Saturday, May 1, 2010

Why Can't a Man Be More Like a Woman?

I am sure you noticed that I performed a gender role reversal on a song title. I think that the world would be a better place if we limited such actions to the arts.

Be that as it may, the original title, from what was arguably the last great Broadway musical, My Fair Lady, read: "Why Can't a Woman Be More Like a Man?"

This plaintive tune, sung by chronic bachelor Prof. Henry Higgins, is a sign that his pupil, one Eliza Doolittle, is touching his cold, unfeeling heart.

Of course, My Fair Lady is about transformation, but it is not about role reversal. It dramatizes the metamorphosis of a flower girl, Eliza Doolittle, into a Lady, one who can pass in society as a Hungarian princess.

Given the British propensity to classify people by their accents, Eliza's story concerns social mobility in a society that is rather too class-bound. Under the aegis of Prof. Higgins, the eminent linguist turned speech coach, Eliza overcomes her Cockney accent and learns the intonations and diction that will allow her fit in at a higher level of British society.

However much Higgins would wish that a woman were more like a man, he does succeed in making a flower girl act more like a lady.

For his pains, he develops feelings for her. Not deeply passionate feelings, but feelings nonetheless.

To fast forward to the present, I was reminded yesterday of the existence of powerful forces in Western culture that want to make men more like women.

I have occasionally suggested that when teachers and therapists try to make men more sensitive, more empathic, and more deeply feeling beings, they are effectively refusing to accept boys and men for what they are. They are trying, through psychological and other means, to make men more like women.

They believe that they are striking a role for morality, offering a cure for various pathologies, and making the world a better place. Once men can get in touch with the depths of their feelings they will be less aggressive, less predatory, and less competitive.

Forget competing against the Chinese of the Japanese. Forget fighting terrorism or crime. Men are going to feel so deeply that they are going to surpass competitive striving.

All of which to say that I was shocked to read yesterday about experiments in Germany and the United Kingdom where men were treated with a nasal spray containing the hormone oxytocin. Link here.

What is oxytocin? It is a hormone that men and women possess, but that women possess in larger quantities. According to the article, it triggers labor pains, helps mothers to bond with their babies, and produces enhanced sensitivity and empathy.

The article fails to mention that when a woman has a sexual experience her body produces extra oxytocin, thereby drawing her closer to her lover. Researchers call oxytocin the "cuddle hormone."

Oxytocin is one of the primary reasons why women who make a habit of hooking up cannot detach their emotions from their sexual experience as easily as men can.

Anyway, the experiments demonstrated that when you give men oxytocin nasal spray they become more sensitive, more empathetic, more attuned to their emotions, more easily touched by the pain of others. They pick up social cues more easily, especially those that denote pain. Men taking oxytocin nasal spray have generally deeper feelings.

To my knowledge the researchers do not note that a football player, for example, who is more deeply touched by the pain of others will quickly lose his competitive edge.

I only know what I read in the papers, but it seems never to have crossed the minds of these scientists that there may be an adaptive reason why men are not quite as sensitive and empathetic as women.

It is telling that scientists are so thoroughly steeped in knee-jerk male bashing that they do not even ask whether there might be something positive about having less oxytocin. Why do they take it for granted that male biochemistry is intrinsically maladaptive? Why do they assume that masculine behavior is something like an illness, something to be compared with the kind of social withdrawal they see in autism and schizophrenia? Why do they consider it something that requires treatment?

[A special welcome to those of you who have arrived here via Dr. Helen or Instapundit. And, of course, my special thanks to Dr. Helen Smith and Prof. Glenn Reynolds for linking this post.]



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Ralph said...

I don't know either, other than the fact that so many people want to believe that men and women are equal in all respects. I guess it would seem easier to weaken men, than to buff up women with steroids.

DADvocate said...

If the scientists were to administer oxytocin to men on a wide basis, they could be assured their culture would soon be conquered by normal men from another.

Master Doh-San said...

Hmmmm... A familiar theme. Nothing really new; they're just not giving up very easily.

