.

Of course, Allard’s boys defend themselves against their mother’s harassment. She describes their reaction:

When it comes to speaking out against rape culture and questioning their own ideas and behavior, they become angry and defensive. Not all men, they remind me, and my guts wrench as my own sons mimic the vitriol of a thousand online trolls.

Fascinating to see that Allard-- because of some bad experiences with men, not only a man who raped her but a husband who cheated on her with a frizzy-haired pock-marked vixen-- has decided that all men are bad. That all men suffer from toxic masculinity. That all men are potential rapists. Especially white men. Even her sons. Allard does not know or does not care that most of the rapes in this world are not committed by white men. In Sweden, none of the rapes are committed by white men.

In truth, Allard does not much care about the rapes in Sweden or Germany or in other parts of Europe where refugees have run wild. She is mounting a crusade because a Stanford student named Brock Turner was convicted of rape and did not get a long enough sentence.

So, Allard stereotypes all white men. But, if someone were to stereotype members of a minority group, she would be at the barricades shouting insults and invective, accusing him of being the worst kind of bigot. You see, to the mind of a fanatic, there are no good white men. There are no men who want to protect women. Men are all bad.

The way it looks now, if she has any say in it, her boys will be just as bad as the rest. Why does she think that they will be happy to read about her harangues in the newspaper? And, what does she think this story will do to their cred in high school? To save face, her boys will have to denounce and repudiate their mother and her zany ideas.

In truth, Allard might succeed in beating her boys into submission and making them into metrosexuals. It is just as likely that she will show such a negative view of women that they will have difficulty developing relationships with women. Certainly, they will never know what it is like to sit down for dinner with a woman and to have a good conversation.

She is certainly making feminists look bad... to a generation of teenage boys.

10 comments:

Trigger Warning said...

I suggest caution before assuming this woman's supposed history with men, and her rape, have any basis in fact. Biofictionalization is a very popular source of "street cred" among Progressives: cf., Nobelist Rigoberta Menchu, Barack Obama, and Hillary Clinton.

In most cases, "history" (as perfected by the Soviets) is nothing more than a fictional base for launching Progressive validation diatribes. Perhaps the most visible cultural example is the exquisite tapestry of lies conjured up by Howard Zinn.

Stuart Schneiderman said...

I didn't mention it, but I did read some of her articles about her experiences with men-- especially the one about how much one husband was cheating on her-- and they feel true to me. So I will give her the benefit of the doubt. Besides, do you really think that a man sitting at the dinner table with her, being harangued about feminism, would not be cheating?

Leo G said...

Did you read her article about one of her son's contemplating suicide?

Stuart Schneiderman said...

No, I didn't see it. Could you provide a link?

Pete the Streak said...

"Several months back I posted about a study showing that successful people know what not to discuss in polite company."

Stuart - can you link to this post?

Thank you!

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Sam L. said...

"But, isn't her insistence on harassing her children over dinner a toxic form of child abuse? Won't these boys grow up with a decidedly negative view of women?" I expect they will evaluate women to find one pretty much NOT like their mother. I have said for many years that the best learning example is a really good BAD example. And they have one!

Pete the Streak said...

Sam is correct. I taught my daughters very early on to "pay close attention to the people you really dislike, as they will happily show you what not to be, do or say".

It worked.

Trigger Warning said...

Heh. Somebody doesn't like Jody-girl...

http://m.ripoffreport.com/r/jody-allard/seattle-washington-/jody-allard-jody-knight-james-johnson-euphrasie-jsj-livejournal-craigslist-internet-1038432

She's left quite a wake on the interwebs.

Ares Olympus said...

Stuart: ...does not know or does not care that most of the rapes in this world are not committed by white men. In Sweden, none of the rapes are committed by white men.

That's a bizarre assertion. None would seem to imply zero, although given the definition of rape in Sweden is rather expansive compared to other countries, like willing sex without a condem?! Or not?!
http://www.businessinsider.com/latest-on-julian-assanges-sex-crimes-sex-without-a-condom-is-rape-in-sweden-says-a-swede-2010-12

What do we really know on rape stats? 53% immigants? That's something but natives need not be "white", and immigrants need not be nonwhite!
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rape_in_Sweden
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The BRÅ has not released detailed data on rape committed by immigrants since 1996, but according to that report individuals with an immigrant background made up 53% of all rape convictions between 1985 and 1989.
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And to Julian Assanges case, and clearly white, claimed innocence but fled justice. I don't know if he would be called an immigrant, but he was a visitor. Here's a NEW article on a 6 year old case.
http://www.nbcnews.com/news/world/julian-assanges-arrest-warrant-rape-case-upheld-sweden-court-n649296
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The arrest warrant for WikiLeaks founder Julian Assange over a rape accusation will not be dropped, a Swedish appeals court ruled Friday.

"After reviewing the existing investigative material and what the parties have stated, the Court of Appeal finds that Julian Assange is still suspected on probable cause of rape," the ruling issued by a three-judge panel in Stockholm on Friday said. "The Court of Appeal also shares the assessment of the District Court that there is still a risk that Julian Assange will flee."

Swedish authorities began investigating Assange in 2010 on allegations of sexual assault and rape against two women. The sexual assault allegation was dropped after time ran out to bring charges last year, but officials said they would continue pursue the rape investigation. Assange denies the allegations.

After running through legal options in Britain, the Australian avoided extradition to Sweden by seeking asylum in the Ecuadorian Embassy in London in June 2012. Assange still faces arrest in Britain for breaching bail conditions.

The statute of limitations for rape is 10 years in Sweden, meaning it would expire in 2020 if prosecutors haven't filed an indictment by then.
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https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Assange_v_Swedish_Prosecution_Authority
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On 20 August 2010, two women, a 26-year-old living in Enköping and a 31-year-old living in Stockholm, went together to the Swedish police in order to track Assange down and persuade him to be tested for sexually transmitted diseases after having separate sexual encounters with him. The police told them that they could not simply tell Assange to take a test, but that their statements would be passed to the prosecutor. Later that day, the duty prosecutor ordered the arrest of Julian Assange on the suspicion of rape and molestation.

On 30 August, Assange was questioned by the Stockholm police regarding the allegations of sexual molestation. He denied the allegations, saying he had consensual sexual encounters with the two women.
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