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Strong, empowered feminists are fighting an emotional war
against men. You might think that this is incidental to real feminism. In truth,
it is real feminism, feminism as an ideology that sees men as having oppressed
women and thus that must right the balance by warring against men… by
subjecting them to public humiliation.
Sisterhood is sharing embarrassing stories about your
husband and then, in time, complaining about how it happened that you no longer have a husband.
If you were ever wondering why second-wave feminism led to
so many divorces, here you have it. If you are still wondering why so many men
do not want to get married or why so many marriages are still breaking apart,
here is the answer.
Bethany Mandel called it husband shaming. It takes the
apparently pervasive tactic of bad-mouthing your husband to your girlfriends to
a whole new level. You force your hapless spouse into colluding with his own
humiliation by allowing his picture to be taken with a sign explaining he
derelict household behavior. Then you post it on line so all your friends and
all your friends’ friends’ friends can see it.
One understands that these amusing photos, designed
primarily to thrill the feminist matriarchy will ultimately become the
tombstones for dead marriages. After all, any man who puts up with this will,
if he does not want to lose his man card and be exiled from the world of manly
men, divorce his wife. Or, at least, fight back by cheating on her. Here's a link to Ashley Madison.
If you had imagined that the thrust of contemporary feminism
was to open up career opportunities for women, you were wrong. If you think that it's all about equality, you were also wrong. Today’s
feminists are still obsessed with their households, only they are assaulting
their husbands for not doing what they want them to do around the house.
I would only add one qualification here. Before we take off
on women and blame them for this public shaming, we must note, difficult as it
is, that their husbands did participate actively in this self-shaming behavior.
What is the matter with these men? How did it happen that they simply caved in
when faced with angry wives?
One is obliged to conclude that, however badly these wives
are behaving, their husbands should be forever exiled from the world of men for
having gone along with it.
American men are more beaten down than even I had believed.
15 comments:
Any woman, who would do this to their husband has lost all respect for them, and are most likely either cheating on them or will soon be.
No woman will want to take their clothes off for a man, who is willing to do that. What were they thinking???
I cannot imagine doing that to my husband!
Marsh,
Did you and your husband do your cruise as I remember?
I agree with you. Most of these women, even though being feminists, thought they were marrying the men of their own creation. Much of this has to do with the fact that they started out liking these putative men, but could never love their idea of what a man should be because one almost always is unhappy marrying oneself.
Men, and women, should understand they get what they reward. Reward the weak male or woman and the result is a weak person. I don't have any sympathy for either of them.
Hi Dennis,
Not yet. Next Valentine's Day will be our 30th wedding Anniversary, our cruise is set for May 2017 ( we don't want to go in winter).
I have no sympathy for them either. Yuck to whatever they think they have. My husband was the first man I ever met, who put his foot down w/ me. I was very pretty and was used to getting whatever I wanted from men. Until him. LOL Thank God for strong men!
Stuart: Before we take off on women and blame them for this public shaming, we must note, difficult as it is, that their husbands did participate actively in this self-shaming behavior. What is the matter with these men? How did it happen that they simply caved in when faced with angry wives?
I agree it is curious why the husbands would participate. And we can recall this meme message of public shaming started with pets, like showing the mess a dog made, and then putting a funny message around the dog's neck. Okay, here's a couple.
http://www.dogshaming.com/
http://cat-shaming.tumblr.com/
My reason why I wouldn't "cave" even if clearly humorous is my pride, but I also see pride is not considered a virtue, but something that goes before a fall, Proverbs 16:18 don't ya know.
I see the ability to laugh at yourself is an important skill, and if you can allow humorous humiliation in public, it means when people try to shame you on more important things, you're not as trapped by your ego. At least its better to practice first on the small stuff.
The ideal to me is that everyone is a willing participant in their own oppression, and then if it gets boring, you can try something different. But the ideal also is people who dish it out ought to be able to take it too.
So anyway, I think we're all projecting in what we see here, so unless we can ask these men about why they do it, we should accept we don't know. All of them may yet make it to their 50th wedding anniversaries with their 3 kids and 12 grandchildren, all strong enough to laugh at their own mistakes and blind-spots exposed.
You never know.
"If you had imagined that the thrust of contemporary feminism was to open up career opportunities for women, you were wrong. If you think that it's all about equality, you were also wrong. Today’s feminists are still obsessed with their households, only they are assaulting their husbands for not doing what they want them to do around the house."
Yep. So unhappy, angry, and dissatisfied. Insatiable. There's nothing a man can do.
If my wife ever intentionally tried to humiliate me in front of her friends, I'd walk out and never come back. Ever. There's no turning back from that kind of slight. They've lost respect for you. It's over.