Men and women might be legally equal, but Heaven forfend that they should ever be the same.

Link

Anonymous said...

I don't see much of a future for a society that has made masculinity a pathology.

The really weird thing here is that no woman likes a touchy-feely pussified man; none of them.

wv: "womati": what you call a guy with high oxytocin.

--Gray

Anonymous said...

Furthermore, there may be unintended side-effects outside of a clinical environment:

*Spray*, sniff sniff.... "I feel so very deeply that I got you a new vacuum cleaner, some lingerie and these *really cute* shoes. Now get me a beer."

--Gray

Chuck Pelto said...

TO: Dr. Schneiderman, et al.
RE: Pardon My....

Why Can't a Man Be More Like a Woman? -- Schneiderman

....blatant Christianity....BUT....

....why does this remind me of some entity—Satan—trying to turn God's creation of Man and Woman upside-down?

Regards,

Chuck(le)
[The greatest trick Satan ever pulled was convincing people that he doesn't exist.]

jimbino said...

Ha! If men were more like women, we wouldn't have championship chess, haute cuisine, haute couture, or blockbuster films. there would be nobody to award the math, physics or economics Nobel Prizes to.

We'd all just end up standing in lines at the world's bathroom doors.

vanderleun said...

"Why do they take it for granted that male biochemistry is intrinsically maladaptive? Why do they assume that masculine behavior is something like an illness, something to be compared with the kind of social withdrawal they see in autism and schizophrenia? Why do they consider it something that requires treatment?"

Because they're gay, fey, clinically insane, or have a fully colonized mind. You choose and you are not limited to one choice.

Anonymous said...

Didja ever notice how in every television commercial, men are portrayed as half-wit sub-morons that just waiting to be rescued from their situation by the women and children in the scenario?

Cut It said...

Riddle me this though...

Yesterday I caught my boyfriend crying over the movie "We Are Marshall". Yet this same man has not shed any tears over my three miscarriages in the last 2 years or during any of our near break ups.

Should I just assume he has no feelings for me or our babies and break it off?

PapayaSF said...

Nearly 40 years ago, I read something postulating that we were changing from a patriarchal society to a matriarchal one. It listed a series of values and fears for both types, and it was clear that the patriarchal list aligned with "old-fashioned" conservative values (e.g. concerns about honor), while the matriarchal list seemed very "progressive" and "Age of Aquarius" (e.g. concerns about fairness).

At the time, one aspect didn't fit: the pat./mat. matched fears of homosexuality and incest. Sure, fear of homosexuality fit on the old-fashioned side, but fear of incest didn't seem to fit on the other. Then, in the following decades, came a series of huge waves of concern (sometimes to point of hysterical panic) about child abuse and molestation.

In short, society seems to be changing into a more matriarchal form. (I haven't been able to find that list again, though.)

Anonymous said...

We already dose men (and women & children) on vast amounts of estrogen, vis the soy snuck into processed foods.

The feminization of men commenced long ago. Look around - Real Men are few and far between.

Unknown said...

"The feminization of men commenced long ago. Look around - Real Men are few and far between."

How right you are, anon.!

Then: Now:
Cary Grant Johnny Depp
John Wayne Leonardo DiCaprio
Gary Cooper James Spader
... ... (ugh)

vanderleun said...

The defnitive blog post from 2003 on the pussification of the american male is at

http://www.theothersideofkim.com/index.php/essays/41/

Hucbald said...

"Men taking oxytocin nasal spray have generally deeper feelings."

This must be predicated on the idea that women have generally deeper feelings than men; an idea I find fallacious. If women had deeper feelings than men, then they would be the ones creating the greatest literature, poetry, music, and art. That is not the case: Men compose the great symphonies, write the great novels, and create the great art - to the point that there are no female equivalents of Shakespeare, Beethoven, and Michelangelo.

Women's feelings are closer to the surface, but they are in no way deeper.

Stuart Schneiderman said...

Thanks to all for the great comments. I did want to respond to the question asked by "Cut It." (It's the tenth from the top.)

Her question: what do you do with a man who cries at a movie and does not shed a tear over three miscarriages?

Without knowing the man, it is impossible to say anything very definitive, but there are other interpretations that might explain his behavior.

First, he may be displacing his anguish, and feeling the sadness he would normally feel about the miscarriages in relation to the movie.

Second, why would he do this? He might think that, as a man, he should remain stolid in times of trouble or crisis. He might believe that that is the best way to offer support.

kkollwitz said...

He may also be disengaged from the whole "kid thing" since he is not married to her, and actually may have been relieved.

In response to the general question, over millenia men have made the world so safe and comfortable for women that some don't realize it still takes men to keep it that way.

kkollwitz said...

millennia

Darrell said...

"People sleep peaceably in their beds at night only because rough men stand ready to do violence on their behalf."--George Orwell

Kim DuToit's essay does indeed hit the nail on the head.

Assistant Village Idiot said...

kkollwitz - yeah, I always misspell that one too.

I echo Steve about Cut It's comment. Not enough data, and the possible need to be stoic as a standard emergency response cannot be ruled out. If you want a lighter interpretation of all this, Dave Barry comments humorously but accurately on the differences.

Societies need different things at different times. We may indeed be moving into a period when our economic well-being may be enhanced with traits we consider more feminine. Ten years or a hundred years from now it might swing the other way. Even if so, we will need all our virtues and styles in every era, just in different proportions. It's best not to try and monkey with these too much on our own. We don't know the future. We might soon be able to influence (not control) whether the next generation is more docile and obedient - a chilling possibility, but one that looks more attractive when you've got a couple of strong-willed kids in your particular household right this moment.

Or an excess of couples might choose to weight the scales toward independent, less-cooperative children to make them leaders. Like we need an increase in hostility around here.

Related, I just had a post today on how adaptability is going to be a quality of increasing value as we go forward.

mariner said...

kkollwitz hit this one out of the park.

Stuart Schneiderman said...

My thanks to Assistant Village Idiot, who has a great blog himself, linked in my blogroll at left. There he offers a more detailed expression of his views.

He makes an interesting point, namely, that some cultures at different times require different qualities. And he adds that it may be that we all need to develop a softer, feminine side.

I fear that in a time of crisis, and in a time of war, we need more of a competitive, masculine spirit. I would be happy to stand corrected, but I doubt that a kinder, softer, gentler approach is going to get us out of our current mess.

I would admit that in a crisis one is tempted to hunker down, to withdraw, to wait for the storm to pass. If a hurricane were upon us we would not want to go out to fight it.

For my part I think that the initial storm has passed and that it is time to get out of the bunker and get down to work.

Anyway, thanks for the interesting comment, AVI.

Torgo said...

"People sleep peaceably in their beds at night only because rough men stand ready to do violence on their behalf."--George Orwell

Nonsense. I sleep peaceably in my bed due to the shotgun I keep next to it as I sleep. That and the fact that I am all the "rough man" that I need, and I'm comfortable with the idea of doing violence on my own behalf and on behalf of my loved ones.

If the female level of oxytocin makes one overly empathtic and makes one lose one's healthy boundaries, then it is truly maladaptive and should be corrected.

Never forget: When seconds count, the police are only minutes away.

Darrell said...

Nonsense yourself, Torgo--I was trying to make the point that all those girly men so prevalent today are protected by small town boys and such who still go into the armed forces. Old school, boys who haven't had their spirit beaten out of them or been given Ritalin. Sad that those girly men look down their noses at the ones standing between them and the barbarians. I wonder sometimes if the girly men secretly realize this, and thus resent the REAL men for their manliness.

Mr. 12 Gauge and Mr. .357 live by the headboard of my bed, tyvm.

Ed said...

Should I just assume he has no feelings for me or our babies and break it off?

It could also be that he is being strong so you don't have to be and will have the opportunity to cry.

That isn't a flame, just a simple observation.

Torgo said...

I sincerely apologize if I offended you, Darrell, and I think we agree on the important points. A home invasion in which I was only armed with a loud male voice will not happen again to me, and I'm certainly glad you keep Mr. 12 Gauge close by while you sleep.