I suspect a lot of these men believe that if they just do that "one more thing" their wife/girlfriend wants them to do, the woman will be happy and stop bitching. Too bad for you, dude... you're eventually going to have to come to the realization you can't make anyone happy. You're just upping the ante with your slavish worship of her latest concern. It will never stop. Give up hope now. You will be forever in bondage.
Camille Paglia says something to the effect that what most feminists want men for is to do the jobs they (the women) don't want to do: combat in wars, cleaning sewers, doing plumbing, etc.
In terms of all forms of "contemporary" Leftism, they are insatiably angry with the world. There's no hope to stem the tide. Once you think you have one injustice wrapped up, a new one pops up. They manufacture "non-negotiable" demands and new injustices to direct their rage at. No shovel is big enough to fill in that bottomless well of misery.
As my wife likes to say, "Women take over everything."
Marsh: It's completely eluded me that you are a woman. Refreshing. Thank you for sharing your story of your meeting your husband. More timid young men need to hear that story. Happy 29th wedding anniversary!
Apparently, there's a lot of talk on this subject lately, like here's a woman's response with a Christian perspective of shame but concludes this meme is not funny or helpful.
http://www.patheos.com/blogs/preventingrace/2016/05/12/the-laughing-shame-of-husband-shaming/
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...Is it possible that we’ve, um, misunderstood the proper use of shame? To say it another way, isn’t it interesting that, in this brave new world, we’re not supposed to feel ashamed, of anything–no sexual desire, no inclination of the disordered mind, no self oriented thought is ever to be considered under the scrawling Facebook sign of Shame–so we are left with other people’s behavior (in this case people who should be quite close to us) which is neither moral nor anything, getting the humiliation of Facebook treatment. Shame is going to creep in somewhere, and if we don’t let it be about That Which Is Actually Shameful, we just end up with the gentle belittling of The Other for a couple of laughs.
Curiously, the bedrock of Christian mercy has always been there as the countering medicine to cure the proper experience of shame. If you never can feel the humiliation of having done the wrong thing, and having wrecked something for yourself or another, it will be very hard to understand God’s mercy, wherein he absorbs your shame and humiliation in himself on the cross. A sign, don’t you know, was hung over his head to indicate his appalling crime of being King Over All. And people walked by and laughed and mocked and pointed at him. Funnily enough, though, he didn’t deserve to be there, did he? He really was King Over All. We should have all been there naked and bleeding instead of him, because of all the ugly and shameful things we’ve done.
When you get to have the cross at the center of your piece of paper, held up to the joking throngs of Facebook, you might find that a marvelous merciful kindness happens. Instead of picturing the person who has irritated you and Done the Wrong Thing, you could consider the real and true grievously harmful moments in your own day, and ask for Jesus to cover them over, to hide them, to take them away (it’s called forgiveness, it’s such a great thing) at which point the shame itself also is taken away and you get to go free and clear.
I love a laugh more than anyone. Truly I do. But this isn’t funny. It’s embarrassing. The person posting the picture is the one who should feel embarrassed, who should wish to have hidden the unkindness and have it forgotten forever. It’s true, as the author above said. If a woman was there, on Facebook, holding a sign made for her by her husband, foul would be shrieked from everyone’s Twitter feed. But men aren’t human, any more, are they. Nor children either. They are lumped in with the funny, cuddly, but Not Human cat and dog. Isn’t it a nod to slavery, to put a sign like that in someone’s hands? Isn’t it a touch diminishing of the humanity of another, to reduce them publicly to a foolish action?
Let marriage be held in honor by all, says St. Paul, and so of course we make a mockery of it. I sort of like that autocorrect keeps trying to change ‘brave’ to ‘grave’ because that’s where this culture is headed.
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Wait...
the third guy holding up 'my husband' and 'cookie' sign...
'my husband'? Is he in one of those fruity 'marriages'?
i wonder what his 'husband' did with the fudge.
Maybe this has less to do with feminism than with memenism. Everything is called a 'meme' and there are tons of it on youtube and twitter and etc.
Everything is a joke, and I think these guys are doing it ironically. And the women are prolly getting a good laugh.
The problem is it's so infantile. They need to grow up.
We need more men like Vito Corleone. Imagine Vito holding up a sign to be goofy.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tgcA8WUK1qM
Ares likes to talk about memes... a lot.
Thanks, Ignatius! :)
Nuts
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2ANwxDFgW9E
priss rules said... the third guy holding up 'my husband' and 'cookie' sign...
You're right, that's a fail. Proper rules for shame-messages would need "My husband found my SECRET cookie stash... and ate it." changed to "I found my wife's SECRET cookie stash and ate it."
Even if it was a gay marriage, the rules would still be broken since the shamed person needs to appear in the photo.
The similarities to a Maoist struggle session should be obvious, with public enemies bearing placards that confess their sins and all. Seems healthy.
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