My intent (however poorly stated) was to praise self-reliance and self-defense. That quote from the leftist Orwell has some minor truth to it, but it is grossly misleading in that it presents the false choice of "sleeping peacefully under the protection of rough men" (total strangers to you, miles away, and paid for by taxes) versus "not sleeping peacefully" (at all).

I don't trust distant strangers to look out for my best interests, and I would never advise anyone else to do so, but that is what a lot of leftists want to force us to depend on, and that is truly evil. I further would never advise anyone to join the military or police, as their bravery and naive goodwill can and will be abused by politicians.(I don't feel any safer knowing that my tax dollars are spent on keeping distant Serbs and Albanians apart, Shiites away from Sunnis, etc.)


Again, my beef was with Orwell and leftists in general, not with your ideas.

Anonymous said...

Torgo misses the point.

The "people" that Orwell refers to in the quote is those who don't believe in doing violence to protect themselves; they want other to do it.

Dave Grossman does a better job tan I do explaining it: http://www.gleamingedge.com/mirrors/onsheepwolvesandsheepdogs.html

Torgo said...

http://www.gleamingedge.com/
mirrors/onsheepwolvesa
ndsheepdogs.html


Thanks, Anonymous. That's going in my Favorites list. That was truly a moving article, and I was wrongheaded for taking Orwell's contemptuous comment personally.

I still think the sheepdogs would do well to focus their fire to protect their families and the sheep who pay their salaries, instead of (to quote Sonny Corleone) "risking their lives for strangers" under the orders of Wilsonian globalists like Clinton, Bush, and Obama.

Anonymous said...

for Cut It,

The other responses are missing the point.

The answer lies under your nose in the fact that you said 'boyfriend', not 'husband'.

Anonymous said...

Re: Anonymous' response to 'Cut It'

I thought I was the only one who was Oxytocin-deficient by thinking the same thing.

Maybe the miscarriages give him the comfort that he isn't tied to you (these near-break ups have more consequences if there is a child involved, no?).


Why buy the cow...

bmmg39 said...

Men don't need to be made "like women" because men already ARE like women. Men and women possess equal capacities for love, compassion, violence, and visualization. But men and women are often being told that certain emotions or traits ought to be considered off-limits for them, and so they stifle them as best they can.

Yes, it's a shame too many people cannot accept men for who they are, but it's equally fallacious and insulting to say that a man who DOES show that he's a caring, nurturing human being must be a "feminized male."

bmmg39@aol.com said...

Men don't need to be made "like women" because men already ARE like women. Men and women possess equal capacities for love, compassion, violence, and visualization. But men and women are often being told that certain emotions or traits ought to be considered off-limits for them, and so they stifle them as best they can.

Yes, it's a shame too many people cannot accept men for who they are, but it's equally fallacious and insulting to say that a man who DOES show that he's a caring, nurturing human being must be a "feminized male."

Anonymous said...

When women talk about wanting men to be more sensitive, what they mean is that men ought to be more sensitive to them. But it's not as though women are particularly sensitive to us men. At least, I've met very few women who know what I'm going through, much less are sympathetic to me. And on the rare occasions when I speak out, what I get is a flippant "That's your problem." After which they might as well be saying, "Now back to me and my problems."

One-way sensitivity doesn't strike me as true sensitivity.

M. Report said...

Linda Hamilton prepared for her role
as the Uber-Buff Sarah Conner in T2
by training with a real Special-Ops
type; She stopped after the movie,
because she found, as the Greeks
warned long ago:
'The mask that an actor wears
is likely to become his face.'

Anonymous said...

Women can be far more vicious than men. The one great fear of a tribal captive has always been to be "turned over to the squaws".

Anonymous said...

Maybe it was *just* an experiment?

I've heard of women taking part in experiments when they've been given doses of testosterone.

Maybe they were just seeing if oxytocin in males has the same effect on the XY crowd as it does on the XX crowd?

Susan Walsh said...

A woman will tire very quickly of a man who wants to cuddle longer than she does. This is the last thing that men need. We need to celebrate masculinity and acknowledge that men are different from women. Why not let them experience oxytocin to the degree that their own bodies produce it? They do get the surge during sex, it's just tamped down somewhat by testosterone. Why would we want to mess with that? I believe that if you start manipulating the levels of the hormones that control attraction and attachment, many mismatched suboptimal pairings will result. There is already ample evidence that the pill affects mating behavior in women by suppressing the normal testosterone surge at the time of ovulation. When women marry and go off the pill, they sometimes find that their partner seems less attractive. Helen Fisher of Rutgers has gone so far as to say that they have literally married the wrong man!

Unknown said...

As person who has used oxytocin on dairy cows (when needed) for over 30 years, I have to wonder if they have thought out the potential dangers. We used oxytocin injections (1 1/2 cc in the muscle, .5 cc in the vein) to stimulate milk letdown in cows that wouldn't respond to manual stimulation.

The danger was that the cows would become "addicted", in that they sometimes would never learn to let their milk down naturally without oxytocin. The solution was often to just gradually decrease the amount administered over time, and hope that they would eventually respond naturally. Sometimes, when a cow wouldn't respond to this, I would try just jabbing them with a sharp object, to simulate an injection. (enough to feel like an injection, but not enough to draw blood) Sometimes this would work, but they still had to be poked to stimulate milk letdown, sometimes for the rest of their lives.

I could see the possibility that men exposed to oxytocin in order to stimulate emotional sensitivity may also risk the same "addiction". Possibly, they may find themselves unable to express emotions without a dose of oxytocin. I could see a whole slew of class action lawsuits coming out of that!

Anonymous said...

Stuart:
I would admit that in a crisis one is tempted to hunker down, to withdraw, to wait for the storm to pass. If a hurricane were upon us we would not want to go out to fight it.

80% of success is just showing up!

--Gray

M. Simon said...

The greatest trick the leprechauns ever pulled was convincing people that they don't exist.

The same goes for the FSM.

Anonymous said...

Wait a minute:

This biological warfare.

Is this 5th Generation Warfare in our midst? funded by our own taxes?

What if Stalin announced there was a nose-spray to turn the bourgeois into The New Soviet Men?

Is this a war fought in our hippocompus instead of the streets?

--Gray

Anonymous said...

Everybody relax. They're just experimenting. After all, they need to justify their funds too.

unkawill said...

Cut it,

At the risk of being flippant, Maybe he's just not that into you.

Alan Twelve said...

Did any of you actually read the BBC story? It's about a study into the potential uses of oxytocin in treating behavioural disorders. It has absolutely nothing to do with the scientific community attempting to feminise all the world's men.

Stuart Schneiderman should be ashamed of himself for presenting what is essentially a pack of lies here.

"Why do they take it for granted that male biochemistry is intrinsically maladaptive? Why do they assume that masculine behavior is something like an illness, something to be compared with the kind of social withdrawal they see in autism and schizophrenia? Why do they consider it something that requires treatment?"

I find it hard to believe that you're not being deliberately, disgracefully disingenuous here. It's quite clear that the scientists carrying out the study see autism and schizophrenia as things that require treatment. To present that as them viewing masculinity as something requiring treatment shows you to be either a liar or an idiot.

If you were that much of an idiot, I seriously doubt that you'd have the ability to work in your chosen field. So why are you lying..?

Stuart Schneiderman said...

Sometimes it is best not to take things too literally.

The research does suggest that it is using oxytocin to treat behavioral disorders. And then it names autism and schizophrenia... which, dare I remind you, are not behavioral disorders. They are neurological impairments. And I doubt that anyone thinks that they are psychological disorders either.

How long do you think it will take before these same scientists will discover certain aspects of male behavior to be pathological and to decide that they need to treat them with oxytocin.

Keep in mind that many psychiatric treatments began within very strictly defined clinical parameters and then got prescribed for any one of a number of conditions that they were not designed to treat.

While some children certainly suffer from ADD and ADHD, and therefore do well on Ritalin, how many other children have been prescribed the drug do not really have these problems.

There are many others. It seems that every time a new psychiatric drug is discovered the profession also discovers a large number of new patients who fit the diagnosis.

And also, keep in mind that the purveyors of leftist thought and political correctness also believe that many qualities associated with masculinity are signs of pathology. Do you think that they need more than an excuse and a subterfuge to offer medical treatment for manliness?

Stuart Schneiderman said...

In re: my response to Cut It.
One anonymous commenter noted that the answer to Cut It's dilemma lay in the fact that she referred to her man as her boyfriend and not her husband.

Clearly, that is an important, if not crucial, consideration. I stand corrected for not giving it weight.

Anonymous said...

Look if men rule like women we would have no war or deaths or spread of Nuclear Weapons.

Countess Elizabeth Bathory de Ecsed
Amina
Mary I
Catherine The Great
Golda Meir
Margaret Thatcher
Indira Gandhi

Alan Twelve said...

Stuart. Thanks for the reply.

Sometimes it is best not to take things too literally.

Or, put another way, you've just made a lot of stuff up based on your political allegiance and which has nothing, other than idle speculation, to do with the subject in question.

Your argument is just a weak slippery-slope whine. And this:

And also, keep in mind that the purveyors of leftist thought and political correctness also believe that many qualities associated with masculinity are signs of pathology.

is just meaningless, unsubstantiated sloganeering. Is it that you feel threatened in your capacity as a Life Coach that you feel the need to attack this kind of research? Honestly, when you start to bring up imaginary bogeymen, it's pretty clear you really have no argument. Unless, of course, you can provide us with evidence of these researchers believing that many qualities associated with masculinity are signs of pathology.

Alan Twelve said...

Anonymous:

Look if men rule like women we would have no war or deaths or spread of Nuclear Weapons.

And if anyone was suggesting that men rule like women, or that men should be feminised, or anything even remotely of the sort, you might have a point.

Did you read the BBC article..?

Chuck Pelto said...

TO: M Simon
RE: [OT] Of Leprechauns and Satan and....

The greatest trick the leprechauns ever pulled was convincing people that they don't exist. -- M Simon

....things that go 'bump' in the night.

Never encountered a 'leprechaun'. But I HAVE encountered agents of Satan. They aren't very friendly....at ALL. Unless you're on their side.

Hope that helps....but I have serious doubts....

Regards,

Chuck(le)
[Have you heard about the dyslexic devil-worshipper who sold his soul to Santa?]

P.S. If you want the details, feel free to contact me at my web-site.....www.comensarations.info....

Chuck Pelto said...

TO: Cut It
RE: Perhaps....

....you did enough crying for the both of you. And he felt that SOMEONE had to try to keep their head about them.

We had that in our household.

Again, being formerly of the infantry, we don't have time to grieve in the middle of a fight. We'll grieve when there are less pressing matters.

Hope that helps...

Regards,

Chuck
[Don't lose heart.....they may want to cut it out.]
P.S. Keep trying.....

Anonymous said...

This has all been part of the Science Fiction becomes fact.

Their was the idea of Terra Forming. Where man would create these great machine that could transform a plant atmosphere to make it more habitable for man. Hence we have Global Warming we are doing just not by design. We then have the power to change it.

The next myth in literature is that if men got in touch with there true feelings the world would be better. We would not compete over x. However women who are in touch are very competitive with each other and down right combative of things that they want such as mate or home or children.

Chuck Pelto said...

TO: Anonymous, et al.
RE: Indeed

However women who are in touch are very competitive with each other and down right combative of things that they want such as mate or home or children. -- Anonymous

Don't forget 'sales' tables.

Regards,

Chuck(le)
[The Truth will out....]

Stuart Schneiderman said...

My thanks to Adamtwelve for continuing the discussion. Not so many thanks for his intemperate name-calling.

Anyway, I was reading a piece today in the New York Times on oxtocin, dubbed the moral molecule. If this link does not work, it's in the freakonomics blog.
http://freakonomics.blogs.nytimes.com/2010/05/03/is-there-a-moral-molecule-a-guest-post-from-neuroeconomist-paul-zak/?utm_source=twitterfeed&utm_medium=twitter&utm_campaign=Feed:+FreakonomicsBlog+(Freakonomics+Blog)&utm_content=Twitter

The author, Paul Zak, contends that oxytocin inhibits testosterone and thus, by his lights, makes men more moral.

Apparently he identifies feminine traits with moral traits, and caricatures masculine traits in terms of an unbridled and corrupt tendency to manipulate markets.

Zak does not seem to understand that masculine virtue always involves a goodly quantity of sportsmanship.

Did the financial system because Wall Street bankers did not cuddle enough? Because that is one of the functions of oxytocin?

When Zak says that oxytocin makes us more likely to trust people, that can be good or bad, depending on the person.

If the question is what makes one more trustworthy, then surely, unless you want to caricature men as being hypercompetitive and untrustworthy, the virtue cannot be connected to oxytocin, except by anti-male bias.

I will grant that Zak does not say that what Wall Street bankers need is an added dose of oxytocin, it does not take too much of a jump to arrive at that conclusion.

I would have thought that Adamtwelve would have taken a look at Dr. Helen's blog, for example, where she has been at pains for many years now to demonstrate the extent of anti-male bias in our culture.

Anonymous said...

I would say the real issue here is NOT AT ALL about masculinity or femininity. That is just a red herring.

After all, if they can use one drug to make men more masculine, they can find another to make women more masculine. So there is no question of masculine strengths disappearing from the world, merely the possibility that people born male or female will no longer be shackled by their natal biochemistry. Need to bond with your newborn, read French literature or comfort a grieving spouse? Spray away. Need to take a math test, ask for a raise from your boss, confront a home invader? Spray something else. Why not?

The real is issue is, who controls access to and distribution of drugs that can change your behavior on such a fundamental level?

There are two extreme answers: one, no one should control it, it should be prohibited completely; two, the government should control it. In my opinion, both answers are dangerous, because in one case, you're giving real control of the tech to criminals, and in the other you're giving it to criminals who also administer your tax dollars.

So scary as people may find it, I think individuals are best equipped to decide if and when they want to behave in a more "masculine" or "feminine" manner. I see no reason we should be slaves to our biological bodies, as long as we are not enslaved to someone ELSE's political agenda.

Ornithophobe said...

This idea that women are inherently more sensitive than men is a fallacy. Individually, women possess the same capacities towards love and empathy, as well as aggression and action, that men possess. The difference lies in the realms of their expertise: men fight with fists and weapons, women with words and emotions.

Both genders can fall into the mob mentality, in a group. But in my experience, there is nothing more vicious than a pack of women. Women also arm themselves from a position of privilege- they will use insider knowledge, gleaned from a friendship, to injure their opponents. I've never known a man to do such; they don't typically gossip or slander. Well, straight men, anyway. Gay men can be as much or more vicious than women.

kkollwitz said...

"men fight with fists and weapons, women with words and emotions."

Women deal with people, men deal with Nature.

Ping Jockey said...

"Why can't a man be more like a woman?"
Because the majority of us men were taught/socialized from an early age (usually by our fathers and elder male relatives) to be honest, honorable, virtuous, ethically and morally just, to be humble in victory and steadfast in defeat, and to be forgiving to a defeated and helpless enemy.
Judging the majority of today's women by their actions, I can't honestly admit that I would WANT to be like them.

P.S.
Probably one of the best words of wisdom I have heard are, "Strive to be greater than what you are, but never try to be that which you are NOT."

Chuck Pelto said...

TO: Ping Jockey
RE: BINGO!

Judging the majority of today's women by their actions, I can't honestly admit that I would WANT to be like them. -- Ping Jockey

When asked about my efforts to get 'in touch' with my 'feminine' side, I always reply....

When I want to get 'in touch' with my 'feminine side'....

....I reach out and GRAB her.


She seems to ALWAYS 'appreciate' the attention.

Regards,

Chuck(le)
[God made Man and Woman for each other.

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